there's a guy in my class who is quite good looking. He normally seems quiet and doesn't take effort to talk to others except his guy buddies. One time, I started talking to him as we walking in the opposite ways. We had good eye contact, smiled a lot and pleasant conversation. I changed my impression towards him and thought that he is not too bad. But the next time I saw him in class, he totally ignored me, like I was invisible. So I didn't care looking or talking to him anymore as I thought he is strange. A week before school holiday, he suddenly came and talk to me again with a smile when I was with my friend! But this time he was a little bit edgy, didn't look at me straight in the eyes. What the heck is he doing?
Last year, I guessed he had a crush on me, or some sort of attraction. But that was last year, I don't think he is crushing on me anymore, but it is still awkward even though I made effort being friendly and treat him like any other classmates. When he sees me, he either choose to ignore me or if he talk to me, he just said hi how are you going? and then standing by me quietly until I say something. If he makes effort talking to me, why can't he be more enthusiastic?
He even got upset with me when I talked to his friend and helped his friend finding a job. I did that just simply because his friend is nice to me
any ideas, what kind of person he is?
Last year, I guessed he had a crush on me, or some sort of attraction. But that was last year, I don't think he is crushing on me anymore, but it is still awkward even though I made effort being friendly and treat him like any other classmates. When he sees me, he either choose to ignore me or if he talk to me, he just said hi how are you going? and then standing by me quietly until I say something. If he makes effort talking to me, why can't he be more enthusiastic?
He even got upset with me when I talked to his friend and helped his friend finding a job. I did that just simply because his friend is nice to me
any ideas, what kind of person he is?
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If you like a shy guy, I suggest you be persistent, but very gentle. Don't come on as strong or as often as you might usually do, but keep coming on to him.
Shy guys' brains can freeze up when they feel they're under pressure, and they can feel startled and need to escape if something surprises them.
Shy guys usually need a lot of time to process their emotions and thoughts, so don't expect a quick response from him. For the same reasons, conversation can move slower with a shy guy: we usually need to think before we talk.
Shy guys tend to advance, then retreat; advance and retreat, and so can appear to run hot and cold. It's not a deliberate behavior, it's the way our brains process experience. We try it, then we need to think about it.
If she's really shy and hasn't much self-confidence, you might need to take more initiative than usual. He might want to call you but be too insecure.
Here's my suggestion. Invite him on a date yourself _but avoid putting him on the spot or feel like he's pressured_. Like I said, a _really_ shy guy might startle and say "no" automatically because he needs time to process the information and doesn't want to feel pressured or boxed in. You may want to try setting him up to take you out: talk to him about an event or place he enjoys, then suggest you go there together so he can show you around and explain things. He might respond well to that because he can talk about the place or event, and feel less worried about "what do I talk about?"
Good luck!
Thanks for your advice!! but I think I am little bit interested in him but not as strong to be more than friends, I just don't understand why he is being nice and cold to me. I have never come too strong too him to make him to be scared of me. If I really like someone, I would be unlikely to make any move and leave it up to the guy, since I think it is a guy's job. If he really likes me, he will come to me, if he doesn't, forget about that guy
That's your decision, but you may be missing out by not taking a bit more effort.
Sounds like a shy guy. He has some kind of feelings towards you, yet doesn't know how to act on them. When he tries to talk to you he freezes up, even if you go to him and start a conversation. He's scared of failure so he can't seem to get up the nerve to so much as talk to you because you could reject him. To add insult to injury, you did a major favor for his friend by getting him a job. That was a good thing for you to do but the shy guy is jelous that his friend could get you to do something like that for him and he can't keep up a conversation. The guy is shy, and I have some sympathy for him because I used to be shy like him, but he needs to learn to be comfortable around girls and people in general because this shy behavior is a reall turnoff for anyone.
I think he is just shy and might have slight social problems.