Harming yourself, slashing or cutting yourself?

[Mroz75]

Its a real question that always kept me wondering why! Why do people sometimes tend to cut their hands or arms or even thighs, what makes you do that like how do you feel or think about before, during, and after doing it.
Every one can overcome their problems or depression by a way or another.
Thanks for the brave persons that will talk!

[LuvNiahh]

I never self harmed myself, I have thought of doing so many times especially this past year. Depression is no joke dealing with your own negatively in your mind is so powerful in a not so good way. When I felt like cutting myself i wanted to do so because I wanted to be in control of my own pain, because then pain that I was dealing with broke me it led to me having no control of my mind. From some people it's a way to release every thing but I never went through because I didn't want to look down at my body and see the evidence that I inflicted even more pain to myself. If you don't have depression then you have no right to speak on it and say that "we are attention seekers" because believe me when i say this... When people hear that you have depression and suicidal thoughts they leave you alone even those who were your "friends". Depression is a serious illness that takes over ones mind and body, more and more people now a days have depression and are becoming more open about it. For that one people who said that " it's usually just teenage girls seeking attention " you have no idea what's its like to wake up in sweat because your having a nightmare about your dad beating you or someone who used to be a friend of yours but suddenly he turned into a monster when took advantage of your body. Try not being able to sleep, not being to eat because everything taste bitter you no longer have appetite only for it to last for months so you lose weight become weak fragile almost. Can barely be around people without breaking down! Until then go fuck yourself you have no idea what's it like facing your inner demons.

[Mroz75]

Thank you for sharing such a deep answer :)

[Shar279]

I've done it and regret it. It wasn't even deep but the scars are still there and I'm ashamed of it. In that moment for me, it was to stop me doing anything worse. I had to think and feel something other than what I was. Your mind becomes consumed with the pain and that's all you think about. Afterwards, there's a sort of relief that you got through that tiny little moment, rather than suffering from your thoughts. It's a temporary solution to a permanent problem. I'd recommend speaking to someone. It done me the world of good.

[Mroz75]

Thank you for opening up and as i can see you're a strong person. I recommend talking to someone too 👏👏

[Shar279]

Thank you

[Mroz75]

😊😊

[Anonymous]

I've done it in the past as well and got a few scars from it, nothing severe though luckily and I can pass them off as burn marks from work.
For me it was kinda relaxing and helped me feel better at the time, I liked watching the blood. I don't do it anymore thankfully since my life has improved so much since then.

[Mroz75]

Thank you 👍 and hope you would never do it again :)

[Opinion Owner]

Nope I have no intention to!
it annoys me though when people say it's done for attention, the last thing I wanted was for people to notice.

[Anonymous]

Because it almost feels like a punishment, and sometimes you feel like somethings your fault. Also it could be because you don't have another way at the time to release emotions and it kinda calms you down. I'm not condoning it but I can't judge it either. Hope this made sense.

[Mroz75]

If you're already hurt from the inside what's the point of hurting your self from the outside.

[Opinion Owner]

Fair enough, makes you feel better for a moment I guess. Also gives you a rush of adrenaline.

[Riggers]

Its entirely just seeking attention. ''I do it because it makes me feel better'', ''my depression makes me'', Blah blah blah.

Its usually just teenage girls seeking attention.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

oh fuck you. people have depression.

[Riggers]

@marilynmansonssextoy You're grade A example, 16, Probably an emo, listens to shitty screemo bands, obsessing over fucking suicidal lookin freaks like marilynmanson, I bet you wear those shitty elbow length gloves that cover your scars like every fuckin emo your age does.

Self harm, Is literally just for stupid teenage girls and emos. It achieves nothing other then A) seeking attention B) Some social fad to 'show off' the fact you have a mental disorder as if its trendy.

The overwhelming majority of people with depression do not self harm, Only the ones who want to seek attention do it.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

um excuse me? i'm goth, not emo. AND MARILYN MANSON IS NOT A SUICIDAL LOOKING FREAK, YOU CONFORMIST POSER!

[Riggers]

@marilynmansonssextoy Goth / emo.. Who cares.. You both wear black and mope around like suicidal weirdos. And you'll grow out of it as you get older.

''Conformist poser'', I think you mean normal functioning fuckin human being. Good luck every getting a job and living a normal life in your gothic attire laced in self harming scars.. Your lifestyle practically makes you incapable of functioning in society.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

oh fuck off!
i'm not weird.
you're just jealous that marilyn manson is a better, smarter, sexier person than you
xoxo

[Riggers]

@marilynmansonssextoy You could ask a billion women if they agree with you, And i can gurantee no more then 0.01% will...

Enjoy your phase whilst it laughs, You will be a normal human being when you're older, There was about 20-30 goths / emos just like you in my school, Like, exactly the same as you, and not one of them still is 4 years on...

But aye, Enjoy your weird little thing you got going on whilst it lasts.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

it's not a phase.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

and if u wanna know, u ask the question

[Riggers]

@marilynmansonssextoy There is a reason there is a meme called ''Its not a phase mom!!!'', Becuase it always is a fuckin phase... I'd bet every paycheck i get for the next year that by the time you're 20 you're no longer like this, And you look back at how you were thinking ''what the fuck...''.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

nope. and like i said, ask

[Riggers]

@marilynmansonssextoy Genuinely, Don't have enough hours in my lifetime to be bothered wasting it on this. Cba even replying to this, I couldn't really care enough about your standard teenage girl gothic phase to even muster the effort to type out the question, Do it yourself if you care so much.

[LuvNiahh]

Are you fucking serious! you don't no a damn thin about dealing with depression so I advised you to shut the fuck up! First off if your going to have a conversation please use facts. Self-harm isn't for anyone! All ages have depression men and women it's not a trendy disorder it's a serious illness that happens to be very common. Majority of people with depression do self-harm but I wouldn't expect you to know with you ignorance. No one decides to hurt themselves for attention! Depression doesn't =Goth or emo you clearly no nothing about depression. Her scars make her fucking Beautiful! She is living proof of survivor! How dare you speak so degradingly.

[Riggers]

@LuvNiahh ''Her scars make her fucking Beautiful'', This is what i mean, Its like a fucking fashion trend for you guys, Cutting yourself, Putting that shit on social media with shitty retarded captions like ''So proud of who i am <3'', ''Scars are beautiful x<3'', etc etc etc.

Scars aren't beautiful, Theyre not the signs of a fucking 'survivor', You can't die from lightly grazing your skin with a blade ffs. Theyre the signs of someone who was stupid enough to cut themselves.

Trust it to be another teenage girl to say this, as if to prove my point further, Ty.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

thank you <3 i thankfully am on medication now. i hate it when people assume my love for goth culture and depression are connected...

[LuvNiahh]

Are you kidding me it's not a trend dumb shit. Scars do not define who you are it's a reminder of when you felt so low in your life and you were so deeply hurt and close to ending it all. Why are you a tracking those who self-harm it the ones who left a huge on impact on a person that made them cut. Why not use all this anger and put it towards the abusers like my father, the rapist, the molester, sex tracker and etc you have some nerve blaming her and many others. I will say this a thousands times she is beautiful her scars are beautiful and go fuck yourself

[LuvNiahh]

@marilynmasonsextoy you keep doing you and if anything you can always talk to me! I understand I myself have severe depression and battle severe anxiety

[marilynmansonssextoy]

@LuvNiahh thank u

[Ashlyn96]

Before I explain why I disagree, may I just say that I have major respect for you being blunt as fuck. I've dealt with depression for a very long time, cliché childhood issues and an ex that rivaled my dad. Good ole Freud. Anywho, I self-harmed at one point in time, because some people (teenage girls usually, as you pointed out) always made it sound like it helped with emotional pain. Which I can sort of understand. I was at a very painful, confusing time in my life where I didn't know how to process those feelings properly as I hadn't been taught how.

I didn't do it much or for very long, because it didn't actually help, go figure. It takes your mind off the emotional pain for a split second, but then you're back to that pain and have added physical pain to go with it. You just have to be stronger mentally, you don't have to harm yourself. You gain nothing from it.

[Ashlyn96]

So my long ass point was, I can understand the urge, but it's overall a waste of time and incredibly stupid. My depression has reached much greater depths since then, still currently stuck in it atm, but I have no urge to harm myself over it. I have no urge to do anything, actually, when real depression hits. Pain is different from depression. As I've had to explain to so many people who don't have issues with depression, my depression isn't sadness, it's apathy. I give no fucks. I don't have the energy, nor do I care enough to do anything at all, much less harm myself. Build your mental fortitude, and focus less on other people's opinions. That's how you get over these things. Work out your problems by yourself, or with the help of a close, trusted person. Harming yourself doesn't improve any situation, it just makes it worse.

[jacquesvol]

I wouldn't ever do that.

[Mishthefish]

Because when you're depressed you don't feel anything and after a while you don't even feel like a human being anymore. Cutting hurts and pain is a feeling and humans feel pain. Therefore cutting makes you feel alive. ( Hope this makes sense )

[Mroz75]

It makes sense from the point of when you're depressed you feel nothing and numb

[Mishthefish]

Exactly and cutting reminds you that you can feel.

[Mroz75]

I guess so but its not the right way

[ghostqueen]

It's usually a mixture of self loathing and wanting the quick endorphin rush the drives people to do it.

[Mroz75]

Maybe...

[ghostqueen]

It is.

[Hapinus]

I prefer burning but cutting does the trick as well. Unlike what some guy on here says, I do not do it for attention. I mostly do it on my upper thighs so no one will notice.
I do it because when I get depressed I usually feel numb. Self harming sort of helps with that and gives me a freeing feelings. Umm it’s sort of like replacing the emotional pain the physical pain...

[NovissimumVirorum]

Dark..

[Hapinus]

@NovissimumVirorum your the one that gave me the link
I wanted to respond
Hmm butterflies and rainbows

[NovissimumVirorum]

Dark...

[Hapinus]

@NovissimumVirorum sunlight

[Riggers]

Ayyyy, i got a shout out as 'some guy', lmao.

[Hapinus]

@Riggers haha hey dude
Thanks for the downvote fam. Love you ☺️

[Hapinus]

@Riggers I’m curious what you think of me because of your whole conversation with the “emo” girl
I don’t do it often, especially since I found a boyfriend that cares about me (i think twice in the last 3 months... but I used to do it more regularly before hand)
I am not emo.
And no one knows I self harm in real life besides an ex boyfriend

[Riggers]

That downvote wasn't actually me. Lmao. I very rarely use the vote feature in all honesty.
Again, I just think its basic teenage girl attention seeking. its just a phase almost every teenage girl goes through so i think nothing of it. Its just normal really. I think most see it almost as some sort of trendy thing to do. Some sort of right of passage to 'prove' to others or themselves they have some mental issue.

[Hapinus]

@Riggers ok but no one gives me attention for it because they don’t know I do it
It’s the least “trendy” thing ever
People look down upon it
I have never met someone in real life that does it
The scars will be there for the rest of my life

[NovissimumVirorum]

Interesting

[Riggers]

''I have never met someone in real life that does it'', Im sure almost every girl when i was at school did it. That shit all the way up their fuckin arms and legs, Posting it on facebook and everything. Almost proud of their stupidity to it.

[Hapinus]

@Riggers ugh yah I sort of live in a bubble
Jewish private school yay
Bunch of snobby princesses that have everything they could ever want

[NovissimumVirorum]

JAPs

[Hapinus]

@NovissimumVirorum exactly. I hate japs

[NovissimumVirorum]

lacist

[Riggers]

Its usually the snobby princess' who do it.
I find most often, The kids who are genuinely disadvantaged whether that be financially or broken families or whatever, Rarely self harm, Yet the ones who have everything just do it as a means of 'ugh my life is so bad' because they have nothing to complain about so they just self harm to start bullshit drama in their lives.

I know i keep saying it but, Genuinely no demographic self harms anywhere even remotely close to that of which teen girls do. So as far as im concerned, Its all done for social / trend reasons.

this will sound horrible, but, I think people who are genuinely depressed, Dont self harm because they know its fucking pointless.

The ultimate purpose of self harming is suicide, And unless one has the balls to actually go the full mile and commit suicide, Self harm is just a pointless stupid half gap that achieves nothing then ruining your body further.

[Hapinus]

@Riggers so what... why should I care if I ruin my body further.
Most guys find it a turn off as it is, having a few scars on it wouldn’t make any difference in that department
And you are treating depression as if it’s a choice and not a mental illness

[Riggers]

In all honesty matey, Its your body, Your life, You do whatever you want, I'm not going to argue against your point, I'd be a severe hypocrite in doing so given i loathe my own image.

I just think, As a girl, And all the advantages being girl brings in life, To ruin your body intentionally so young is a bit of a shame.

And, Nah, I'm well aware depression is a mental illness, Though, I do feel as though en-masse a lot of very very privellaged individuals act as though they have it when they dont. I think, Especially now in the 'self diagnosis' online generation, People will be feeling sad one day, And suddenly decide they have depression, When in reality theyre just a normal human being who feels sad sometimes.

Depression is very real, and a lot of people have it, I'm just saying, i don't think most of these self harming privellaged teen girls are included. Being a teenage girl is literally the easiest a human being can have life in regards to Gender+Age correlation.

[Hapinus]

@Riggers yeah
Exept when you are shy, socially awkward and arnt the most attractive

[Riggers]

Even below average girls hold greater social value then the hottest guys, Revel in that power, Lmao.

[Anonymous]

You really shouldn't have used a picture that can be extremely triggering for people.

And its a sign of a mental illness. Its not supposed to make sense because its not normal and it doesn't make any sense

[Anonymous]

sometimes you feel so numb that you want to feel something, sometimes it’s about wanting to feel anything other than the pain the person currently has emotionally, it can be just something done out of pure impulse, some people see it as self-punishment. I guess there can be all different reasons as to why someone would self harm

[Celtero]

Blood is cool, it feels good, and it's a release of violent urges along with a gratification of self-hatred.

[Fire206]

I only cut myself to make sure that I am alive I feel dead inside and when I cut myself and see lots of blood coming out of me it makes me feel better and it feels nice

[Anonymous]

I do that... i'm depressed.

[Mroz75]

Why you do it? What can it makes you feel doing it

[Opinion Owner]

my depression gives me a desire to harm myself

[Mroz75]

And after doing it you feel better?

[Opinion Owner]

a bit, yes

[Opinion Owner]

why did somebody give this a thumbs down?

[Mroz75]

I can see you're under 18, just keep in mind you can overcome any situation in this life its just a matter of the way of thinking

[Opinion Owner]

haha, not really. i'm 16

[Mroz75]

See that's my point if you think you can't then you really can't as i said its the way of thinking

[Hapinus]

I’m sorry but are you me?

[NovissimumVirorum]

@Hapinus obviously not

[Hapinus]

@NovissimumVirorum 16, depressed, self harms because it makes her feel better... asked about the downvote and did the “haha” thing
It sounds like me... creepy

[Opinion Owner]

@Hapinus xD

[Hapinus]

😛😛

[Hunterb]

Emo crew checking in