Hi folks, a girls advice is much appreciated.
I'll explain first what happened, and please, try not to hate me for what I did :) I met my girlfriend...23, and me 33. We both are very social, love to party and like to do the same things. Age was never an issue. We lived together basically when we met...just kinda happened. This was for about 2.3 yrs. As I say though, she had her life and I had mine and in-between we had "our" life together. Coming to the end it was me who was getting kinda edgy, and because of work and lots of other things I was stressed to the max and took it out on her. I mean I never hit her was just a right plonker. And I did this a few times. I then asked her to pack her bags and move out and give me space.
So she did...but she also ended it with me! Now I did not expect this and well yea, I admit I took this girl for granted.
I mean, she gave me her everything emotionally, always talked about the future...what we'd do, planning moving place together, holidays...she really loved me and I just took it all for granted.
Anyway, after she ended it I "tried" to win her back doing the usual nonsense and it didn't work...it's been two months now. The problem is we both haven't moved on...we both don't see ourselves being with someone else and we both still do things such as shopping, walks and what not. The irony is we're having a really nice time of it too! Like better than before. But she doesn't tell anyone we meet and she doesn't tell me anything.
I popped the question "so, would you like to try again..." which resulted in an argument. I realized after that moment that I really must have hurt this girls feelings really bad.
She says a lot of things but her actions are always the opposite. I'll be honest and not put her on a pedestal but she is genuinely one of the most loving, caring and warm hearted girls I have been with to date! All of my family love her, all my friends love her and anyone who meets her just takes to her. She is 100% down the line with honesty and I do believe her when she says "she doesn't know"...and I am 110% certain I am not being used as an emotional crutch but I am VERY confused and really don't know what I can do. Let go? I mean...to me its like we really do love each other but can't let go and she can't come back because of fear of the same nonsense happening again.
Anyone here enlighten me into what might be going through her wee head and how she might be feeling?
By the way, I try to keep talk of "us" out of conversation when we do meet...and I genuinely feel, and see that she has feelings for me. its just so very weird. we never really ask each other about our social lives but we both kinda drop hints, she would often do that...hints like we're not seeing anyone and haven't been since we broke up.
Thanks
I'll explain first what happened, and please, try not to hate me for what I did :) I met my girlfriend...23, and me 33. We both are very social, love to party and like to do the same things. Age was never an issue. We lived together basically when we met...just kinda happened. This was for about 2.3 yrs. As I say though, she had her life and I had mine and in-between we had "our" life together. Coming to the end it was me who was getting kinda edgy, and because of work and lots of other things I was stressed to the max and took it out on her. I mean I never hit her was just a right plonker. And I did this a few times. I then asked her to pack her bags and move out and give me space.
So she did...but she also ended it with me! Now I did not expect this and well yea, I admit I took this girl for granted.
I mean, she gave me her everything emotionally, always talked about the future...what we'd do, planning moving place together, holidays...she really loved me and I just took it all for granted.
Anyway, after she ended it I "tried" to win her back doing the usual nonsense and it didn't work...it's been two months now. The problem is we both haven't moved on...we both don't see ourselves being with someone else and we both still do things such as shopping, walks and what not. The irony is we're having a really nice time of it too! Like better than before. But she doesn't tell anyone we meet and she doesn't tell me anything.
I popped the question "so, would you like to try again..." which resulted in an argument. I realized after that moment that I really must have hurt this girls feelings really bad.
She says a lot of things but her actions are always the opposite. I'll be honest and not put her on a pedestal but she is genuinely one of the most loving, caring and warm hearted girls I have been with to date! All of my family love her, all my friends love her and anyone who meets her just takes to her. She is 100% down the line with honesty and I do believe her when she says "she doesn't know"...and I am 110% certain I am not being used as an emotional crutch but I am VERY confused and really don't know what I can do. Let go? I mean...to me its like we really do love each other but can't let go and she can't come back because of fear of the same nonsense happening again.
Anyone here enlighten me into what might be going through her wee head and how she might be feeling?
By the way, I try to keep talk of "us" out of conversation when we do meet...and I genuinely feel, and see that she has feelings for me. its just so very weird. we never really ask each other about our social lives but we both kinda drop hints, she would often do that...hints like we're not seeing anyone and haven't been since we broke up.
Thanks
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and I care for her VERY much...its not all black and white. Never is. It's easier to hurt the ones you love than those you don't care much for at all.
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