Why are people scared of masculinity?

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This is a follow up question from one where somebody asked "why are people scared of feminity?"

englisc · Accepted Answer

A lot of people don't understand masculinity/femininity, so they attach things to both of these that have nothing to do with it. Someone asked a questions for example yesterday about "toxic femininity", and people mentioned bullying. They also mention bullying when it comes to "toxic masculinity". If bullying is a symptom of both toxic masculinity AND femininity, then really it has nothing to do with either one. It's just asshole behaviour that either sex can engage in.

I think that feminists, MRAs, MGTOW etc. Just like to blame the entire opposite sex for everything that's wrong with society. They also both want to eradicate gender roles and socially engineer a situation where men and women are almost exactly the same. Each of those groups attack both femininity and masculinity at the same time, however I think that they probably attack masculinity more, especially the feminists, because they see it as more of a threat.

Perhaps accusing men of being fearful of femininity is a projection of their own fear of masculinity. Or maybe it's a shaming tactic - they know that men naturally don't want to be viewed as cowards, so accusing them of being afraid of femininity is a way of calling them a coward or "not a real man" if they don't go along with their agenda.

SirRexington · Accepted Answer

It's something SJWs focus on. They say they only go after toxic masculinity but when they say that they are really saying that masculinity is toxic. I don't know why. They wouldn't be here if not for masculine men fighting, reproducing with their mothers and standing up for them even as they demonize that very behavior.

Tell me SJW, when some toxic right winger is being mean to you, do you want some pussy soyboy behind you? Or a strong, aggressive male standing up for you? I guarantee you want the latter.

Masculinity is toxic sometimes, but it takes another man with equal masculinity to cancel it out.

DocilexElle · Accepted Answer

They don't understand the REAL masculinity... most "masculine energy" is calm, collective, dominant (but not overly macho), Left brain intelligent etc.

MOST PEOPLE see masculinity as anger, rape, aggressiveness, the "gym rat" type of guy, calling other men names to show dominance... but mainly the "getting upset easily" can even be feminine energy.

As to why people get scared... is that they probably never experienced REAL masculinity.

GamerKitty · Accepted Answer

I have no clue. People use toxic and fucked up people as examples to push their agendas on both ends.

Spawnface · Answer

Gender is inextricable from identity, whether it be a micro abstract or a macro generality. There's so much imbedded within it's definition that often the greatest of acedemics can't even scratch the surface of. We see masculinitt and femininity in just about everything, even things that seem totally non gendered. From our liking of colours, the choice of automobile we like, the moods and behaviours we exhibit and idealise. Most importantly, it's a very ambiguious and very mysterious way of identifying with oneself, in how one articulates and characterizes themself and their behaviour. Oftenly, something as trifling as warm heartedness, which can be applicable to either gender and is capable of total ambiguity, can be ascribed or expressed as a gender specificity. It's almost like a crutch to mitigate the absense of words and understandings to define how we feel in see the world. Often, people don't know what either gender is, or they don't understand the esoteric knowledge within themselves they possess and the masculine and feminine are easy ways to give something perimetres that otherwise would be untangible.

Being the case, there's plenty of nuance as to why. The one I'd mention due to it's prevelence in pop culture, is it's a tacticful way of attacking and confusing people whom predators (psychopaths) would wish to incolcate and mentally imprison. This is the way of the feminists, attack one's ability to contact the ethereal forces of their own being, disconnect ones own self communication by employing divisive works aimed at destroying identity. It's wholesomely predatory and malevolant, we often forget that society is a black and white checkerboard of good and evil. These forces disguised as one another and in perpetual conflict through utter vagueness. These people are not actually afraid of masculinity, they use such a frame to conceal their own devilish intent to undermine a persons mental health. These gender wars, in their most common and fundamental origins start in the primitive years of childhood, where self identity is precious and peers compete to have their own secured in social hegenony, usually only because that is what they werr taught to do by likeminded adults.

akihon · Answer

On the flip side there are behaviours that could easily be labelled as toxic femininity or half arsed masculinity such as women getting blind drunk and falling asleep bin a gutter. But talking about that isn't cool so the media doesn't say anything.
The point I'm going to make is this men and women mostly just try to get on with their lives but more and more are becoming aware that masculinity in any form is being deemed as evil. The APA and Gillette screwed the pooch on that one.
I don't see that many men are afraid of femininity to be honest I think most men would welcome it but what I see is that there are more and more women who seem to be afraid of it. Interestingly you'll find in countries with greater women's freedoms those women tend to choose to be more feminine and take more traditional roles such as housewife and mother, many of those have left unfulfilling high powered careers for the wife and mother role as they say that's far more fulfilling for them.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think you're confusing "masculinity" with "douchebaggery". It's like the term "alpha male" i wish it would just go away. Anytime i hear it on this site it's mentioned with accompanying phrases usually in attempt to explain how a guy can be "better man", get more P****, command respect, as though those things truly made you a better man. And a woman should be scared of these guys because they're out of control. Nobody taught them that being a man just is, it's how you conduct yourself everyday. It's not about filling some void. That can't be done.

Jonny_ · Answer

I feel it's because they instantly go to the extreme end of the spectrums, they're not worried about masculinity they're worried about toxic people. The irony being that toxic people are instantly defensive over how not toxic they are. It's another way to label people and say these things are bad, they'll tie it in with political or world views even though masculinity or femininity has nothing to do with with the majority of it.

Littlewife · Answer

Most people aren't. It seems like a stick just to beat men. Like the gilette commercial telling men to hold other men accountable but I dont see how if these boys are raised as emasculated boys taught never to fight. Funny thing is male feminists are usually the creepiest guys.

Aynsof · Answer

Are they?
There are certain social behaviors that are referred to as toxic masculinity maybe this is what you mean?
It is predominantly learned behavior suitable (some of it) in a strongly patriarchal society but less so in a society that aims to some manner of egalitarianism
It gets out of hand some times though were any masculine behavior is considered bad but I do not really that as being the norm

AmyLuv · Answer

Its not masculinity that is scary, Its a good thing even in my opinion. Its the Toxic kind of assholes that are scary with their shitty views like "Woman are below men and should behave like that" etc.

Matt57 · Answer

I think they just confuse all masculinity for toxic masculinity. Toxic men are the ones who believe "women are just dumb bitches and whores who should learn their place."

The rest of us are simply just trying to be the best men we can be.

Jackblue · Answer

Women are scared of getting raped or abused. Men who hate masculinity are more angry than scared at the supposed "arrogance" of masculine men. I am such a man and I remember how in college I was making snide remarks about the Frat boys.

SketchForger · Answer

Good question. I've seen many mothers flip their shit when a girl decides she likes blue as a color or likes to watch a "boys" cartoon.

Rogzi · Answer

Cowards that can't handle themselves around confident people.

Someguynamedbob · Answer

Only man haters are scared of it, all normal humans not filled with hate feel indifferent

A-man-22 · Answer

Liberals hate it. Media uses it as an excuse for anything Men don't stand up for their own good.

wilco999 · Answer

Because of how some "men" choose to interpret masculinity

legalboxers · Answer

this is why...

Iron_Man · Answer

Because they want to control the man and treat them like a son figure

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't know what you mean by that

BornFree · Answer

I am not I am masculine

name_is_eric · Answer

The media deems it "toxic".

jacquesvol · Answer

It's sometimes self centered and toxic

taleswapper · Answer

Because the liberal media calls it toxic.

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

I wouldn't know. I'm not.

LazyMan · Answer

They are?

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