Yes and no depends on the woman really some women love to talk about different topics make up, fashion, men, boys or anything else they are interested in but the quiet ones are not really into talking that much they would rather listen to others unless spoken to or unless they are excited about something :)
The quiet one i would rather listen or spend quality time by myself rather than listening or talking about what outfit I got or how I broke my nail or anything like that unless it's an intellectual conversation then I'm willing to listen and join in on the topics or just simply Learn from others :)
I appreciate you taking the time to answer and educating me.
I admit I do like hearing women talk about their outfits or their thought processes snout various things. I just want yo try and understand even better. So I can be a better partner in the future.
Sorry I just seen that they don't really open up to you. Some women find it hard to trust others so they take time to open up to them.
The best thing you can do is make them feel comfortable really listen to what they have to say, smile be relaxed around them and even compliment them to make them feel more at ease :)
Thank you very much for saying that. I try to make them feel at ease by asking about themselves, and listen to them. Then I try to move on from there depending on what they say.
I would recommend not doing that straight away as it can turn some women off try to focus on her ask her questions etc and then talk a little about yourself about what you do etc but try to avoid the vulnerable topics unless she decides to get very vulnerable with you then it's safe to do the same :)
Yes I do. I ask them questions. I listen and ask more questions. And I feel I am ALWAYS the initiator. No one comes up to me. Even to send a text message. :(
It might be the women you are talking to. I try to respond to everyone who talks to me. It is part of my nature as well as my job. I am by nature a friendly person.
Women do talk, comparatively, a lot more than men. It's, on average, 20,000 wpd vs. 7,000. That's a big spread. So much so, that men often find it difficult to 'keep up.' Woman: meet brevity. I don't think you've been acquainted.
But what you're asking is really quite complicated. It's not that they want to talk so much, that this propels them to talk to whomever, whenever. Far from it. It's more about finding the 'right' people, time, and place to do it.
"What would you like to talk about?" is not something people really say all that often. It's why people ask others, "So how are you doing?" It's nice and open-ended, and a lot of people like that. It opens the door to anything that might be on their mind, or have happened. But that's more appropriate, and more easily answerable, if it's someone you know well. Asking a stranger this is not enough of a teaser. The initiator of the conversation bears most, or more, of the burden. If you are willing, but you don't know anything about the motivation of the other person, then you've got to have some tools and tricks in your kit, and open-ended is, frankly, a bit dull and uninspiring.
Mind you, some people like idle chit chat; some loathe it; and then there's everything in between. On gag, I suggest you use one of the qs here, as the inspiration or impetus.
And then you've got the scenario/situation, which is that guys are still mostly the initiators, and the girls hang back. So you experiencing this is what almost every guy experiences.
You also have to do with a climate created by your fellow male peers, who are accosting the girls (mostly the ones in their low 20s) with pretty mindless sexual innuendo. They've heard most of it before. And if they haven't, they're either young and inexperienced (in which case, it's totally inappropriate), or they slam that door shut before it even gets going (the block feature is a powerful tool.)
Combine these two together, plus girls' risk-aversion, mistrust, and more cautionary natures, and it's a bit like finding a needle in a haystack, someone who wants to talk with some random guy. How to deal with it, then? Find the commonalities, the similar interests (which is more than possible on gag; but less so on other social sites.)
I remember our chat about design because I really, really like design. I have my particular specialty interests, but I think about the design of things so much (one of my favourite books is called 'The Design of All Things', and you just happen to hit the nail on the head; although, I did answer your q, so that is what brought us together on a commonality. Now, I know nothing about comic books and really have zero interest in that style, but I do like/used to love fashion and clothing design, so that was another bridge.)
The girls on here (and I presume everywhere, in the lower age bracket) are cagey. Some might also call them aloof, unfriendly, skeptical, bored, entitled... etc. But some are legitimately cynical about why any guy wants to talk to them. And, many are too insecure to post their thoughts and opinions, even on gag, because they don't want to be challenged or criticized for their views. And that's got fairly little to do with guys (although a few trolls do harrass and act mean.)
So there are many reasons why you're having some issues. And as you can see, it's not just one reason. Communication, especially with people who may not necessarily be inclined to also interact, is a big challenge. Just keep cracking away at it. And remember, it's not just you. All of this staying at home, and digital interaction, and avoidance of people because they have other ways to survive and stay somewhat entertained... it is degrading communication and socializing. No question. Y'all aren't learning how to talk to one another anymore.
Not all of us. Especially if we're introverted or prefer to keep to ourselves. I can go days, even weeks, without uttering a word to anyone and be quite content!
In other words, it depends on the woman and if she feels like she can open up to you. If you want women to talk to you, find a common interest with her, or reason to chat with her, and go from there. But don't force it!
For example, find something you enjoy doing or discussing and find a woman that likes that same topic. Voila- instant discussion right there without any awkwardness.
Lol i’ve been a talker since age 5. I get it from my dad and maternal grandpa. I’m a chatterbox to the fullest. It irks me to be around other chatterboxes cause i feel like i can't get a word in. But it also bothers me to be around quiet people who you have to MAKE talk. So i prefer to just find a good balance of a person who listens and talks
Im always a chatterbox no matter who the person is. You have to already be in your mental comfortzone to be a natural chatterbox. But at the same time, its all in the matter of what you share in common with others and if they attract you intellectually or physically
Im not a girly girl. If i shop, its for graphic tees or kicks or tracksuits and you can totally help carry the bags 😂 But dont worry, i’ll buy you a suit too
FINALLY A GIRL WHO WILL BUY ME MY FIRST TRACKSUIT!!! LMAO. I would totally carry the bags too.
But regardless of if it's shopping or anything else, it feels like women don't want to open up to me, when I try and get them to pick a topic they love talking about.
Its all in the connection. You won't get much conversation out of people you dont have a mental connection with. As a chatterbox, i’ll talk to anyone just because i lvoe to hear myself talk 😂 but without a mental connection, i won't maintain a daily conversation with the person. Talking one day a week or month is preferred. So you eithter need to build a mental connection with someone or go meet other chatterboxes who just love to hear themselves talk
Most mental connections are natural from day one. If you're having to force someone to open up to you, then theyre not interested in the same way you are. I move on from those types quickly
It’s a complicated question that requires a complicated answer. I talk and open up about some things and not others. Depends on who I’m taking to and my comfort level. Everyone on here knows I have no filter about my sex life. Lol. But sometimes other things are harder to talk about.
Yes, I love to talk. Growing up I was very introverted but as I got older I started to talk a lot more, and now I love it and do it all the time. My current boyfriend is quiet and he's not as talkative as I am. But I always talk to my girlfriends.
Both but most of the time my girlfriends and I have more to talk about because they love to talk too. When my boyfriend and I go to social events and stuff, I am always the one who talks to tons of people while he usually doesn't.
I have to talk most of the day, constantly and consistently so depends on the conversation. I have many friends both genders so I always have someone to talk to. I enjoy meaningful conversations, banter and a good joke. A guy doesn't need to help me to talk to him. He can ask me questions... I'm open to conversations about what I am passionate about.
Sometimes you need to take your energy elsewhere. I suggest you don't ask them what they want to talk about. Start a conversation with mutual likes. Thats a good conversation starter... example you like online gaming, play online etc
Like if I am on here, I post an opinion and then we get into messaging. We talk about that starter point but it moves on to other things naturally. But after a while it seems like they are just giving me the simple answers instead of having a conversation and speaking their mind about something they like. So I ask what they would rather talk about and they seem to shut down on me.
It's hard to try to move on when the options are very limited. I don't feel like I have many people to try to talk to so the very few I have, if I have to move on, then it feels like I will be all alone.
That’s fine 😊. Though most of us don’t wanna talk about the mundane details of bra shopping with guys (or even other girls). There are much more interesting things to talk about; what those things are varies from girl to girl.
It depends on the person cause some people make me happy in association and others do not but I try to be nice when possible, even if I do not enjoy their company.
It depends. I would prefer talk about bird, animals, Ducks and like watching TV. I diskie about talking is drama and. gossip. I also diskie about some girls they just judge women that get must attention out guy and be rude to h any way. possible
What if a guy friend came up to you and wanted to get to know you better and asked a lot of questions about the things you liked. Would you talk non-stop or give him a simple answer?
@loves2learn , Yes, we get together some friends of mine from school, after all these years it always gets to talking about sex. All girls it's can be quite funny at times
@loves2learn It always comes down to sex. I meet up with some girls, for coffee and brunch. But by half way it's sex is the subject. . Of the 6 of us 1 is lesbian 2 are bi sexual. The other 3 are curious. It's amasing how horny I feel after our get togethers. Hope I'm not being too open. Sorry.
Thank you both for being as open as you have been during this conversation. I know coming from a man, you would think its cause I want women to talk like that to turn me on. Far from it. In fact you are turning me on emotionally and intellectually, I feel a bit closer to you guys because you are sharing personal experiences, but shoeing me what some/most ladies can be like under the right circumstances.
Reading the other girl responses to this I’m surprised. I didn’t know girls enjoyed talking this much. Maybe this is why I’m single... I’m too quiet for guys or something
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