Is this girl letting me tickle her and spank her just to be polite?

[Anonymous]

We met on bumble and had planned a date, and she called the date off shortly before it because of a conflict in values we have (which made perfect sense). The next day, I asked her if she'd be down to just do some casual fun things sometime, like hugging, tickling, and spanking. We met in a public place, and after discussion she decided she can come to my place next time so I can tickle her and spank her.

Does it sound like she's coming to my place to be polite?

Probably just to be polite

Sounds like she thinks it sounds fun

I can't conclude

[Anonymous]

It depends. How intense is she going to let you be when you tickle and spank her? Is it just like playing around or full-on with restraints and everything?

[Asker]

I intend just playing around, no full on restraints. Not sure if she understood that

[Opinion Owner]

What did you say to her about it?

[Asker]

The exact words I said after she said a relationship wouldn't work out between us was "Might you be down to just do some casual platonic fun things sometime, like hugging, tickling, spanking? Stuff like that? Or do you only do that kind of stuff with people you want a relationship with?" And she said she wanted to meet me in person before deciding. So we met, and I expressed a desire to do those things to her, and she said she could come to my place the next time we meet. There was no discussion of bondage or anything like that

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think she'd of gone that far if she was just being polite. Maybe start a conversation with her about it and try to find out what she's expecting. Just make sure you don't come across as unconfident.

[Asker]

Do the words "I'm down for it if you are" sound unconfident?

[Opinion Owner]

Not usually, but depends on the context

[Asker]

Ok. Thanks for your help!

[Opinion Owner]

Let me know how it goes! x

[Asker]

Will do!