by default it seems like women find perverted men very repulsing. whenever they encounter these men who speak about sex related things in a freely manner they tend to get creeped out and immediately see these type of men as a threat.
you would think that they would see prudish men from a better angle, however this doesn't seem to be the case. it seems like whenever a guy sounds prudish such as...
- being oversensitive to nudity - not finding an specific body part of the female attractive - saying no to some acts of sex - fearing to talk about sex topic in broad daylight
and many other things women will have total breakdown. they then start scolding these men as considering them lame, virgin losers, etc. and the "are you gay?" questions start to put up in marathon broken record mode.
so I was just wondering why are women this hard to please? why is sex such a black and white thing for women?
Interesting observation. I think there are many such women in where I live. I met them all the time LOL!
And i think these are the reasons:
1) despite deep inaide they desire sex, the outward display of it is social taboo. Hence here, we almost never talk about sex or sex related stuffs publicly.
Even sex Ed in schools are just pictures of gender anatomy.
2) related to 1 is the fear of being called a hoe or slut. Somehow these terms are "bad" here. (I know in the Internet, many women already classify themselves as a hoe or slut although never got paid for sex before).
3) peers pressure to maintain a "chaste" image. Ya, religiously here, somehow sex is associated with sin.
And these women don't want to be view as sinners.
Hence when a guy talks about it, they "show" as if being offended.
I know until now I've not answered your question on being prudish.
And this is my opjnion.
That from the above points, girls actually CRAVE sex and want it badly. And they hope their guys will be leading them. But these guys failed.
Hence they are angered inside but cannot express outwardly.
But if a guy dares, and hence not prudish, she actually had her desire satisfied and likes him.
You may be correct. but the way I see is that women only want sex when they know that sex is gonna come with other things like a free date and attention. I mean if you think about it tinder sluts, porn actress, prostitutes in general and strippers are a prime example that they do not mind being viewed as "sinners" as long as they're getting reward for their act
I don't think they hate prudes, but in my case they get butthurt because I won't let a woman sexually harass me. They're used to having an easy time with men so they get spoiled in a sense. Also, the world has exalted sex in a way that makes it normal. I've never been called a prude per se, but I have been called other things.
That's not being a prude. That's having respect. These women hate respectful men. Period. Like you said, if a man treats them like trash, all of a sudden its a double standard. The same can be said for men. They call me the same, but then come looking later. These people are either just psychologically damaged and want you to be just like them or they're crazy. Those types of women abuse these men. Either those women have serious daddy issues, porn-addicted themselves, or they keep on dating the same type of "loser" men who beat them down, use them for sex, etc. It's manipulation and social condition. Those guys are fine. Sex like everything else in life IS black and white. There is a RIGHT and there is a WRONG. Just people choose to live in a gray area until something benefits them. Hypocrisy everywhere. I wouldn't even worry about such women. Just call them out for what they are: hypocrites. They hate real men.
I actually come from a background where most women are like how you mentioned by default and makes me wonder why the men that have the same background as me are always prone from having the justice system going hard on them.
I agree 100% on how people choose to live in grey area until something benefits them. a lot of time is the other way around and they will only see the grey area when it benefits them
Sadly, its a generational curse. That's what it is. Some families have a particular sin and lifestyles that haunt or follow a person genetically. I find it wrong. These people have no morals anymore. Those guys are just a bit insecure and need a little push to be their best selves. They don't need to be sleeping around or do things that are not Godly and out of their character. But that is why those women attract toxic men because they're toxic themselves. And they tend to want the best of 'both worlds' but having a sweet guy, but who will also dominate them in bed basically. And because of that, they feel he isn't man enough. Because again, what they have been exposed to. You're supposed to be innocent sexually. But their unhappy and tend to be miserable in who they pick. Some mature from that, others sadly do not, others get worse.
The reason why you have that going on because again, you grew up in an environment or have a background where it's not HEALTHY. ABNORMAL. And to a degree, dysfunctional. And because of it, so subconsciously attracting those same types of people.
very true, talk about the best of both worlds I'm currently arguing with another user here about this matter and I have the feeling that she will be blocking me to get the last word in the argument like most of the snowflakes on this site have been doing lately
Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Life is all about balance.
All women are not the same. Be who you are and find you a perfect match. Someone similar perhaps. But no one is forced to be attracted to something they're not. You are not attracted to all women and all women can't be attracted to you. That's just life. Same goes for the other gender.
And 'no' balance does not mean someone wanting the best of two worlds. That even doesn't make any intellictual sense. Balance a state of mind and is in every thing we do, feel, eat, drink, or experience. It is a state of equilibrium where all forces in a particular situation are equal and opposit to the extent where non of them continues to have a greater advantage over the other. It is an optimum state of peace that some of us aspire.
I agree with you on be who you are but at times that can be difficult because a lot of people will like you for who you are only when they see that who you are might serve as a convenience to them.
I also agree that everything in life has to be balanced but some people will put boundaries and ultimatums on you and claim that is their way of balancing
I like a man who can speak his mind 100% lol. But the issue is what's more attractive is an intelligent man, who knows when and how to say things to me. Who shows me that he respects me first and values me as a woman. After that, I appreciate his sexuality lol.
If I cook you dinner it sucks if you are grossed out by it completely and won’t even taste it, it also sucks if you stuff your face and puke all over the place.
your scenario Of extremes was on par with mine.
it’s like.. either you find me disgusting or you behave disgustingly. Neither is charming, lol 🤦♀️
I agree that neither is charming but I still be happy if a person who stuff their face in the plate I cook, I can care less about the outcome just as long as they live and dont cause inconvenience for me and others.
talking from experience I never get offended if people find something I cook grossed. it just reminds me that I need to learn how to cook better for the next time
What about a nice balance of both? It isn't that hard. You can talk about sex but it, just not too much. And it is just weird to me that you are scared of nudity or sex..
I used to work in an office with mostly men. Most would be considered pervy by some people because of the way they talked. But I was okay about it. They didn't sexually harass women, or act creepy around them. They were just normal guys who liked to talk about about sexual stuff or make jokes and innuendo. They were hilarious at times.
guy supposed 2 take control of data situation, not be controlled by it. every time a guy is reacting and retracting rather than proacting and boinging, it's prob human nature to take the piss out of him
They don’t “hate” prudish men, they just typically find them unattractive. They want a healthy balance of sexuality where he’s not disrespectful or lecherous but he’s also not oversensitive or frigid.
That’s not selfish, it’s common sense. Having too much or too little of a trait is not good in a relationship and most women don’t want the extremes so a guy with a healthy balance is the most suitable for a relationship. It’s like how guys don’t want a girlfriend who never shuts up but they also don’t want a girlfriend who makes no effort to communicate.
Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. In a healthy relationship, sexual chemistry is important to a lot of people. It doesn't mean that women hate prude men just that they don't find you compatible with them. You will meet many people who aren't compatible with you..
already have. even worst most of them use to scold me for not being compatible with them, just to find out that the only reason why they wanted to make me compatible was to use me.
Yes dating sucks. You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Once you get over that, you'll feel better about dating. If someone berates you for not being compatible, that's their problem.
oh trust me, I got over after high school. except that my cup of tea was to do not date at all because today marriage is just water down prostitution at a subliminal level. lots of men are holding the same views as me nowadays
the need to use personal attack reveals who's really bothered. it sounds like my views on dating exploits who you are in many ways otherwise you wouldn't be this offended. but next time please dont use "we" as luckily you do not speak on behalf of all women out there.
It's about extremes. They don't want a sexually aggressive guy or a prude. They want a guy that will fuck their brains out, but who doesn't ask or talk about it 24/7.
I don't know why that is confusing for you. We like sex, so we don't want a prude. But we also don't want a sexual deviant who doesn't want anything else. In other words we want a normal guy.
The only one I never met was the very prude one, but you can believe whatever you want. And did you understood why girls don't want someone on the extreme end of the spectrum?
It’s not. Most women are fine if you talk about sex and sexuality. Just do it in a respectful way. Being a prude reads as immature. You’re in your 30s, not a teenager.
I’ve gotta be honest I just read the title and gave a generic answer. If you’re not into sex then that’s fine. But most people are into sex. So just date other people who aren’t into sex. Women aren’t hard to please. We want to be seen as people and also as sexual beings. Perverts only see us as walking vaginas. And prudes don’t satisfy our sexual desires.
That’s not the best of both worlds. That literally just treating women like normal human beings. Men are seen as people who have sexual desires. Why can’t you see women that way too?
I don’t want a monk during the day, and I don’t know who the hell John Holmes is. We want a guy that treats us respectfully and cares about, but also wants to have awesome sex with us. This is not rocket science. This is not a difficult concept to comprehend. Do you have like a mental or learning disability or something?
John Holmes was the king of porn, if you know how to use google you will see he's the first thing to come up when you search him.
" We want a guy that treats us respectfully and cares about, but also wants to have awesome sex with us"
no is not rocket science is concrete example that you want the best of both world. and yeah it sounds like you might be the one with the mental or learning disability or something if you think men are entitled to change who they are for you
I never asked you to change who you are. I clearly said that if you’re not interested in sex then you should date other people who aren’t into sex. John Holmes died in the 80s. I wasn’t even alive in the 80s. Why would you expect me to get your reference of some old ass dead porn star? And I didn’t feel like googling it cause I didn’t care that much. And if you’re such a prude, then why are you knowledgeable about an old ass dead porn star? It’s ok that you’re a lame ass weirdo. Be the best lane ass weirdo you can be. Women are literally asking for basic human respect and sexual satisfaction. It’s not our fault you’re too much of a prude to provide that.
never said I was a prude, I'm pretty sure that if I ask a question about the army or the air force does not automatically mean I am or want to join the military. I wasn't expecting you to know the person I spoke of, I just used him as an example. but oh well it seems like doing research isn't your thing.
"Be the best lane ass weirdo you can be. . Be the best lane ass weirdo you can be. Women are literally asking for basic human respect and sexual satisfaction. It’s not our fault you’re too much of a prude to provide that.. It’s not our fault you’re too much of a prude to provide that."
that's a lot of conclusion jumping you're doing there young one. also if you were really satisfy yourself with your sex life (if you have one) then you wouldn't have to worry about your sex partner (s) not treating you like a human. it sounds like the only people you either have sex with or are offering it to you are the dudes in your college dorm that believe you're only good for one thing and you now feel complexed about it
I also wouldn't be surprised if you block me after you respond to this, since that's the only way the snowflakes on this site are able to get the last word with a sense of victory
