Girls, do you worry that your guy will no longer want you if you have gained weight?

[Thatsamazing]

Jennifer Love Hewitt

Yes, this is a concern of mine

No, this doesn't concern me

I am a guy/results

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votes and answers dammit

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more votes and answers dammit

[curiousnorway]

Since I've never struggled with a bad metabolism or weight gain earlier on, therefor I doesn't worry about it. I've always been the skinny person and I can't imagine me getting fatter as I gets older. I'm not eating the healthiest, but not the most unhealthiest either. I've never been into physical exercise, sports or anything like that. Doesn't like dogs either, so I doesn't go for a walk very often either.

If I had a partner, I would prefer them to stay slim and put some effort in staying that way. It's not only about my own perception of beauty, but also personal reasons that I think is perfectly reasonable to justify my preferences. The majority of my family members are overweight and the round shape are their family trade mark, so every time I sees a round person, I think of my family for a weird reason. That doesn't necessarily mean I would break up if I had a partner gaining weight, but I wouldn't want to have sex and my lust would decrease.

Why women have to worry more about gaining weight than men is because of men can afford being more picky in looks, not because of men necessarily being more visual than women. Because of there are naturally more pretty women out there and women often are willingly to put more effort into their own appearance, men have a lot to choose from regardless if they're hot or not. Men aren't expected to put equally much effort in looking good, handsome men are rarer and women are taught to value other qualities, therefor men doesn't need to worry as much about their looks as long they've the other desired qualities.

[Thatsamazing]

I don't agree with some of what you said but I appreciate a thoughtful response.

[curiousnorway]

So what's your opinion?

[Thatsamazing]

Males cannot afford to be more picky in looks-- that's laughable. I see far, FAR more couples where the guy is better-looking and thinner/fitter than the female. By far. Now, I live in America, and maybe where you are it's not like that, but it's sure like that here. "Men aren't expected to put equally much effort in looking good" is incorrect as well-- you see and hear females constantly talking about how if a guy isn't well-dressed with a good haircut and a decent physique, they will not be interested. Sorry man but what planet do you live on?

[curiousnorway]

Maybe it's a different culture you lives in. In my country most young people under 37 of both genders are slim while the majority of the elderly are overweight. Where I lives it's not uncommon to see an average or below looking man with a cute or pretty woman, but I rarely sees the other way around.

[Thatsamazing]

Here, everyone is fat practically, but females on average are fatter. It's more common to see a slimmer or average-weight male with a fat or overweight female, than it is to see the opposite. And that happens not because males here want overweight females; it's that they just want SOMEone, SOME pussy, so they have to choose from slim pickings.

[curiousnorway]

In my country it's equally many overweight men and women out there; mostly elderly though. But there are more pretty/cute women out there than handsome men. I means facially wise, not overweight wise.

[Anonymous]

Of course they don't. They just become single, lose the weight they knew was unattractive in the first place, get a new man, and call the ex a shallow piece of shit.

When she finds one who doesn't mind, she'll get as fat as she wants

[Thatsamazing]

Then that's the fault of the moron beta male who doesn't mind. I mean sure it's her fault too for actually gaining the weight, but if he wasn't okay with it, she wouldn't get away with it.

[Opinion Owner]

That's what they want for marriage; a man who'll take however little she gives him without complaining.

[CubsterShura]

I'm not very scared about gaining weight on its own but I am scared about my body changing after giving birth and all which can easily change my body and it may not look as good as it does now. I'm scared of having any health complications that could affect my body especially, like suppose I got some kind of chronic body pain or hormonal issues that could affect the body internally or my ability to exercise.

[Thatsamazing]

What about how that relates to how your guy wants you?

[CubsterShura]

The fact it would mean my man could probably start finding me less attractive overtime.

[Thatsamazing]

What's your opinion of that?

[CubsterShura]

It shouldn't happen but it happens 🙃

[Thatsamazing]

What shouldn't happen

[Isten]

Everyone has their bad times, and if I am in a stressful period and gain weight and he decides to leave me, then that's his loss. It doean't mean that I won't work it off, but if he is so shallow that that's the only thing he sees in me, then I dodged a bullet for sure.

[Thatsamazing]

Completely disagree and that's utterly ridiculous, but thank you for telling us how you feel.

[1Anon]

It is something I am concerned about but I’m doing my gym routine to hopefully not gain any weight.

[meness]

Yes. I'm already chubby and not exactly happy about it. I'm always worried that a guy wount find my body attractice. I try to act confident and not to show it but in my heart I'm always a tiny bit scared to flaunt my body in front of ca ute guy, especailly ifhe is an athlete.

[Thatsamazing]

I appreciate your honesty. So even being chubby yourself, you don't try to attract chubby guys?

[meness]

No, I really like athletic guys. With abs. I really like to feel their abs, although I feel embarrassed if they try to find abs on me. Lol

[Thatsamazing]

Well... sadly gal, the overwhelming majority of fit/athletic guys aren't into girls who are chubby. If you want a fit guy, you're probably going to have to lose weight and get fit yourself.

[meness]

I know. I f some fit/athletic guy asked me to workout with him regularly maybe than I had enaugh motivation to stick to the routine.

[Thatsamazing]

Motivation comes from within. Don't get fit and lose weight for someone else-- do it for yourself.

[meness]

I'm too lazy for it. :(

[Thatsamazing]

I know it's hard, but most good things are. The truth is, as long as you keep telling yourself that, that you're too lazy for it, nothing will change, and you likely won't get an attractive guy. Sorry gal. You just have to decide which is more important to you-- making changes and maybe getting what you want, or not doing that, and not getting what you want. It's up to you.

[JetJas]

I’m around 56kg rn, and really conscious about gaining weight, but it’s not really because of guys lol.

[Thatsamazing]

Because of other girls?

[JetJas]

No because of me lol

[Thatsamazing]

Good enough.

[StingRayxoxo]

I'm definitely not where I want to be right now but my boyfriend is still majorly attracted to me. If I continued to gain weight though, exercise/activities and sex would change and that's not good for either of us.

[Miristheiss]

Wow, I haven't seen Jennifer Love Hewitt in a long while, is that how she looks now?

[Thatsamazing]

Sadly yes.

[nevertoosure]

I wouldn't like it myself if I gained a significant amount of weight... plus I’m always worrying that I’m too heavy for them hahahah

[Hurlyburly]

I wouldn't want myself if I gained weight 😂 I stay (somewhat) in shape for myself and not for others

[Anonymous]

I can't say that thought has ever crossed my mind, though I'd be worried about my health and self-esteem going down so I make sure that doesn't happen just for my own wellbeing.

[Amara_]

First of all i never gain weight i got amazing metabolism lol second if he is only with me for my looks that he is not type of person i want what after i become old?

[Thatsamazing]

After you become old? Uh... when exactly will that be

[Amara_]

50s i probably would age good

[Amara_]

Anyway i don't want a guy who want me for my looks.

[Thatsamazing]

Lol okay that's nice.

[Iwant2kno]

Nope! I wouldn’t worry about my do not liking me, I would worry about my health more than anything.

[_Icanshowyoutheworld]

I’m afraid of being fat in general i already am kinda chubby

[_Icanshowyoutheworld]

How do i know if i will gain weight?

[LuWe22]

Yes. He always says how sexy he finds my figure so I'm worried that he don't find me sexy anymore when I gain weight.

[Shuri]

Yes because men are very superficial. So are women, but men have a 'holier than thou' when it comes to things like appearance. They dictate a lot about a woman's weight, her shape, breast size, ass size, how much make up we wear, and then have the audacity to say only women care about looks.

They're full of shit.

[Thatsamazing]

We don't dictate anything; females are allowed to look however you want, just like guys are allowed to not be attracted to them if they aren't attractive. Your comment makes no sense.

[Shuri]

Except when a woman says the same thing hen we are perceived as superficial. My comment makes perfect sense. You not liking it doesn’t negate its veracity.

[Thatsamazing]

No, I don't think that's right, what you just said as "when a woman says the same thing (she is) perceived as superficial." Perceived by whom? And who cares? People, including females, are allowed to have standards of physical attraction. No, your initial comment does not make sense, because males *don't* dictate what females look like. Think about the logic of what you just said-- if males had that power, then why are there so many females around that are overweight or not conventionally attractive? If we're dictating what they look like, then how is it that they even exist?

[Shuri]

Uh, by men lol, who the fuck else would I be talking about?

[Thatsamazing]

That's nice; what about everything else I said? I already know you're talking about men-- duh. But you aren't being specific. You're saying, what, ALL men? Everywhere? Or are you talking about a particular subsection that you see or hear in your personal life or something?

[guy101101101]

women can be right self centered bitches when they want, they care more about looks than guys, dont be fooled.

[CaptainSmartass]

I'm not a girl, but if my girlfriend had gained weight, I wouldn't mind. I'd still love her.

Simples...

[Thatsamazing]

If you say so.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have a disease that makes me fluctuate in weight I also take medication but I do work out and eat healthy so I hope I never become obese

[Anonymous]

Just to calm some girls, if I truly love you, I'll love you no matter how you look, I'll always be there with you.

[guy101101101]

is that a real photo of JLH? Omg!

[Thatsamazing]

Sadly yes. I know; she's fallen so far.

[guy101101101]

haha thats amazing, it truly is.

[Passinggas]

If she gets above 20% bodyfat, she is gone.

[AwesomeLadaaay]

Nope