i am a shy guy. the problem doesn't really lie in the actual dating aspect for me. it's the fact that if I'm not really the "approach" kind of guy, then I'm gonna keep my feelings/whatever all to myself. and actually, define "if the girl makes it clear." because I'm pretty sure if the girl I liked approached me and actually said to me she liked me, then I would be happy happy happy and reciprocate appropriately. but as a shy guy, I don't assume the girl likes me to begin with, because if I did think she even had a little interest, I would do some things to maybe get her attention. it's all perspective. people, like me who are shy and maybe like someone, think A LOT. we bring in every scenario we can think of to mind, trust me. but in the end, it is the fear that maybe our feelings for this person are in vain because there's always that negative voice in our mind saying they don't like us. but I've never been in that experience where a girl I've liked, made it "clear" she liked me. hell I've never even had a girlfriend lol.
I wouldn't call myself shy (anymore!) but I am inexperienced. If I knew a girl I was interested liked me too I would make a move or ask her out but I'm pretty terrible at judging whether a girl is really into me, being friendly, or is just flirty. It all depends on your definition of "making it clear".
As for inexperience being an issue it definitely is for me. I'm fairly certain most girls I've liked are more experienced than me (I've never kissed a girl) and it's a bit intimidating and nerve wracking. If I was certain the girl was into me it would be a lot easier though.
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of course. read all the posts on here. they're all afraid of rejection
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For me it's the rejection I'm scared of, but not just me and her knowing I got rejected. It's everyone else. If we were the only two people on earth I would not be scared to get rejected. But the thing is if I ask a girl out and she says no, a lot of people will probably find out.
If his friends are nice they won't say anything about it, but if they are d-bags he might get some flack from his guys about rejection too.
Yes, it would. I certainly used to be that guy. Since I actually got a girlfriend, I have a little more experience and confidence under my belt, but I'm still not confident about approaching (not in a "girls are scary and I'm worthless" way, but in a "people in general don't like me" way). If I knew a girl was interested, I would be willing to make a move, but so far, only two girls have made that apparent to me.
I don't think I would.. when it comes to girls, I have no Cojones... at least I think not.
But well. I Can't really find a girl I like anyways, so what does it matter.
Assuming your experienced... ya I would hesitate for sure.
define make a move
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