Which one are you?
The quiet one i would rather listen or spend quality time by myself rather than listening or talking about what outfit I got or how I broke my nail or anything like that unless it's an intellectual conversation then I'm willing to listen and join in on the topics or just simply Learn from others :)
Sounds like the difference between what you talk about is more personality than whether they like to talk in general.
Exactly! :) Depends on the woman :)
Me personally I don't like to talk I would rather listen
I appreciate you taking the time to answer and educating me.I admit I do like hearing women talk about their outfits or their thought processes snout various things. I just want yo try and understand even better. So I can be a better partner in the future.
Sorry I just seen that they don't really open up to you. Some women find it hard to trust others so they take time to open up to them. The best thing you can do is make them feel comfortable really listen to what they have to say, smile be relaxed around them and even compliment them to make them feel more at ease :)
Thank you very much for saying that. I try to make them feel at ease by asking about themselves, and listen to them. Then I try to move on from there depending on what they say.
That's exactly the way to make them open up even try to make them laugh but always be yourself That's the most important thing :)
Sometimes I try to open up about myself to let them know that I am vulnerable and open too.
I would recommend not doing that straight away as it can turn some women off try to focus on her ask her questions etc and then talk a little about yourself about what you do etc but try to avoid the vulnerable topics unless she decides to get very vulnerable with you then it's safe to do the same :)
That way both of you will connect on a deeper level when you listen to her vulnerable topics and then talk about your vulnerable topics
Got it.Thank you for all your help. I don't want to take up too much more of your time now.
No your grand honestly I'm here to help others :)
Thank you for the compliment. I can't wait to hear from you on other questions.
No problem at all happy to help in any way that I can :)
Yes I do. I ask them questions. I listen and ask more questions. And I feel I am ALWAYS the initiator. No one comes up to me. Even to send a text message. :(
It might be the women you are talking to. I try to respond to everyone who talks to me. It is part of my nature as well as my job. I am by nature a friendly person.
I try to talk about things they may like. But I guess I get it wrong. I hope we can talk together.
You can use me as a testing ground but I am very happy in my current relationship.
I was asking for a friendship not a relationship. Sorry for confusing you.
I like to be clear and up front so to avoid hurt feelings
Thank you for being upfront. I like to make it clear I am always respectful to women when we talk in messages.
That is a good approach. Ladies respond better when the man treats them as intelligent, interesting, and respected.
Can we talk in messages?
I am to new to send direct messages
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Your search is over! I am right here. Kidding aside, how does one get you to be that chatterbox?
Im always a chatterbox no matter who the person is. You have to already be in your mental comfortzone to be a natural chatterbox. But at the same time, its all in the matter of what you share in common with others and if they attract you intellectually or physically
To clarify, do I need to shop for women's clothes for you to gush about your brand new outfit you bought last week?
Im not a girly girl. If i shop, its for graphic tees or kicks or tracksuits and you can totally help carry the bags 😂 But dont worry, i’ll buy you a suit too
FINALLY A GIRL WHO WILL BUY ME MY FIRST TRACKSUIT!!! LMAO.I would totally carry the bags too.But regardless of if it's shopping or anything else, it feels like women don't want to open up to me, when I try and get them to pick a topic they love talking about.
Its all in the connection. You won't get much conversation out of people you dont have a mental connection with. As a chatterbox, i’ll talk to anyone just because i lvoe to hear myself talk 😂 but without a mental connection, i won't maintain a daily conversation with the person. Talking one day a week or month is preferred. So you eithter need to build a mental connection with someone or go meet other chatterboxes who just love to hear themselves talk
I usually try and open myself up to them and talk about things or share how I love to learn about things, but that doesn't seem to work.How do I create that mental connection?
Most mental connections are natural from day one. If you're having to force someone to open up to you, then theyre not interested in the same way you are. I move on from those types quickly
Respect for your openness and your honesty. thank you for what you said.
You are welcome. Anytime.
Is it just your boyfriend and girlfriend that you want to be so talkative with?
Both but most of the time my girlfriends and I have more to talk about because they love to talk too. When my boyfriend and I go to social events and stuff, I am always the one who talks to tons of people while he usually doesn't.
So you could talk to strangers and just go on and on?
Which one are you? And how does a guy help you to talk about things you love?
I have to talk most of the day, constantly and consistently so depends on the conversation. I have many friends both genders so I always have someone to talk to. I enjoy meaningful conversations, banter and a good joke. A guy doesn't need to help me to talk to him. He can ask me questions... I'm open to conversations about what I am passionate about.
I respect that you are open to talk about a lot of things with the people you know. I wish I had that with people. I try to ask people "what do you want to talk about" and they say..."I don't know. Anything I guess."
Sometimes you need to take your energy elsewhere. I suggest you don't ask them what they want to talk about. Start a conversation with mutual likes. Thats a good conversation starter... example you like online gaming, play online etc
Like if I am on here, I post an opinion and then we get into messaging. We talk about that starter point but it moves on to other things naturally. But after a while it seems like they are just giving me the simple answers instead of having a conversation and speaking their mind about something they like. So I ask what they would rather talk about and they seem to shut down on me.
Move on to talking to someone that holds your interest then. Talking is an innate ability but great conversation is where many lack.
Thank you for being so helpful with this. It's hard to try to move on when the options are very limited. I don't feel like I have many people to try to talk to so the very few I have, if I have to move on, then it feels like I will be all alone.
Thank you. It's a pleasure😊
Thanks for being honest.
What is that makes you chat more with your friends more than just people who want to have a conversation with you? What is that missing link?
But what about general things, like talking about going shopping, or your favorite show?
That’s fine 😊. Though most of us don’t wanna talk about the mundane details of bra shopping with guys (or even other girls). There are much more interesting things to talk about; what those things are varies from girl to girl.
How do I find those varying things from a girl? Because "what do you want to talk about?" doesn't seem to work.
Hard to tell. Every girl’s different.
Yeah that's tough.
Howdoes one get better at talking to women to foster their desire yo talk a lot?
Do you love to talk to anyone or just people you already know?
I love to talk to anyone i get along with. Some people are just not talkative or give no response.
I mean yes we all talk to other people, but are they (you) the kind of person who could go "all day" talking about things?
@TheBootyChest Well some are and some are not. I'm somewhere in the middle.
So what areas are you most likely to be a chatterbox about?
Why is my approach not humane?
What if a guy friend came up to you and wanted to get to know you better and asked a lot of questions about the things you liked. Would you talk non-stop or give him a simple answer?
What are your favorite topics to talk about?
Anything , sex is nice to talk about.
To educate and share, or to use to get each other off?
Which ever. I'm up for it
That's very cool you are open to talk about things like that.
I like talking about sex tooooo. 😃
@loves2learn , Yes, we get together some friends of mine from school, after all these years it always gets to talking about sex.All girls it's can be quite funny at times
@lucyloo76 me too! I love talking sex with my best friend. And reminiscing about all the porn found at her house in elementary school. Lol
@loves2learn It always comes down to sex. I meet up with some girls, for coffee and brunch. But by half way it's sex is the subject. . Of the 6 of us 1 is lesbian 2 are bi sexual. The other 3 are curious.It's amasing how horny I feel after our get togethers. Hope I'm not being too open. Sorry.
@lucyloo76 not too open at all! My neighbors said yesterday the convo always turns to sex when I’m around. Lol!I am who I am. I love talking about sex. My friend and I are both straight but our talks are fun!
@lucyloo76 @loves2learnThank you both for being as open as you have been during this conversation. I know coming from a man, you would think its cause I want women to talk like that to turn me on. Far from it. In fact you are turning me on emotionally and intellectually, I feel a bit closer to you guys because you are sharing personal experiences, but shoeing me what some/most ladies can be like under the right circumstances. For what its worth coming from me, I thank you.
Any particular subject?
Depends on the type of person she is. But the safest bet is to talk about a popular tv show everyone knows about. :)
Why just tv? Why not things she likes?
Up to you brothaWhatever you think she likes
Is it that they aren't talkers in general or is it just me?
Reading the other girl responses to this I’m surprised. I didn’t know girls enjoyed talking this much. Maybe this is why I’m single... I’m too quiet for guys or something
I think guys don't like silent girls