Theoritcally, is texting a new girl two days in a row clingy?

[Anonymous]

So there is this girl at college, she's really hot and has been eyeing me, checking me out and holding eye contact and even smiling at me sometimes for few months now, i found her on fb and added her, i said hi whats up, and went from there, exchanged some info with her, joked around, she responded quickly and the messaging seemed pretty balanced (meaning she sent as many messages as me and used lol a lot) , i even told her iam gonna leave her to study cause she has exams and she said that its cool and she's not studying atm, so we kept messaging but an hour later i had to excuse myself out of the chat and told her i will see her around to which she replied "sure sounds good" with a smiling face.

I dk if i should message her another time cause two days in a row sounds too much for someone i haven't even met in person yet...

and my other question : i have no idea if she likes me or not or even wants to meet me and text me, but do you think from the sounds of it like she is attracted to me (even if just a little bit?)

P. S:i texted many girls before, dated, went on dates, and had to deal with many girls that lied to me, so excuse my question if it sounds too weird.

Yes

No

[NinaHasTheAnswer]

Two days in a row definitely isn't clingy.
As long as she is responding quickly and frequently, you're good. But remember! Never start a conversation if you don't have anything to talk about. Don't text her out of boredom! Be creative, but most importantly BE YOURSELF (as cliche as it sounds). It's important to always have a topic to ACTIVELY talk about or joke around. If you feel the dragging, the boredom, if you feel like the chat is dying, END IT! Don't keep texting "just to text her so she replies again".
And don't give it all out in the beginning. Don't tell her EVERYTHING about yourself, even if you feel like you want to. Girls love mystery and mysterious guys. But don't go overboard, it might scare her away (we don't know this girl well).
If she likes you (a lot), she'll be overwhelmed just to get a text from you. But if she's maybe not that into you (yet), she may feel pressed or "choked" by repetitive messages. There's a thin line between "right enough" and "a bit too clingy". But don't worry, two days in a row is nothing!
So, yes, text her two days in a row, but don't forget always to miss out a day after. She HAS TO MISS YOU (your texts), but NOT FOR TOO LONG! Don't wait a week until you text her again, because she will think that you have a ton of other girls to talk to and that she doesn't mean a lot to you. THAT IS NOT GOOD, not good, my friend. Girls like guys that are wanted (yes), but dislike it when this guy sprays flirty attention between these other girls too (keep it in mind).
SO, in conclusion, text her, have fun, be yourself and don't push anything. If you just relax and let things happen, (AND YOU'RE OPEN FOR IT!) they will fall into place. Again, don't push anything. Flirt, but at the same time BE HER FRIEND. You know, "boyfriend" has "friend" in it! And then, mix it with all kinds of messages: sweet, funny, flirty, the "I'm sorry, I'm busy right now", compliments, jokes, you can try the "even flirtier transforming to mild dirty" and see how she responds. If you mix the signals just a little bit, she'll get more attracted to you. If you mix them too much and too obviously, it will turn her off. However, ADD YOURSELF in it! Good luck!
Love you! x

[Asker]

I was once clingy in the past and that made me lose the girl, i changed a lot physically and mentally since then and i can say that right now i have many girls willing to date me, but attraction doesn't work that way usually iam attracted to one or two girls and this girl happens to be one of them, iam a really careless, kinda lazy and laid back guy, messaging her for an hour or two a day is fine with me as long as it builds somekind of connection, i want to talk to her face to face not just on fb and iam better with face to face interactions anyways lol

I ended up not messaging her cause as i said in the past it felt that whenever i messaged a girl 2-3 days in a row she would be less and less interested, and this one i see around campus so this kinda motivates me to talk to her face face and use fb to connect when i can't actually meet her... i hope she likes me and wants to talk to me because iam really tired of girls playing games.

[Asker]

As you said iam being me, i decided that i like me, and girls seem to like me, so iam gonna be me and have fun , if she doesn't like me then... well she doesn't, and the real me doesn't message two days in a row or bombard girls with messages lol, iam kinda introverted and like my alone time ( my parents and relatives think iam actually dating 4-5 girls at the same time, cause there is no way someone like me is single, but iam very picky ) ... so i guess i will see if she truly likes me even if a little bit, if not then... I don't know

by the way nice advice thank you, been a while since someone actually made and actual effort

[NinaHasTheAnswer]

Exactly! You're thinking in the right way. It's important for you to really be who you are, because that's who she needs to fall for anyway, right? If you start by pretending to be someone else, how is that going to unfold? You can't pretend forever. Sooner or later you are going to be you.
And believe it or not, I totally understand you. Because it has happened the same to me! Almost all of the things you wrote, it's like I'm reading myself (I don't know how it's possible but looks like it is). Anyway, face to face interactions are not even close to texting. Try to meet her in real life as soon as possible. But don't underrate texting! It's important for her to know that you're thinking about her and you didn't just forget her.
Also, a good advice; try to put yourself in her position. Imagine that you were liked by a girl named Clara and anything you plan on doing, just imagine that girl Clara doing to you. It's sounds too easy to be true, but trust me, this works!
Love you! x

[Asker]

Yeah thats how i usually am, i take things slowly i try to understand the situation iam in before going further, and in all honesty if she doesn't like what i sound like right now then she won't like me later on cause this is the real me, iam nice, iam respectful, iam kinda straightforward if iam interested in something, i am laid back, chill and funny, and kinda lazy, i think that talking to someone face to face is better than on texting, sure you're right texting shows that iam interested and haven't forgotten about her.

all i can do right now is text her a little more, and try to meet and talk face to face and hope for the best, worst case scenario she starts hating me for no reason or decides i suck, and that i can't control, and it happened before that attractive women showed interest in me but found out they were just leading me on and had no plans whatsoever.

[minasota]

If u texted her every 8 hours it wouldn't be clingy text her whenever you like if u like her. If she likes You she'll be flattered and be happy. Be confident with whatever you do cuz if you doubt yourself she can sense it and may find it cute but just be confident cuz it's attractive but if she like you shyness or confidence won't matter cuz she likes "you"

[Asker]

yeah i agree with you, if i like a girl and she has some flaws that i find unimportant i overlook them and dont care much, but i must admit that a lot of the girls the i've messaged in the past (who all showed a lot of interest in me) at first talk a lot and message back and never let me hanging, so i joke around, try to get to know them, never cross any lines or act like ass but for some reason after day or and out of nowhere i start getting one word replies and sometimes no replies at all, which i find super weird, they are attracted to me, they showed interested, they were happy messaging me and always responded but after a day or two they flip a switch in the mind and suddenly they hate me... i never understood it, how is one day enough to hate a guy who is being nice and genuine?

[minasota]

Honestly the past is the past and if they stop replying that's a they problem not u. If a girl likes h she simply like u so don't let the past hinder your present. Maybe the past just weren't right for u. So focus on the girl I got now. Good luck 🍀

[Asker]

i will , thanks for the advice, i hope you're right and a a girl will not look at all these unimportant details and just like me for me, i never insulted nor annoyed a girl over text and thats just me i am not nice cause i am trying to get something its cause i want them to be nice to me so iam nice to them thats all.

[LittleSally]

No, it's not clingy...
If you feel it's right - go for it, man...
No time to waste.