Do you ever feel that nobody listens or notices you?

[Anonymous]

I always think back to this moment, it was my first Spanish class in college and I was super nervous and was sitting next to this random nice-looking girl. She initiated a conversation with me (I can't remember exactly what she said), but it helped ease my nerves a bit about being alone in the class. That is until I tried to respond.. and I look up to realize she was on her phone and not at all listening to my response to her comment, I stopped speaking in the middle of the my sentence and that was that. That's just one example, but I feel like this kinda thing happens a lot with friends, family, strangers. I can say something or try to contribute to a conversation and just get ignored. I can sometimes speak softly so that could be it part of the time but I feel like it's more than that, like maybe my presence is just easy to overlook.
Do you ever experience this? Or maybe you've noticed it happen to someone?

[Miredda]

I was on the recieving end of this treatment. I am a self proclaimed introvert, happy to be in my own company but hate it when being LEFT alone when in the company of others. I seldom speak my own thoughts openly and when i do, i speak when it's comfortable to do so. Often i speak a lot when i open my mouth because my mind goes all over the place. But unfortunately there have been numerous accounts of me being ignored or interrupted when i have something to say and i take great offense to that. Before, i used to sit quiet and just be sad about it. But now, i openly call out that behavior to make the other person aware of how it makes me feel. If they dont want to be listening to what i have to say, i request them to tell me, so i dont have to waste my precious time thinking i am worth their attention. If i see someone else feeling the same way, like when they are interrupted, i make sure to bring them back in the conversation so they dont feel muted the way i felt in those times.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. In gathering I’d say something and everyone would upright ignore my opinion. In groupchat I’d say something and no one will reply. In class I’d say something and everyone would act like I don’t exist.


I noticed that only when I act extrovert that’s when people listen and are interested in what I do but honestly I prefer my space. I’m originally an introvert but people just assume I’m shy and ignore me when they know me as an introvert.

[MrHopper]

All the time, the thing everyone has a rich and complicated life with needs and wants, and unless the two sort of match up, one of you will be wanting more attention. Most people are too self absorbed to notice anything outside there own bubble.

As for conversation, a good tip is to use the one word.. the one word everyone loves more than any other word in the whole world... there name... people love hearing their own name... and love to talk about them selves, so ask them about them and be interesting, compliment them "ooo thats a nice tie, where did you get it"... and ALWAYS finish what you are saying regardless if any one is listening, also when talking try to be animated, make it seem fun, look at people who draw attention with there words, they speak in a powerful way. Dont shout, no one likes shouty people, but dont be afraid to draw attention to your self, position your self so you are not on the end of a table for example...

[MrHopper]

Thanks for MHO

[HappyAccident]

Oh yeah I feel you Hun now tbh I don't think it's because there overlooking you or anything it's just sometimes it's gotta be that quick than go back to what I'm doing an it makes you feel awkward no doubt but don't worry over time you'll be doing the same an than someone else will feel awkward lol

[justagentleman]

All the time. I get interrupted and over-talked constantly. I'm think it says more about the other person. Less intelligent people will overtalk and interrupt, I think, not out if malice but ignorance of manners. While people like us will yeild to them out of politeness. Be more assertive if you're tired of it. It's not because you're less important no one thinks that except you. Don't create that idea of yourself because it can spread from there.

[Not_Average]

During my younger years in high school, definitely. As I get older and reach more success, more and more people are starting to come to me for advice. I

[OlderThanILook]

Yeah. I don't get any attention if I act like myself. People literally ignore everything I do or say.

[Anonymous]

Yes; people like to wave at people behind me like I don't even exist as if I am transparent or something.

[coffeewithcream]

Interesting.

[Asker]

Thank you for the input good sir ;p

[coffeewithcream]

:D :D

[OceanMelon]

Yeah