Why is he acting weird?

[Anonymous]

So, basically my boyfriend visited his son with his ex in another country. We talked briefly on the phone when he landed. Then, a few hours later, he sent pictures and videos of his son. It looks like he's in his ex's house. He told me I plan to stay in a hostel but he didn't give me any details about it. He used to give me all the details and even send me pictures and videos in the past. We freely videocall and voice call freely, too when he's free. But in this trip, he seems different. It's his 2nd day in that country. From yesterday, he only texted me a few. I asked if he's free to talk since it's past midnight already and I know he's not with his son anymore. But, nothing. He said he'll just contact me soon since I told him I wanna talk because I wanna know some things. I said I understand. And just told him I miss and I love him and to have a nice day. He replied Kool only. But all seenzoned. After 40minutes. I repeated to send I miss and love him. But it's seenzoned again. I'm now heartbroken. I don't wanna speculate things. I trust him. But I'm feeling hurt right now. What to do?

[Labokachulaa]

I agree with you that things sounds a little suspicious, but don't jump to conclusions. He could be with his son and he wants to focus on that instead of being on his phone. However, it is something that you should discuss. I don't understand why he's leaving you on seen and not responding. That would leave me feeling a little suspicious.

Give it time and let him talk to you, are you sure that he's staying with his ex? If he is, what is his relationship like with her? Thats something to think about, but not too much overthinking.

[Asker]

He told me he's staying in a hostel inside the base with others. But I don't have a proof. Well, he's not friends with his ex. But they're not even enemies. They're civil. I don't know much about the ex. What she only wants is for him to be present as the baby's dad. She doesn't demand anything, too

[Labokachulaa]

Maybe he's just giving all his time and attention to his child then. That's if he's being honest with you about everything. Sometimes being vague about things are good but sometimes it's also not good. In this case, it kind of sounds like it's a good thing. He's just trying to spend time without there being drama. But what stands out to me is you saying this isn't normal behavior.

[FlameZee78]

You shouldn’t try to drive yourself crazy thinking about why he’s at his ex I mean of course his child is going to be with his ex wife I mean who else is going to care for the baby… point is you are just going to go insane thinking about it.. I really don’t think anything is happening between him and his ex he just wants to spend time with his child and plus staying at his ex house is better than paying money to stay out just means he can spend more time with his child…. As for the single word reply he could just be wanting to focus on his kid… I really wouldn’t try to worry or drive yourself mad over it if you want to talk to him let him come back and sort things out face to face

[Asker]

I understand him spending much time with his son. But I don't think staying at her ex's house with them, isn't good. And he never seenzoned me and never even ignored my miss you and I love you. Just now. So I'm thinking crazily now :(

[Anonymous]

Id wonder if he wasn't shacking up with his ex. He's already at her house.

[Asker]

I believe he won't do it. But my main concern is if he's staying at her house. If he does, then what you're saying may likely to happen. I'm not sure. Really. He doesn't have feelings for her. It's been a long time. But I'm not sure with the ex. :(

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly, I’d ask him to see pics of where he’s supposedly staying.

[FlameZee78]

You are making her worry more maybe it’s not even anything to do with the ex it’s just he’s probably thinking she’s gonna. m worry about him staying there and maybe he wants to spend time with his son

[Asker]

As of now, I really don't know what to think anymore. I don't wanna entertain the idea of him staying at his ex's house. I can't. For me, I think they shouldn't stay together in one house. They are not even friends. @FlameZee78