What does it mean when a girl says “she’s not a whore she just loves a guy’s attention”
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EDIT: GUYS i understand that some guys enjoy a girls attention, but I’m asking what makes girls feel good about getting attention from guys.
Guys like impressing girls, but what makes girl love attention and guys craving them, what’s the sensation. Some people keep saying “well guys do it too” which isn’t really the same thing nor is it the question
Girls like male attention because it makes them feel special and it makes them feel loved. When I get complimented by my guy friend, it makes me feel so special, like I'm that one star in the sky shining the brightest <3 It's a wonderful feeling really. Some girls enjoy male attention because their father's might've not given them enough attention, making them feel unloved (trust, me I know what that feels like). Or maybe, they were given a lot of attention as a child, which makes them crave more. But, I personally like it because it makes me feel special and precious to the guy who's paying attention to me.
You’d be surprised how much we’re insecure about every inch of our body. So a guy, throwing even a little compliment on any girl’s body. EVEN A PINKY TOE.
This is indeed a shocking reveal to me lmao, I’m still a relatively young guy that hasn’t interacted with girls romantically yet, but i thought physically complimenting girls would creep them out, or staring too much would offend them lol
Uh, dont comment on a girls appearance unless she feels good around you. Yes, its true women like such compliments but only from men they like or feel interested in. I guarantee you if some beady eye, nasally voiced, unkempt and overweight stalker told her that her pinky toes were cute, shed run miles away
It depends on the guy. For me, if I were to say anything about anything physical, (let alone general compliments about, say, glasses or a necklace or something) then women HATE it. They act like I just said the most disgusting /weird things a guy could say to them. Not done in a creepy way, or saying something pervy or anything.
Women, at least in my area, are horrible about receiving compliments graciously. I get WAY more sneers and eye rolls and looks of contempt from a compliment than thank yous or blushing or anything positive.
I generally save any "physical" compliments (like something they can't control - like having pretty eyes or something) for girlfriends (the few I've had) - I've cut back on compliments because I'm tired of getting nasty looks when I say something genuine and kind. The only women that seem to take it well are women over the age of 60; perhaps they just assume I'm giving them a genuine compliment and not trying to get into their pants.
Some guys can say anything, and it's fine. It's awesome. Then there are genuine guys who aren't trying to be creepy, who do know a little bit about how to act in social situations... not pervs, and a compliment (let alone flirting) gets the guy immediately labeled and shut out.
It’s about validation. Believe it or not a lot of girls live for human validation whether it be from a male or a female. Society says if you have more male attention that means you’re the most beautiful; if a male has money that means he’s superior than other males.
Beauty does work in the favor for some girls and it’s hard to ignore the external factors. Girls are aware the advantages that beauty bring other girls so they seek out different tactics to lure in males and the attention they’ll give. For instance, social media. Some male’s like to look at females in bikini’s and the result is more bikini pictures posted on Instagram by numerous females.
However, some pictures posted aren’t for seeking validation but there are a handful who does it because it brings in male attention. The dopamine that sparks when that comment of ‘sexy’ or ‘wow you look beautiful’ will keep her in that cycle of seeking instant gratification. Some girls will even be catty to their own kind because they want leverage and it’ll always be a competition.
So women want their bodies to be desired by men. But women are not visual. They do not give attention to male body. They give importance to man's money. So male body has zero sexual value.
Before I answer your question, in response to your update: I really have no idea who thinks guys are the same as loving attention as girls are. I'm sure some guys do, and they are probably the really, really handsom guys. Otherwise, most guys do not get drunk off of that, and whoever has answered your question by suggesting that are people who just consider themselves trying to even a playing field that they imagine is there.
To answer: women love to be glorified. Period. And it goes far beyond just getting attention from guys, although that is the biggest thing they get high off of. Women love getting attention from even other women, especially the jealous ones or the ones who are lower on the social scale who will defer to said women. And women enjoy being glorified for their sex appeal and being able to attract.
Basically they love sexual attention. Which, by the way, is not always in an explicit form. Sexual attention can be as simple as a guy only talking to a girl because she's got great hips in yoga pants, or has an enormous chest even if she's covered.
But the deep irony of the situation is that even when women are not enjoying male attention or even feel threatened or "grossed out" by it, they still enjoy being able to talk about how much this or that happens to them, how many dick pics or dirty messages they get, how they ghosted or brushed off a guy they were not into, etc. They may not like these things, but they like sideways bragging about it just to let us all know they're getting some form of attention.
So basically, they are just obsessed with being worshipped, even if that worship is not always good, they can still get a high from complaining about it, because they'll get a form of attention for that too.
Not "all" girls do... There is a difference between getting attention and loving attention.. Yes some do whatever they can to seek/get attention, but not everyone that gets attention is seeking it or loving it... And too then, what about the men that love female attention? Would you say it's some or all? Are you like, behave the same as every other man out there? Well, neither do I or other women... I get more attention then I'm comfortable with, and no I don't do anything to seek that attention
They seek validation for their attractiveness. It’s an ego boost because they don’t feel confident in themselves without it.
It’s normal to be flattered when someone gives you attention as we all want to be wanted and recognised as hot, but when a girl or guy is always seeking attention or validation, and needs a constant stream of it, it’s almost always due to low self esteem. They don’t believe they’re attractive enough so have to have people tell them how attractive they are.
It's kinda social conditioning. They never been appreciated the way boys got. In school if a guy got into trouble all the time, but has a few moments teachers would praise the shit out of him to motivate him to make more of those moments. If there's a troubled girl she'd be considered as a lost case. I finished elementary in 4 different schools and not once met a girl who was wild but encouraged to be smart. So to women the only way to be recognised is to be agreeable. And the load as motherfuckers like myself will always outshine agreeable people, because there's something romantic about being outrageous and intelligent. So women had significantly less room to be themselves and be appreciated and by depriving them from being appreciated for who they are our society pushes them into this attention seeking role.
Is it make attention. They’re actually Competing with each other.
However as long they’re are losers simps who will kiss their asses. By worshiping then. And keep throwing meaningless complements. This will get worse. Which is what all guys do.
Go look at the comment section. Is all praising praising praising…
In reality all this does is makes women feel More Empty, they’ll find out their own deep depression as they grow older.
For now if they’re young and attractive they'll be married to their phone.
It's often down to self esteem issues and the attention makes them feel better about themselves. It's not just specific to women though, you see guys doing the same, just not in quite the same way. Both men and women enjoy attention from the opposite sex, but what your talking about it something more extreme than recieving compliments, it's more of an addition to these people, like if they don't receive the attention they actually feel down.
There's all different types of attention that people give people. Summer way out of line and some are very sweet and kind. I like the very sweet and kind because I like to be invisible I don't want to be seen I don't want to be heard and if I am around a girl that likes to have bold attention I have to walk away
Biologically if she has male attention she feels the most safe and comfortable because he or they will protect her. Social media perpetuates a false sense of attention for women because you only get the image of how people want to be perceived, not of how they truly are.
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In our society women are praised for their youth and beauty. As long as she's getting attention that means people want them , men want to fuck them. They can live comfortably , earn high money , validation. However as she age , it's starting to fade. To be fair a lot of women dont offer anything but their body. If their looks fade they get almost invisible or dead if she doesn't have other skill to make it up for. For guys it's different , if a guy isn't top looking or rich , he's invisible for most young women be it average or below average.
If you buy a Mercedes, you'd show it to everyone, no? Even if not everyone's dream car is mercedes, you'd like compliments, ego boost and swelling pride?
The answer is so obvious.
Attention seeking behavior can be unhealthy, sure, but everyone are guilty of it. From shyest introvert to the most open extrovert - we all want to be seen. To be popular. For what? Now that's a good question.
Unless I'm mistaken I think most people these days, whether male or female, love being the centre of attention. The fact that we now have things like 'TikTok' doesn't help matters either, for they were especially made for narcissists.
The question I'd like to know is why so many females don't believe in or practice returning the affection (over time), yet still expect it to be showered onto them forever?
Attention seeking behaviour means the person has low self-esteem and deeply rooted mental health issues. They’re not happy with themselves and tend to have some sort of personality disorder like usually Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
I have no clue, I just like attention regardless of gender. Not in a romantic/sexual way, I'm just starved if attention from being the least favourite of four children so I want people to talk and listen to me or get hugs from 😂
@mobiusforniner maybe she doesn't want to date anyond at this point in her life.
Every girl loves compliments if they are respectful and genuine. We like to be reminded we have options. It makes us feel good, but a lot of the time thats all it is. Getting attention from guys you don't like really doesn't mean much, but it can be an ego boost for your own selfish reasons.
Selfish reasons sounds quite harsh, didn't mean it like that, but what I'm saying is a lot of the time people flirt for themselves than for the other person involved. They aren't thinking about the other person, just the attention they get and how it makes them feel.
Maybe cause my daddy growing up was mad at me and i was scared of him... So as a woman, i want a mans attention. I domt think i go to lengths some other girls go. I dont dress hot or even use social media to post photos of myself. But if i get catcalled sometimes or if guys at work seem attracted to me and if i like himtoo... Yeah it can be a little high for me. But i try control it internally because those highs are so meaningless and vapid... They dont last.
Women want their bodies to be desired by men. But women are not visual. They do not give attention to male body. They give importance to man's money. So male body has zero sexual value.
Who doesn't like attention from the opposite sex? Ask anyone, literally anyone and they will tell you that they love positive attention, like compliments, flirting and being looked at. Means you look good, mean you are good. So you feel like you are valued, like you are great and of course that feel very good.
I don't love male attention because I don't need nor want their validation, I'm perfectly content with myself and so are some other girls. You should have said "why do some girls love male attention so much?"
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I don’t literally mean all girls but most girls, its kinda implied
This is me, it's not appealing to me unless it comes from my partner. Other then that I would prefer not to be complimented I think it's actually unnecessary. I simply am polite to others if they do. If they act like pigs then I just give them the big eye brow and ignore them.
yeah it makes me feel wanted most of the time guys give me attention I don't have to try a lot to gain it so it makes me feel special and confident and a bitch... And I just love this 'guys following me always' thing
Because their biological job in nature is to get the other half of the species to want to be inside them? The attention is a sign that what she's doing is working.
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For the same reason guys love female attention. This is just human nature. And of course not all guys want attention from girls but not all girls want attention from guys either. 😐
Because they are whores. The same attitude actual whores have, these girls have. Thats why they are called attention whores. Its not any better than being an actual whore. Girls who do this are terrible people.
It’s by nature, they need us more than how we need them, Because women can’t live without men, believe it not , women can’t live without because they have are earn comes through a man
That's a little harsh of a question. We all like the attention of the opposite sex. And it's healthy to want it. Of course there are both males and females who go to the extreme.
I saw some good answers from girls here. I will just add that peer pressure/wanting to be cool might influence some teen girls to act lewdly on tik tok.
So women want their bodies to be desired by men. But women are not visual. They do not give attention to male body. They give importance to man's money. So male body has zero sexual value.
They feel like a piece of crap about themselves so they have to decorate themselves with expensive jewelry or luisvitton bag and feel like something valuable.
So women want their bodies to be desired by men. But women are not visual. They do not give attention to male body. They give importance to man's money. So male body has zero sexual value.
Well not too long ago, this one girl told me she goes out and gets laid to make herself feel pretty again. We’re not the same, of. course, but hey some people do it and find it to be the most normal thing. Unless they ask for my advice, they’re not getting it lol
Re update this is not a guy/girl question. It is a human question. Attention-seekers are motivated to receive attention, boost their self-esteem and feel desired. Or more than that whether they are male or female. Gender isn't important.
Well let's be real here, everyone wants to be acknowledged in someway, even deep down inside those emo's who are dark and gothic who hate the world and want to be alone all the time also want to be acknowledged. I personally don't get that attention from women/girls, maybe I do and I don't realize it because my back is turned or whatever. But seeking more attention is a narcissistic trait and yeah more girls and more guys are doing it these days as a form of validation and it's unhealthy. That's the problem with social media. But if I pinpoint this on girls why they want attention its because that's what magazines, talk shows and etc. have taught girls at a young age to do. Watching Keeping up with the Kardashians is not exactly an intelligent show that stimulates someone's mind on different socioeconomic or political issues. I know guys who are famous YouTubers who do good deeds only because they post it for millions to watch online of (look what good deed I did) that's a guy seeking attention to for the wrong purpose.
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