Why does it seem like women don't really have any hobbies?

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In my flailing attempts at finding a girlfriend, I've tried to develop friendships and connections with women, the same way I would with male friends; through the use of shared interests. I have a number of hobbies, some of which are also quite popular with women (hiking, cooking and cinema, for example). What I have noticed recently though, is that many women don't really seem to have hobbies. Like they don't have activities that they do, just because they enjoy doing them. Like I was talking with one girl, and I asked what she liked to do for fun, and she said that she liked hanging out with her friends. So I reply something along the lines of, "that's cool, how do you like to spend an evening together," and she tells me that they'll go the mall or to a house party or something.

There are A LOT OF GIRLS WHO SAY THINGS LIKE THIS.

Am I just running into the boring ones or something? Why does it seem like women have such few hobbies?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Immediate response to the question... because they don't have hobbies outside of anything attached to getting or maintaining male attention. (You can probably tell I've thought about this a lot)

... Now I'll read the meat. lol wow, crazy how I think you're about to hit the same conclusions I have. What defines a friendship is a 'common mutual interest' which is what binds them. I don't find the exchange of sex for attention or things that money buys as a common interest (tell that to the next 'nice guy' that pretends to be your friend ladies... I bet you he's just trying to get laid and not really be your friend).

On top of all that women seem to be motivated by very different agendas. Males for instance will play a looter video game for hours on end... just for the in game loot. But when I see females even touching video games, it tends to be a media spectacle of some sort (youtube/twitch/and so on) with followers reaching far beyond anything that's needed to play the game. I mean seriously... the only times my messages blow up is by women and children and I AM NEVER THE ONLY PERSON ON THAT SEND LIST, I'm like one of hundreds.

So again I see a pattern to obtain or maintain male attention... even with something as mundane as video games.

I could keep going with examples like cheating females... If she has a sudden interest and you're not involved or an active member of that interest, you can bet your ass some guy is in the woodwork. Something as simple as the yoga instructor in GTA5 is pretty much such a common example that pretty much anyone can grasp what I'm talking about here. The interest in any hobby always has the male part involved... otherwise they bicker with each other, get catty, gossip, and fight... with each other.

So to come full circle... makeup, shopping, fashion, parties, social events... notice how they're all attached to obtaining or maintaining the male interest. It's always in some way attached to that even when us men think their interests is peeked with something along the lines of what peeks our interests.

dantetheexplorer · Accepted Answer

I think it's just the type of women you hang out with. I know plenty of women who enjoy things like cooking (creatively), going for hikes, rock climbing, sports, sailing, saving the environment, volunteering, painting, etc. To me, women with some interests outside "just hanging" are a lot more interesting than those without. I remember meeting a lady who was really into rock climbing such that she even train on one-handed climbs. To me, seeing someone do something that they're good at, something that they became good at because they were willing to dedicate time and energy and passion to their craft - that's very, very impressive.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

You are so funny Mr Winter, you answered your own question in your first sentence..."the same way I would with male friends". The world a girl lives in and the world a guy lives in are totally different. You can not try to relate to her as you do with guys. The vast majority of girls are into relationships, not hobbies like guys. You have to be interested in things like "how she feels" and "what she thinks" about things. Take a personal interest in her mind. She is not into "things" and "projects" like boys are, she wants to know that you care about her world, whatever it is, which is mostly relational and psychological, but not material, as that is last on most girls lists, unless they're gold diggers, except to know that the guy she would pick could take care of her and her children when it's time for that. Once she knows you are interested in her and how she thinks and feels, than she will take an interest in the things that interest you more. Remember next time when you are talking to a girl, you are not talking to "just another male friend". Good luck Mr Winter :)

Tiffers2154 · Accepted Answer

You definitely have a type. There are PLENTY of girls out there who have hobbies. I love to paint and draw... Even tho I'm not good at them. Its for ME. it relaxes ME. I love to cook. I'm told im a great cook. I love traveling and hiking. Film is a hobby of mine. I love finding that obscure Indy film that was never mainstream because the acting is raw, the writing is perfect, and the score is natural. My best friends hobby has always been writing, and she has her first novel coming out Tuesday. She has a full time job-she wrote a book on the side and it took her a couple of years but she loves the process. My other best friend absolutely lives for anything nature, and she even has a fashion blog for the upscale and the down to earth.
Get away from your niche. We are out there.

Lavenderella · Accepted Answer

I'm sure girls have hobbies but there's no time in this century. Everyone is busily working, catching up with friends' life which need to forgo some activities to enjoy their hobbies. I always pack my days with activities which I forgo some sleeping time. My fav ones are reading, gym & running!

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think that means THEY’RE boring. More you don’t have any similar interests in common. I’m an outdoorsy type so I’ll get into anything adventurous. So yeah you must be choosing ones based on other things besides common hobbies and interests. That’s down to you to fix because there are plenty of varied people out there.

OjosOscuros2 · Answer

Ain’t nobody got time for hobbies. I personally prefer to build and nurture relationships because they are more fulfilling.

GamingArtist · Answer

I've noticed that also, they like what they like i guess. but its alright i have many hobbies so if they want they can join me.

Anonymous · Answer

They do, just boring ones like make up and hair etc. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy that too but most of the time I’d rather be outdoors doing something active or sporty - thank god for my guy friends.

linds34 · Answer

It's true, a lot of people don't really have any interests, I don't think it's just women though.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm the same way lol I literally just don't have time. Work, study and going out to events takes up my whole week 😢

Lance1965 · Answer

I have noticed most women don't have many hobbies if any apart from doing the usual things that everyone does.

Desconhecida · Answer

You need to meet more interesting girls

NovissimumVirorum · Answer

@Hapinus @Kandy-Kane hobbies?

Kandy-Kane · Answer

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