Am I wrong for not dating "nice guys"? (Page 2)
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Anyone that says yes to this is a real fucking cunt. If you don't feel attraction you don't feel attraction. And they're going to have to get over it. I've been through it over and over again and it's a real childish mindset for them to think you owe them something just cause they're nice. You'll find out who the real friends are when you make it clear nothing will ever happen. I've had a lot of girls that once we had that final talk we weren't really close anymore. I think I've only had one that I am willing to put up with the constant self loathing I feel when I talk to her because it's worth the sadness to still have her in my life in any variety.
I mean if you cringe and feel repulsed you need to be honest and say so you are putting them in a situation the would never want to be in and that will hurt. them. to know but hurt them a lot more to know in 3 more years im not saying you have too all most truly good guys want is a chance, for you to try to. get to know us and allow us to get to know you I voted yes because i would be pissed if i make you feel that way and you didn't tell me so i kept doing like an asshole i would feel like an asshole you are not wrong you feel how you feel and can't help that you are not attracted but you didn't set honest boundries with them and let it go on so its. hard. for both of you now for the truth to. come out dont say cringe and repulsed say uncomfortable they will be much less hurt and get the sam general idea you gave them a chance good men only ask for that a chance to make you theirs and us yours does not mean it works out
You are wrong. Nice guys like me
- Will love you and support you
- Will never have a bad word to say about you
- Will work our butts off to make sure you have a comfortable stress free life
- Will make you smile when you’re down
- Will give you our jacket when you’re cold
And above all, nice guys like me will always be there for you, no matter how you treat us. Why won’t girls like you give us a chance?
I hope your aware of that you give signals of in that text is little creepy even for me as a man.
Fuck off, you don't believe that.
It's not that "we" 'won't give guys like you a chance.' Actually, that's a pretty assumptious thing to say and is generally rude. Most of nice, kind guys have girlfriends/boyfriends. At the same time, plenty of assholes don't. What really plays a part is physical/romantical attraction. Just because a few nice guys aren't 'given a chance' doesn't mean everyone else is.
@Fern_Song Yeah, it means they're pussies, or ugly.
Was I too subtle? 🙈
You don't even remotely resemble a nice guy.
@Cosytoasty Too subtle? Really? I don't think you were subtle enough, frankly. Like @ChronicThinker said, you don't even sound like anywhere near a nice guy. Eff off, dude.
@Fern_Song Oh stop having your period kid, he's fucking with you.
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A nice person aren't needy or wine that the counterpart won't give them a chance, get walked all over, take shitt, do things to get somethin, or for that matter consider them selves as nice person.
They just are nice and behaves accordingly with character.
@crazy8000 Can you say that again, this time in the Queen's English?
@ChronicThinker Why?
@crazy8000 Because the shit you just spewed was deplorable grammar and punctuation wise so I couldn't take it even half-seriously.
@ChronicThinker I decline the invite to the pie throwing contest.
Good luck with somebody else ;P
This is amazing
@crazy8000 Sweetie, you couldn’t handle me in any capacity.
@ChronicThinker If you say so 😒
Thanks for the compliment 😊
Your pretty easy to read and predict, therefore very easy to control/handle 😴
Apart of that.
See no meaning in participating in nonsense communication (PUA games, shit-tests).
I give you a chance!
Date who you want, but don't start complaining about not being able to find a decent guy when you're consciously choosing to date jerks.
It shows that you are into guys who are bad not good that will change eventually but not soon because good guys are the ones that will stay falling in love with a bad guy will always be the cause for heart break and trust issues and no loyalty but I’m just a 16 year so I don’t know anything but I’m a Nice Guy and girls like me because that’s who I am and if they don’t they flat out say I don’t like nice guys I like bad boys But the difference between those 2 types of guy Is that the bad boy is immature the good guy is well matured intelligent and caring while bad boys don’t care for you they want to fill their sexual desires by using you and abusing you then leaving and fucking another girl
It's understandable girls of your age (since I'm a girl myself) I assume up to 26-27 prefer "bag guys" your waste time chasing after bad guys and wondering why when what.. talking with their girlfriend "he did this I did this he said this I said that... " wasting their time being hurt and questioning what if---?
But once that phase is over girls want to chill down relax find a guy any guy who loves them and is kind to get married and have kids and will live the normal life.
I know what OP means I was once like that I got tired of it I ended up being more heartbroken than happy then I realized life is short I need to find someone who is good , mature , nice , kind , caring... because I'm going to spend my life with him and have kids with him!
I am married now to a good guy, he is very bright too and so much into business and money flying in my face right away when I ask him.
My point is : I am happy
So in other words "I got dicked down by a bunch of jerks when I was in my 20s, then leeched off some ugly dude who gives me lots of money once my looks began to fade."
At least you're spreading the word about how unattractive it is to be "super sweet and supportive and appreciative " to help guys who didn't know better to grow up!
Lads, listen and learn!
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I don't think they deserve the "nice guy" title just because they fit that description. A lot of the "nice guys" people tend to talk about tend to be rather unnattractive guys that don't seem to have qualities that make them stand out very much, and they're probably rather passive than just genuinely nice.
No, you're not wrong. In fact, I feel good someone is willing to step outside that box and not feel like they need to settle. Don't settle.
For me, it would an insult if a girl decided to settle for me. I'd rather better myself than have a girl out of some form of pity.
i️ have the same problem... guys with not greatest looks sometimes have the coolest personality... you think when ur not with them at first oh yeah i️ mean they aren’t that bad looking i’ll be fine and then u hang with them again and ur like omg ew like u notice a whole bunch of things u never noticed before because u were just seeing him as a friend
No you are not wrong at all, at least not in my opinion :-)
You see if a guy is too nice, no matter how attractive he may be, he can come accross as too feminine... i personally believe that a man should always be more masculine and women more feminine, so guys can be nice, but shouldn’t mother anyone :-)
I think you asked two very diffrent questions. The first question was are you wrong for not dating nice guys, which is why i clicked into the topic. I would hope you never date a guy thats not nice to you as in rude or violent towards you. And the second question that i think you asked indirectly is if you should date guys you dont feel an attraction towards, and my answer for that is no. I dont think that if you do not feel any attraction towards someone thats it, now that may change who knows, but if you dont think its right then... its not... and you will find out if they are truly nice or if it was a facade to try to get you.
I like to think i am a nice guy, and have had this happen before... long story short i am still frends with this girl and we still hang out its not awkward it is what it is. Thats in my opinion what a nice guy should do be your friend, if things change then they do and if not they dont.
I think the trouble is if it’s the act of a guy being nice to you that repulses you because eventually you might end up getting hurt if the opposite is a guy who won’t treat you right. It sounds a little like you feel undeserving of the nice things a guy says or does for you or that it’s cringe that a guy might say nice things to you because you don’t believe them. It must be deeper than attraction because not all nice guys are ugly.
Nothing is wrong with how you feel.
It means you do not fancy or have a type for the person but you should not be bothered by this.
It takes a while til you end up feeling you like someone and it is something you do not force yourself to feel, it happens naturally, let it be and just enjoy your day to day til you feel into someone if not now surely in the future.
Never force yourself, things like that fall naturally
After all you know and hold what makes you happy
No, you aren't wrong. But expect no sympathy if you find yourself craving one of those nice guys later on in life when there'll inevitably be a short supply of them (they'll already be in relationships what with being nice guys). To each their own. :)
Ugh... You're gonna be one of those old hoes who's going to get fucked by a million jerks and then complain about the fact that "all men are jerks" and "no man wants me" by the time you're 30. My mom's best friend was just like you.
It's your life your choice and you can't 100% choose what you're attracted to, some of this does in fact have to do with primal instincts. I'd recommend however analyzing why you can't be attracted to people who actually treat you decently, it's going to be a lonely life for you more than anything. Typically girls (as well as guys) like that have daddy issues/emotional trauma.
It's good to have a balance between nice and a liiitle bit bad, or would you really rather date an asshole?
Im not sure why you're bringing up the niceness though when that isn't what the issue seems to be. If you met a very good looking nice guy you'd most likely be physically attracted to him and like the niceness?
A bunch of fat girls are still a bunch of fat girls... I'm not going to try to make my dick hard for a body that makes me cringe just because she's nice to me... she's not going to shame me with some sort of fat acceptence guilt trip either nor anybody else for that matter.
My point is, neither I nor yourself is obligated to want sex from other for something as frivoulous as them treating us nice.
Your title should instead be "Should I date guys whom I'm not initially attracted to? Otherwise, it sounds like you're saying you're not attracted to nice guys at all. So effectively saying you like the bad guys but want to force yourself into liking nice guys. The song says it best "the heart wants what it wants" by Selena Gomez
Well I mean... you're basically admitting that you over prioritize looks and don't give a damn about personality, so it's up to you whether or not you're comfortable with that.
Also you can become attracted to people over time, co-workers experience this as well as people in arranged marriages. You may one day really fall for one of them. Nobody can say, but just be true to yourself and best wishes regardless.
As much as I want to vote "Yes" to this, I voted no for two reasons:
1) I don't believe that attraction to someone is something you can control (nor can they)
2) If you aren't physically attracted to them, then I believe you would eventually leave them for someone more attractive or cheat on them, and break their hearts.