Nope, not at all. While I believe the ability to cook is a good life skill to have (regardless of gender), I certainly don't think it's a "requirement" or any kind of a "prerequisite" for a woman to be able to cook. We all come from different backgrounds and the world is changing. It's 2021, not the 1800s.
I'm lucky in that my mom taught me and my older brother how to cook from a young age (I've been in the kitchen since I was 5), so I am able to cook for myself and don't have to depend on anyone to cook for me. But if she doesn't know how to cook, I'll cook for her. 😉
But I'd say if we both cook that it should be a shared chore. Because, nothing says "I love you" and that you actually care than taking the time to cook for someone you love and enjoy it together. 😊
My favorite thing is grilling meat of various kinds, but I can make 30+ kinds of dinner meals, including a full Thanksgiving turkey and mashed potatoes meal. I also make hand-tossed pizzas and calzones, but one of my favorites is pan-fried chicken with homemade mac and cheese.
KInda fits with what you have stated, but I think it is good and cool for the husband/wife or BR/girlfriend to cook their meals together. It is a healpful and bonding moment.
@SuperDupper10 no. Stay the hell out of my way when I'm cooking. I'm in a whole mode and zone and you are just going to mess me up. You can keep me company and pass me the odd thing but don't meddle.
@coulis I'm going to be grilling up a tri-tip roast in about an hour, and making some oven-fried potato slices (olive oil and parsley on them) and some veggies.
Not sure where you are located, but tri-tip roasts are a California specialty. This cut of meat used to be discarded because people didn't know how to cook it, but Californians started marinating and grilling them, and either serving the sliced meat as an entre, typically with some kind of potatoes, or making tri-tip sandwiches. California now consumes nearly the entire country's supply of tri-tip, so it isn't readily available in most places, but it is delicious! My friends fight each other for invites.
@MrOracle š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤ I'm from Toronto but am in Africa right now. Never heard to tri tip. All of that looks sooooo delish. I would imagine you aren't into picky eaters. I don't want to assume just a supposition.
Honestly, I'm a pretty picky eater. I wish I wasn't - but for example, I don't eat any kind of seafood (even though I used to be a grill cook in a seafood restaurant for a while, until a waiter position opened up), and there are lots of fruits and veggies that I don't care for - especially the "healthy" crap like kale or whatever new thing they're pushing.
Still, despite being picky, I can cook a decent range of American, Mexican, and Italian food. And I can definitely sympathize with other picky eaters.
@coulis NAILED IT! Love to see a woman who knows her stuff and chooses not to buy into the toxic feminist propaganda that aims to sabotage both men and women
I think everyone should know how to make a few basic things. I'm very handicapped in this department. I can't even mash potatoes correctly according to my husband.
He's the cook in our house. I bet that I have cooked one totally unassisted meal for us in the decade we've been together lol
A growing number of men are finding it better to remain single. As such those same men learn to cook for themselves. Since the likelihood is you too shall remain single, it is in your beat interest to learn how to cook so you can feed yourself unless you are planning on dining out and take out for the rest of your life. Either that or find yourself a house-husband. That phenomenon also seems to be growing in popularity.
Final note, I never knew a man with a career who he himself did not know how to cook and do so, too. That women have chosen to enter the workforce does not preclude them from basic domestic necessities. It just means you can lessen those domestic duties with the expense of a house cleaning service and perhaps a gardner should she chose. A full time cook is awfully damn expensive so unless she is making a seriously high income or hiring an āundocumentedā international visitor and paying them under the table a peanuts income ā¦ neither which I see most career women ever doing ā¦ well, you still need to cook even if just for yourself. After all, takeout and dining out nightly gets old and expensive very fast.
Even though everyone should know how to cook, the fact that you're asking this question goes to show that feminism has done a great job in sabotaging women and make them question their feminine attributes. In my case and that of many men, we are not interested in a woman who does not know or even worse, does not desire to cook. For herself, her man or her family for that instance. These are very often the same women who have an entire list of requirements for men, but somehow it is not PC when a man desires a woman who wants to cook for him.
Both my girl and I work. I'm the one who truly brings home the bacon and is paying the bills. Especially since my line of work is far harder than hers'. My girl loves to cook for the both of us and it puts a smile on her face when she sees me enjoying her food. We both invest in the relationship. She cooks, cleans and gives me regular sex. In turn, I spoil the shit out of her.
1) I think everyone should know how to cook. If you don't how are you feeding yourself when not in a relationship?
2) Men are still expected to do a lot of things for women, that are not really equal. Ask you out, plan dates, pay for them, buy you things on valentines day, take out that trash, cut the grass, act "like a man", etc... So is expecting a woman to know how to cook really asking that much?
Men like women that can cook. If you don't want to cook, find one that doesn't care. Don't shame men for wanting what we perceive as feminine qualities that we like, just like we aren't supposed to shame you for wanting those other outdated norms that men still are forced to participate in.
Thatās a sexist remnant of our culture. No one is required to cook because of their gender. The expectation is sexist and backwards. Also, these days there are many ways to learn (watch YouTube cooking videos or whatever) and ways to buy made food for little expense. So itās not like bringing home someone who can cook is necessary to build a household. Everyone can learn with a little effort. I learned all I know about cooking as an adult after moving away from home, and Iām more than a decent cook.
Cooking is a useful skill for both genders. Look at it from a man's perspective. He meets two women, who he considering a LTR. All other factors being equal, if one woman knows how to cook and enjoys cooking, the man is probably going to choose that woman.
Men who primarily looking sex won't care if you can cook as much because there is no long term plan involving you. But for the long term, cooking matters.
During the holidays, the women will often congregate in the kitchen and the men in the living room. If you don't know how to cook, you will be awkward in such a social situation.
I guess only if she gets hungry I was doing a job probably about three blocks from my house Monday and a lunchtime I went to my house to have lunch couple guys that I request came over to I forget what it was that I had I think of this spicy Mexican dish that I make but I asked him if he wanted some nice it's your then all the sudden I hear did you make this I said yes they said no you didn't I said yeah where'd you learn how to cook I said one day I got hungry I personally love to cook because I like to eat good it doesn't really matter if girl knows how to cook that makes you learn sooner or later can't be afraid of it you got to just do it if it doesn't taste good the first time you make it it will the second time you make it
"Equal footing?" Not really. That would mean she contributes just as much financially to the home, kids, utilities, etc. plus does an equal amount of work around the house (including outside stuff), and works just as many hours per week as he does. If someone breaks in the house and is going to try to harm the family (you, your kids, your husband) is it okay for him to hide and expect you to defend the family? If your answer is no, then that also means there is no "equal footing." Equality in a relationship is a lie. I have never seen it in real life.
Yup. Studies consistently show women are working more hours overall (if you include paid work, housework and childcare) than men. Though yes, in general, if someone breaks in, most people expect the man to take charge.
To cook like Gordon Ramsay, well, off course not. But to know how to cook so to be independent, yes, it would be nice, although if I love her is not a requirement. Anyways, I know how to cook, and I make some good plates, but I also find very helpful that my girlfriend knows how to cook, too. We save lots of money cooking at home and we both know how to recognize good materials so we have a healthy and balanced alimentation. My ex, per example, didn't know how to cook, and when I was working until late she used to order pizza or restaurant food that a person who knows how to cook would make efficiently at home at 1/3 of the budget. So, yes, for me cooking is the key to independence, even more than driving.
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My mom cooked and took care of 4 kids. I learned to cook by age 10 and gradually learned to perfect certain dishes. Today, I work, Iām doing my masters, I help my parents clean the garage, cook for myself, take out the trash, vacuum, do laundry, work out and etc. To answer your question, for me personally itās not something Iām looking for. My mom was a good cook and she taught me so I donāt mind cooking. However, she needs to know some stuff.
I donāt want to enter an era where girls use āI canāt cook because I workā as an excuse because that mindset is no different then women or girls complaining that men and guys are sexist pigs who want females to stay in the kitchen. Women canāt be lazy either and expect to be pampered. I learned to cook at a young because I wanted to show my mom that I was not like my dad, that I could make food where she thought it was good and that I could help my wife one day. A marriage, a relationship is a team effort, it canāt be one-sided.
It doesn't matter if she can cook or not. But it's good for anyone to learn how so they can make tasty food. I learned how to cook when I was kid with my sisters, we had fun making things in the kitchen. Cooking is fun. If a women doesn't want to cook, that's fine but she's missing out on the fun it is, steamed buns, home made apple pie, stuffed peppers, Italian meatballs, baked fish, etc. People can learn different skills in life, it doesn't matter if you are male or female. Only feminists would say only one sex has to cook.
No any adult should know how to cook. It's an important life skill. Any who thinks that gender defines the importance of a skill is an idiot. I know how to do lots of household chores and even enjoy some. id them which in the past due to the idiocy of the male gender thought it's a woman's job it's not.
And honestly so what if my partner. couldnt cook I'd teach then what I know if they wanted or we could learn together. J would prefer them to be able to cook a few things even simple just so If we lived together I didn't have to cook everynight which k hope is a reasonable thought.
And if dating someone or living with a partner alternate who cooks you can try new things and even have fun little competitions that way. Or you can cook together.
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Men and women show their love in different ways. Yes, women work now, but that doesn't mean they can stop showing their love. To me, a woman knowing how to cook is very important. It makes her more loveable, attractive and respectable in my opinion.
But sadly, today women have largely turned their backs on the skill of cooking because they see it as a "traditional gender role". But unfortunately, women are slowly but surely removing all the things that make them valuable and attractive to men... except for sex. That's why we see so many questions from women on GAG asking why men no longer want relationships and marriage... only sex. Well, it shouldn't really be that big a mystery.
I am a better cook than 95% of women my age, and most of my friends are too. That's pretty sad.
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@btbc92 I guess what they say is true... you are the most bitter old woman on GAG.
@btbc92 Oh, you're bitter alright. You genuinely come off as one of the most bitter women in the history of GAG, and I have seen a lot of them come and go over the years. In pretty much everything you wrote here you put off a vibe as a bitter, man hating old women who is struggling with the fact she can't attract and keep a decent man. You are essentially a feminist who doesn't realize that is the level she has sunk to.
@btbc92 "I am a traditional woman. So don't call me bitter."
LMAO. Some of the most bitter women I've ever met were traditional women. That has nothing to do with you being bitter. Your problem, like all other bitter women, is that you blame your own failures as a woman on men.
Firstly, you ASSUME that of me. I am not bitter. I used to be bitter very young. I am not bitter anymore. God had taken that bitterness away from me. However, even a righteous person will get angry at wickedness, darkness, and sin. And that is what I get angry and call out. You do not know me to be making such blatant remarks without insulting. Then when you get personally insulted back, you want to say how I am man hatting. I do NOT appreciate that word. I do not hate MEN. I HATE what you DO. NO different than what women do. I am not a feminist. I am a Christian woman with spiritual and Christian values and I follow and believe the ways of the lord. Not the world. So if "traditional women" come off as bitter. WHY are they bitter? Because you don't treat women right. You have entitlement and thinking because you're a man you can just do whatever you want. No, you cannot. And you're bitter about it.
What failures do I have other then sin that many don't already have and do?
I never dated a man. I am a virgin. I never masturbated or watched porn. I know how to cook the best way I can. My late mother was a housewife and even worked the best way she could. I was her caregiver. Now caregive to one of my grandparents. I always cleaned the house. I am always been keen, kind and respectful. I am mindful of my manners. I am culturally sensitive to others different from my own. Especially international cultures. I always say, sir, ma'am, good morning, good afternoon. I respect people's boundaries. I have always been respectful to my teachers, my family members, and friends. I always held the door for others, got things for people, even shopping carts for the elderly. I don't drink. I don't party. I don't smoke. I don't do drugs. I don't hang with gang members. Or rebellious children. I stay out of clubs, bars, and people who are essentially like you.
I attract PLENTY of men. I am not LOOKING to keep a man because I am not MARRIED to one. It is not my job to keep a man. It is my job to honor my GOD. And his son Jesus. If God wants me with a husband, and he says he would love for me to. That is my business between my Father in heaven and I and that man. It is not your business who I pair up wth or don't. God is in control. And that is what men like you despise. How your NOT in control. You have shamed the Lord, claiming yourselves to be Godly men, and you not that is why many of you don't have a WIFE. And can't even keep 1. Many of you have parties and are not virgins yourselves. Many of you lusted after females and degrade women and respect women to sexually display themselves in manners that are not of the Lord. You demand, demand and demand, yet you do not produce good fruit. You don't know to reap and sow good seeds. You keep sowing poor ones.
No. I am not and you can keep your curses to yourself. I do not give a damn what any of you psycho, toxic, mentally ill people have to say. I have seen and encountered plenty of men, especially those who don't think so. And they PM me their sentiments because they don't want any of you people to hear. I have more respect for those men and the kind gentlemen that is Christian that I met last week who says some kind words. It is men like yourself who are not worthy of a woman's heart. Period. Until you change your ways, you're just going to make somebody else miserable. Your not all that yourself, nor "got it made". So stop acting as you do. I could have married many years ago. But those men were not for me. Period.
So opinion owner. No disrespect, you speak so much Bullsh*t. Men like you are below my level and have nothing to show for themself. You don't need to be rich to be a decent man or person. You're just not a man I would find myself liking or being attracted to. There are other men who are deserving of me, just in the wrong place, wrong country, and perhaps at the wrong time. If this was the 1880s I definitely would have been married by 16 with maybe 4 kids by now. It would be you as a man scrambling for prostitutes. So do you think I want a man less than what I do and provide for myself? Especially with your nasty attitude? No. Hell, the freaking NO. And over my dead body.
@btbc92 Thanks or sharing that long list of your "virtues". Lol I got about halfway through it and stopped reading because it's so clear to everyone what you're doing. I've read enough of the stuff you've posted on GAG in recent months to know without a doubt that your heart is filled with darkness. You are angry and bitter toward men, and that comes through loud and clear to anyone who reads what you write. Denying that obvious fact is like an alcoholic denying that they are addicted to alcohol. You have a serious problem, but you are the last person to recognize it.
Trying to characterize your bitterness as something else, or trying to justify it, just makes you look worse than you already do. You're not doing yourself any favors. You are already well down the path to being a lonely old cat lady and the only person who can change that otherwise inevitable outcome is you. But that has to start with you being honest with yourself.
You are an angry, bitter woman at age 29!!! That is an indisputable fact. What you do with that information is up to you.
No. My heart is filled with light. Not darkness. The fact you can't even see that tells me a lot about you. So no. I don't have to deny anything that I already know the truth of. So I owe you no explanation. You just want to judge me for qualities you lack because you are the very thing you accuse me of. And when you're challenged you call me bitter because again you feel that entitled. I got news for you. No, good women do not like men like you. Period.
No. that is because when you have sinned, you think I am bitter because I am the type to admonish and correct and you hate CORRECTION because you feel convicted. So I honestly do not care what you assume of me, do you don't know me beyond here or offline to line. I am not bitter towards men. I have plenty of guy friends who would tell you otherwise. And respects me, and would fight you in my defense if you ever decide to want to pick a fight with me. That does not come through loud and clear, you just don't want to hear it. Calling me man hatting because I hate sin? Funny. Most things I say are out of the Bible. Your right I have a serious problem, I have a serious problem with sin, wickedness, and you people choosing to lie, harm and influence each other in bad ways and manners. You don't like it when somebody confronts you. I am not SUBMITTING myself to a bad man who is ungodly, unloving not compassionate, and doesn't have the heart of God. The fact that you think I would be lonely with a cat is disturbing.
WHY would you people ever hurt somebody like that saying they need a cat? What godly person speaks like that? You're disgusting! I will rather be alone than to be with a man like YOU. God never told me any of that. He protected me from men like yourselves because you not deserving. I begged no man for anything yet you shame and degrade women. I am referring to men like yourself. Thank God not every man is like that. Just men who refuse to change and call me bitter. Like I said, plenty of guys would be interested. What they do not understand is how somebody like me could still be SINGLE. Until I tell them of men like you, and they're shocked. The fact that another man, especially on this site, and you may know him, have to APOLOGISE to me for the horrible acts and words that were said to me, to apologize for the whole gender is sad. He felt the need to apologize. When he didn't have to. I am tired of getting hurt. Of being bullied. Of being assaulted, and abused. You everything that I would not like in a man. You are that bitter and you refuse to see that, and your comments and replies show this. When are you going to wake up to your reality? I am not afraid to be alone. I have my God. Because I am moving to a brighter future away from you toxic people.
I know guys like you who hate that list of virtues I have because you lack them yourself. And you badly WANT women like me but are pissed you can't have me. So your shame, and you mock, and you continue to lie and can't be honest. You read no amount of enough stuff because you focus too much on the hell I have to deal with you users and not the good I equally deal with on here. Everybody goes through problems, but sadly, you people think because I am "nice", that I have to tolerate your BS. And I would have told you no different even if we met in public. I am a quiet, private person who just avoids you like the plague. You know zip about me to make those judgments.
"Yes, women work now, but that doesn't mean they can stop showing their love. "You're lacking somewhere. A woman has to work, that is REALITY. She, like men, cannot just stop doing what they're doing to always give you something. That means you weren't loved much when you were growing up and you expect us to "show you our love", but women need their space too. Women don't mind showing her man and husband love, but not a man who is consequently needy and clingy. You demand so much from a woman. We are already in your presence, you cannot smother us to death, women don't like that.
" To me, a woman knowing how to cook is very important. It makes her more loveable, attractive and respectable in my opinion." And that is your right. that is your standards. NOBODY here is attacking those standards. I believe women should cook also. It is your ATTITUDE about it is worries me. Because you're saying you will only see her loveable, etc when she does more than what others may not provide. That is wrong. Back in the day, you got who you had as a wife. And unless you wanted to be in the corner of the house, you respected your wife, or you had none. This is why I don't like modernness because many of you were not taught. My family was taught, which is why many of them had marriages and great-grandchildren. I stay away from you for a reason. You not like the men of old who isn't whiny and complaining like a woman especially what jobs he is expected to do. A man doesn't need to tell me what my job is. the question is do YOU know what your job is. I don't want any lazy man. You better till the fields and not sit on the coach.
"But sadly, today women have largely turned their backs on the skill of cooking because they see it as a "traditional gender role". ,<-- Again no. You are spreading misinformation. What we women do not want is ABUSE. Period. Women were allowed to be raped and beaten half to death and they were treated worse than cattle. NO feminism here. I took the ancient and medieval classes. One book I recommend is this:
Get educated instead of speaking junk. I would say what I say if I never experienced abuse myself at the hands of my father or even reading up about this. There are some points feminist makes that are sadly true. Despite how they come off, they do have some knowledge. What I find sad is you fail to educate yourself on the matter. Even the 1920s wasn't that great. My grandma would have told you to be a man because she raised over 3 children by herself and was married. She is almost 100. Women had it ruff back then and men had to cope with just as much work. The fact for you to say women as a whole are slowly removing things that make us valuable are you mocking God. And you're blind to see that. Do you really think God is going to give you a Godly woman with that attitude and mindset? No. Because he told me that. You don't want relationships or marriage because it's too much WORK for you.
What you people call BITTERNESS, is actually REBUKE, Chastisement, and CORRECTION. It is stern warnings and you call me bitter. Look up those words and actually learn something. It is correction and you people are just a wicked, rebellious, and an evil generation.
And those of you who call yourselves men are not MEN. Your just males with penises. Very few are actually men. Men, real men do not behave like any of you behave. I have met them and I thank God for them. their not perfect, but they don't act like you and don't easily get angered as you do, which sadly is a habit I learn HOW to do. Guess where I learned that behavior from? You. Men. Anger seems very well to be the case of the language you know how to speak and not kindness nor compassion.
I think it's extremely useful for anyone who lives by themselves to know how to cook. It also makes it easier to balance what we find tasty with healthy, for example, when you get to control every single ingredient that goes into a meal. I never found it that important that a woman can cook though since I can cook for the both of us. I do hope that if I'm cooking 100% of the time that she might at least assist me with washing the dishes.
I actually sometimes wish my wife didn't like cooking so much as bizarre as that sounds! :-D But she makes these super tasty refined carb-heavy dishes, like pasta. And I love those but I eat one plate and I want another, and another. I start to get love handles eating her cooking. Meanwhile, the dishes I always cook are kind of fitness-compatible, like a low-carb chile con carne, or Indian curry dish with no added sugar, or chicken breast and asparagus with melted cheese. If I include lots of carbs, they're usually fibrous sources like beans or lentils. You know, stuff that -- for my body at least -- makes it easy to lean down and stay lean.
So when I'm starting to get a little bit chubby, I tend to take over cooking like 80% of the time between my wife and me. If I'm getting lean, it can go down to 50%.
whether you can cook or not, should be about yourself first and foremost... the first person you would be cooking for is... yourself, it's quite a helpful skill for any grown up... no need to make it about gender roles and/or sexism, patriarchy and such
I think it's a good skill for anyone to have, regardless of sex. Cooking your own meals with whole ingredients is so much healthier (and tastier, in my opinion) than eating out or ordering takeout all the time, not to mention cheaper! I find it quite enjoyable as well.
Every person should know how to cook. Women especially because you need to feed your family and it is important a man definitely knows how to cook. Knowing how to cook should be one of the main requirements for marriage and having a family. And a man knowing how to cook should most certainly be a requirement in case the person is out of commission to cook.
It's important for everyone to know how to cook, not just the ladies. It's a survival skill, no one wants to live permanently on just sandwiches. This becomes more important if a couple has children, the kids need to eat decent food (not only canned or frozen pre made stuff) and both parents should be able to make at least one decent meal.
I think it´s still that women can cook because it´s a basic human skill. I don´t ask a woman to cook for me because I like cooking as well but I would prefer a woman who can cook because that shows to me that she has a healthy relationship to food. A person that´s not being able to cook is more likely to eat junk food than a person who likes cooking.
Everyone irrespective to the gender should know how to cook at least a bit. It's one of the most basic survival strategy techniques. Every single person needs to know how to do basic things to be a functional adult..
Honestly, everyone should know how to cook. It is a life skill that will be a burden to your future partners if you don't learn it. Doesn't matter if you are male or female, if you can't cook then you are dumping it on your partner, or will someday.
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