Personally I find nerdy/geeky guys most attractive for long term relationships or good conversations.
As a geeky girl, I've never really been into the fuck boy type guys who are usually not very smart nor very kind. I've never understood the girls who are interested in that kind of guy because usually they cheat, get angry too easily, and do really dumb stuff all the time which sometimes leads to them being arrested.
However, many men who identify as nerds or whatever tend to have this "I'm better than you" attitude which is a really big turn off. They have a weird mixture of superiority and inferiority complexes. They have the whole "I have this high of an IQ and know this many facts about this subject blah blah" personality and tend to interrupt or talk over people a lot, or don't respect the opinions of women.
That's probably the biggest reason why people don't take nerdy types seriously is because of the guys like that.
Honestly though, I don't really care what a for does as long as he bathes, isn't dumber than my cat, and is kind. As long as he's a good man and does good things, he's a good catch.
Being nerdy is definitely an attractive quality. Intelligence is appealing because if you are clever and witty, you are more likely to be able to problem-solve and be helpful. I think this still holds true today. Perhaps "nerdy" is not the defining quality you should be concerned about. "Lame" on the other hand, can mean a lot of things. It's a very general term but I'm guessing it has to do with a lack of spontaneity and being fun, as other comments have mentioned. Maybe you could try presenting yourself as a little more interesting? You don't have to necessarily stand out in a crowd, but it's definitely useful to have extra quirks and uniqueness about you.
Most girls don't necessarily prefer fuckboys, but they don't like guys who are no fun either. I'm not saying be a party-hardy douche bag, but if all you wanna do is stay home and do nothing, have no hobbies and can't laugh or have at least A drink with me then yeah, we likely won't get along. I'm down with nerdism unless it gets socially awkward and introverted.
Apparently, never any of the women I've ever known; at least, not with me. Some supposedly do, as I have a friend who is married to someone who is a huge geek (they both are).
But maybe I just know a lot of shallow girls. There's not a lot of nerdy women in my area.
Girls have been attracted to me (sort of), but only because they thought I had lots of money that I would give them. Once they figured out that I didn't have a huge amount of money, and wouldn't always be giving them expensive stuff, they were done. So in a way, they were more attracted to the money than me.
Being "nerdy" doesn't have the same connotation anymore. The images brought up weren't the same as they were when I was younger.
All you have to do is go one Geek&Sundry youtube channel or Twitch. All these "attractive" girls on there acting they are oh so nerdy wearing crop tops and their boobs hanging out.
Before, nerds and geeks were the outcasts with horrible sense of style, big glasses, and were shunned by everyone in the school. Now it's "cool" to be nerdy. And all these people claim to be nerds when they aren't at all.
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What jumps out at me is that you describe yourself as reserved. One of the things most women agree is attractive is fun guys. I. e. the opposite of reserved. So the problem is not your ambition, your car, your hygiene, your body - those are all plusses. The problem is that you are not fun to be around. You can change that by hanging out with fun people, taking improv comedy classes, or doing this exercise : Ask yourself two questions: What was least funny? What was most funny? Do the exercise a couple of times before bedtime. It might help you get a sense of what you find unfunny and what you find funny, which could help you inject fun into your conversations.
I don't mind a guy who is a little nerdy but mostly I like a masculine man, Im from texas and grew up on ranches all my life around ex military men, I like a strong cowboy, my husband fits all those bills but he still very much has a nerdy side, I think there needs to be a good balance
That's mean there's something wrong with those girls who are living around you, or you only have IQ not EQ. You mentioned that you dress well and you drive nice car, right! These things are not important sometimes I go to school and I don't even see my face at mirror, but I'm sure many girls get attracted to me, but I don't care about them, because I don't like them. However, money or clothes are not the tool of attraction, being attraction starts when you have pure heart, so people loves you...
There's a lot to explain, goodbey ☻
I absolutely hate fuckboys. i cringe when I see them and have never gotten the hype with them even as a teenager.
One of the first things I notice about a guy is high intelligence and how well he presents himself and respects others. If you are a guy like that oh I'd prefer to date you over any of those other 'bad boys ' any day.
Sometimes. Nerdy, toned and handsome guys are the best
I was in that same boat for a while. What i eventually figured out was that i just needed to be a little more assertive and aggressive. Plus if she doesn't want an ambitious guy, she's probably not the best option long term. So not what you seem to look for anyway
I like both. The nerdy ones as you say are more long term for me. Basically nerdy/geeky is relationship worthy and fuck boys are hit em and quit em
Fuck boys are good to have a good time you know, but i don't think i would marry a guy like that, I would prefer one more like your type.
We find good smart mannered guy sexy and intersting. But we want unctimacy with a guy who makes us feel sexy and make us feel wanted.
Nerds could be fun. You just have to ask yourself: are you the fun nerd or a boring nerd?
I've always preferred "nerdy" guys to guys who aren't "nerdy"
Fuckboys need to be exterminated from existence. I actually prefer nerdy guys, I'm actually crushing on one badly at the moment.
I personally don’t like super bad boys, so yeah I guess I’d go for a nerd, depending if I’m attracted to them :)
It's just the women you're associating with. They aren't attracted to you, while others will be.
I mean, it usually isn't my type personally but plenty of girls like that.
i never have, i always fall for the wrong guys but i could never fall for a nerdy guy & believe me I have tried
I love nerds own it honey, a smart guy is like awesomely hott lol
Depends on your personality. I & many others bright, funny & open-minded guys, whether you're nerdy or not.
nah girls want a project. you have everything going for you already
they can't "fix" you
Sure they do. It was however, a big trend in 2017 though, so it's died down a bit.
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