Would a guy care if his girlfriend models?

[ladyinred1989]

I have been doing small modeling shoots for the past few months and I want to take it a step further. I told my boyfriend about it and every time I talk to him about it he gets all p*ssy and doesn't want to hear me talk about it. HE said he doesn't like the idea of me doing it for a living. Why does it matter and why can't he just support me?> this is something that I really want to give it a shot...

[Anonymous]

I can say that from my experience dating a model that it was very horrible. Most places don't let the boyfriend come inside for the shoot, you are forced to wait outside while various people objectify her. Part of the hurt from the situation comes from the idea that as men we rarely have the option to use our bodies for money and many of us find it very unattractive that she would sell her body for money. It's at that moment we realize she does not wish to share herself fully with us but need the validation of other people outside the relationship to feel comfortable. Especially if we get upset about it, suddenly we become the bad guys because we don't like something. You get called names because you want your partner to share herself with only you and I guess thats now considered wrong and controlling.

[Alex476]

That is so true. At the time I let my girlfriend (now broken up) at the time model and wanted to support her but as time went on i saw her ego get bigger when she only seeked approval from people she barely knew from the modelling scene. My opinion didn't matter no matter how much it hurt watching her sell herself just to make her portfolio for free and she became fully dependant on me because she let bills slide and poured more money into modelling when it wasn't getting her anywere in life. I had a girlfriend that I respected and adored but letting her model ruined her ego and self esteem and I gradually became the bad guy cause she wasn't focusing on her own career when I was working 50 plus hours a week and studying at the same time three nights a week. What made it really annoying was she was getting sexier for the camera than for me. She was selling herself as a sex symbol when she wasn't. I saw the psychological side of things ruin a gorgeous girl and manipulate her self esteemforthemodelindu

[Alimori]

Has she told you she does it to get or to only get validation from others? I don't think men understand, modelling is fun, with all the men in the world gone, I'd still want to do it, even dress up and feel beautiful because I have eyes and I like feeling beautiful and having the experience of modelling

[Alimori]

Having the experience is just enjoying and having fun in life

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to? I mean unless you're getting paid a salary for it, why waste your time? Would you want him to start stripping?

[ladyinred1989]

I am getting paid for it and it pays very well.

[Opinion Owner]

You missed what I wrote.

[ladyinred1989]

You didn't answer the question. Modeling isn't stripping at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Obviously he doesn't want you to do it. He doesn't like it. Ask him why not me. The point I am getting at is why would you not empathize with him? Some girls are kind meant to just model.

[thehandthatrocks]

Agree with this answer because photographers and agencies hold copyrights to the images and they can sell it off without your permission

[TC123]

Yeap, if you do model you don't want to just sign away all your rights to the pictures like a lot of places want girls to do. I've set up shoots for websites (athletic apparel plus other stuff like site logos) and usually pay 50-100$ to the girl I want for whatever photos with the agreement that they will ONLY be used on whatever site it's for, but not everyone does that.

[redcrane]

I think its something a few guys get angry about. They don't like the fact that OTHER MEN are looking at your pictures. He can just picture them saying "Oh that girl is hot. Wonder what she looks like naked" you know? that type of thing. ONLY SOME boys are like that.

He also doesn't like the idea that modeling can change your perspective on things. What if you suddenly become really conceited? What if you suddenly only care about your looks? What if you suddenly start to lose weight and become trapped in this modeling world?

These questions should be considered. He might be just protecting you...from the criticism and everything else he finds insecure of...

[sophsoph]

Hey girl, if modeling is your passion and you want to achieve it as a more full time job or even a permanent career, don't let anyone stop you! I can understand why some parents, friends, or partners would worry since the industry is very harsh and has a lot of sketchy disadvantages (traveling alone all the time, too busy to come home, self-conscious to stay thin etc). but as long as you talk to your loved ones and you tell them you want to obtain a healthy lifestyle (psychologically, physically, emotionally) and you express your ambition... THEY CAN'T STOP YOU. If your BF still is unsupportive then.. he is not doing a good job of being your partner. ...

[TornApart]

my ex thought it was awesome, but after a while, he got jealous. I have modeled for about 3 years, and sometimes it can ruin a relationship

[Anonymous]

If you're not doing anything nude and you aren't going to random photoshoots done by craigslist weirdos or something I don't see what his problem is. Does he come with you to the shoots? If not maybe take him along and see if he gets over whatever issue he has with it.

[snackeyg]

You have to ask him not us. Most likely he doesn't like his girl friend showing off he wants you to himself. Does the modeling go less than normal clothes? Bikini, underwear, etc. If not it's pretty dumb for him to be whiny about it.

[ladyinred1989]

I have done a few bikini shoots but it wasn't anything provocative

[RainyDayMan74]

I don't see the problem. I'd be very proud to say that my girlfriend was a model.