Am I wrong for not dating "nice guys"? (Page 3)

Question

A few guys are super sweet and supportive and appreciative of me, and I would date them, but the problem is that I don't feel any physical attraction for them whatsoever. It's not because they're nice, but because I am just not physically attracted. I have known them for some time. I try to make myself feel attracted, but every time they touch me or compliment me, I cringe and feel repulsed. Am I wrong for feeling like this? Is there any way to make myself become attracted to them?

feargal12 · Answer

I don't really think you should be labeling guys like that you should try dating a guy for the reason that if I get along with him as a person or not. The fact that he is a good guy or a so called bad guy shouldn't enter into anything to do with dating. Open your mind a little and don't be so narrow minded

HandsomeGuy500 · Answer

You're not alone. Most women find it very hard to be attracted to men. Men and women are just very different when it comes to physical attraction. I have no idea why God made these differences but it's just a fact, women don't find men that attractive. I guess we'll just have to live with it.

brocklee · Answer

I don't think bad or nice has anything to do with this.. it is an attraction issue. You can't assume you are not attracted to nice guys based on a couple that are currently present in your life.

Ghost_Woof · Answer

This is the age old mystery. Women who like "bad boys" usually had a harsh father. So they want a nice guy but he doesn't feel like daddy and they lose interest.

ChaseParker · Answer

No, I mean nice guys are good. And you want a man that's nice, but most "nice guys" are too sweet in their approach.

AbdKilani · Answer

So, are you talking about physical attraction?
Is it linked with looks or just pure personality?
If it is, then you shouldn't because obviously you want a more hostile dominant ( in every aspect) guy!

saud1998 · Answer

No it’s your decision. Do you. But don’t complain when you keep getting played.

Astoriana · Answer

You don’t have to (and shouldn’t be obligated to) date someone just because they want to date you.

Anonymous · Answer

No, this is quite the norm. Nice guys finish last - Meaning "loser". Who wants to fuck a loser. And they're usually broke af as well which is always a negative. Unforunately because of this pathetic situation girls have less to choose from. Now guys on the other hand have plenty because 99% of girls are assholes and dick heads. Making it easier for the right guy to smash and dash.

Cmasterson · Answer

Nice guys aren't always physically unattractive ;) most of them as you get older are just tired of being shitheads lol

JimRSmith · Answer

If you're not attracted to them, you shouldn't feel any obligation whatsoever to date them.  No brainer.

hrhahmad · Answer

It's just your ancient instincts, woman who wants to be oppressed. Treated bad and slapped around; that sexually charges you.

Ryry97 · Answer

Are you sure it’s always because they’re not attractive? There’s a lot of nice guys who are attractive too. You may just feel that their niceness makes them less attractive

xHeyUx · Answer

There is nothing wrong with not dating someone you are not attracted to. Perhaps it has nothing to do with nice or not?

liarenae · Answer

No this isn't wrong, I've felt like this to a certain degree. You gotta do what makes you happy. For me, some nice guys dont have enough backbone for me.

chives · Answer

date who ever the fuck you want, if i found out you dated me out of pity i would never speak to you again yuck!!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If you said you dont date nice guys in general, I would say you're wtibg. But you're simply not dating people you're not into and that's perfectly OK.

Buckzor · Answer

Nope you're completely in the right here. You need physical attraction, it's just as important as being attracted to personality.

owens97 · Answer

no but just don't complain like others and say i can never find a nice guy and u will be good

Revanaintplayin · Answer

Nope by human nature girls aren't supposed to be attracted to "nice guys" we are supposed to be confident and dominant so thats proably what you're attracted to, where as the "nice guy" is a product of our current society

Shyngo · Answer

You just need to find someone who fire you up both up your head and down there. Keep looking and having fun till then you find the right one

glitter_unicorns24 · Answer

I mean, you really can't help who you like, but you're more likely to get hurt with a dick than a sweet guy.

Naxwi · Answer

There is no wrong to what you are attracted to (okay there are some that if you act on them it is, but you get my point).

Anonymous · Answer

Just because a guy is nice... that on itself is a trait of many he should have. It doesn’t mean girls will automatically worship him at his feet. It’s a simplistic and childish way to think (this is for the men that think women don’t date nice guys)

Deydey12345 · Answer

I voted no.. Since more for me!! You take the bad :))) more for you.

Markasaurous · Answer

Why aren't you attracted to them? What is different with them and a mean/normal guy? What is the difference, I am just trying to understand

WhereAmI · Answer

Alcohol works. lol Is it their behavior that's a turn off or their looks? Some women sub-consciously prefer to be treated like crap.

thomascale18 · Answer

Let me guess. You're attracted to the bad boys who treat you like shit.

Commander_Red · Answer

Physical attraction and personality go hand in hand. Don't settle for one over the other. Always want both. If a "nice guy" were nice, they would move on and not be a jerk about it.

sp33d · Answer

Not wrong, but perhaps a bit bimboish. Whatever, you like whom you like. You're not supposed to like "nice guys". Maybe you're on your "bad boy" phase. A strange question, at any rate.

WallA · Answer

No. You aren’t in the wrong. If a guy needs to declare himself a ‘nice guy’ then he’s trying to entitle himself so he doesn’t need to go for you himself. Figured that out not too long ago.

hellacray · Answer

You definitely shouldn't force it.  Without seeing what these guys look like it's hard to tell. I mean who knows I might think they look alright and your standards are too high.

THESquirrel · Answer

Make it clear thete isn't hell try a few out in bed they might change ur mind but they could fiss a point too butat least theyed giveu all they got and ud see what the dicks out there can't ever give u

baddiebunny · Answer

There’s no such thing as ‘ nice guys ‘ date someone you are attracted to and is good to you

Anonymous · Answer

No. Nothing wrong in not being attracted to a particular nice guy.

If you're not attracted to all the nice guys then maybe there's an issue. George Clooney is a nice guy. You get the point.

Anyway, it's your loss. :P

abc3643 · Answer

Why do you feel not attracted to them? The next question is what kind of guy do you find attractive?

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I like nice guys but guys that are too nice are a turn off

madgoat · Answer

Yes and no. You can afford to be choosy right now. When you've been burned by bad guys once or twice, and matured, you may feel differently.

JLoKazami · Answer

You just haven’t met or found the right person yet. It’s fine for that to happen.

MackToday · Answer

There must be a reason why you're repulsed. They may be nice but something else is probably wrong there.

CasaNorba · Answer

no because the majority of the time "nice guys" aren't "nice" at all. they just pretend to be nice hoping to be rewarded later on

QCpress · Answer

we need more info than this. like what do they look like compare the bad boys that you like?

CharlieP123 · Answer

Probably best not to force anything. You like who you like and if you force it you'll just end up in a relationship that you don't want to be in.

Guanfei · Answer

You date whoever you want, it's your own tastes. As long as you deal with the consequences and don't come after to say that "all men are pigs" or whatever.

Sixgun77 · Answer

There's no reason for anyone to date someone they're not physically attracted to. Hold out for someone you're attracted to AND has a personality that turns you on.

Cellestial · Answer

No you can't force yourself to love or do something you don't like, also you're not interested to them because you're not into them physically not because they're being nice which is normal

Rosewanda · Answer

No, you're not wrong. You just don't like them. You can't make yourself like someone. You haven't found the right guy yet.

Evan_aa · Answer

You like what you like so own it girl it’s 2018!!! 💞💞💞🌸

savalisk · Answer

The choice is yours. I don't know how you define a "nice guy" but you do you boo.

NoOneSuspicious · Answer

It's not wrong, physical attraction is very important

shy_awkward_guy · Answer

I am a nice guy. Too shy and awkward for everyone else.

ImTheFMan · Answer

You want an alpha male but they tend to be ass hats. What cruel world we live in...

Anonymous · Answer

you want the naughty stuff we get that. or at least until you hit the wall and find the nice guy provider.

dizmuhjam · Answer

The day will come and you'll find a guy Thats nice and physically attractive to you.

irrationally97 · Answer

It's a real shame that you don't like them as much as you cringing when they compliment you, but really there's nothing you can do about it.

smølf · Answer

You need both physically attraction and the guy being nice, it's not nice and ugly but nice vs bad but attractive.

LadyAvon · Answer

It depends on how important sex is to you and them. If sex isn't that important to you I'd marry someone who you're emotionally attracted to.

IDKwhoim · Answer

chill u don't need to date them just because they are nice just don't date the guy who doesn't make u happy

Marinepilot · Answer

You're a fucking flaky ass moronic ninny. Like most women who want the bad boys, Karma will bit your ass for rejecting nice guys. I hope it destroys a woman like you.

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