Do you bite your tongue or your cheeks more often from crying in front of people or ever?

[15_Debo]

I always do it...
I hate to show people my vulnerable side...
I do cry but alone...
WHAT ABOUT YOU?

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Ok guys don't often or never cry
but for girls what do u do
and guys what do u think why girls do it if they do?

[Nik1hil]

I don't need to..

Why would I inflict more pain to avoid crying in front of anyone..
I don't need to Bite..
I can turn emotions off and not feel and hence not cry..

[15_Debo]

are you really starting to act like one of the vampires from TO/TVD?

[Nik1hil]

No..
1)- I had a physically and verbally abusive psycho mother living with me.. As a toddler.. Than meant constant beating and verbal abuse.. From age 6 till 14..

2)-Along the same time I was physically hit and insulted by teachers in school..
3)-While getting bullied by a couple of guys on the way back home from school and while learning to ride bicycle..
4)- White a kidney stones in both my kidneys were making me sick and trying to kill me..

It was horrible time...
My dad was posted 600 kms so he only visited on weekends..

I attempted suicide 3 times around age of 12.. But failed..
This is like 12 years old news.. From year 2005-2008..

I had a friend who told me become Numb.. Turn it off stop feeling things. If it becomes too painful and you won't attempt to kill yourself... After he found out I attempted suicide...

He has similar shit in life..

Took me being numb for a few years..
But it helped.. And I never attempted suicide for a while until 6th grade I had crush on this girl..
It literally changed my life..
Her smile and laughter fueled me to fight back.. Hoping someday she could be mine..

- I got proper treatment for kidney stones..
- ganged up 6-7 kids and scared away that bully.
- started studying so I don't get insulted in class by teacher & did my homework..
- as I started studying and I realized my mom was mentally in state of mania.. I made her feel secure by talking like therapy.. Took her 5 years to stabilize.. And proper conversation everytime she started having a mental breakdown..

Hey but I pulled through and life still shit.. But I have learned to deal with it..

"TURN IT OFF" is the closest way I can describe to what I learned to do as toddler..

Although even in that "Turn off state" I have little empathy so I won't mercilessly hurt anyone.. 😂🤣

[Nik1hil]

I get TVD is The Vampire diaries..

What's TO?

[15_Debo]

The Originals...

[15_Debo]

I so sorry...
Hope you're all right now...
Yeah I attempted suicide once but my sister stopped me, since then she's been there, encouraging me and my shitty life...

[Nik1hil]

Oh!.. THE ORIGINALS.. Just saw 1 season of that..

You were right.. I was using the TVD reference...
But I wasn't acting..

Hard times come and go..
They turn everyone into ashes..
Some people get blown away with the wind.. Other people rise like Phoenix..

[15_Debo]

Well great mind... I appreciate you

[15_Debo]

I also have conservative parents like u
so I face the same/ similar things...
except for I don't let teachers do that to me.. Usually do the homework and am a good student...

[Nik1hil]

Well... I went to a private school that was basically a hell hole.

Their way to make students do homework was just torture them more..

Once a students in extra class didn't do homework in series after multiple warning..

In 3rd grade..
In front of whole class.. (while girls were in class) the first (Female) teacher removed his shirt than his pants and than his underpants..
While he begged was mercy and cried.. That kid had some sort of illness... He wasn't capable of memorize and process or he had dyslexia..
Because I remember he studied by listening to teacher..
He told me that.. He didn't do homework because he said he failed to read properly and sentence do not make sense..
He was never diagnosed but tortured..

The Headmistress (let's call her Mrs. A. B) encouraged this punishment.. I still hate that bitch..
I think she hated men or something..

But KARMA Got her too..
Her daughter (V. B) turned out to be a lesbian Hoe 😂🤣 she was caught fingering this other girl by multiple students on multiple occasions in middle of classroom lecture..

I am not against LGBTQ.. I am okay with Homosexual people..

But for a women showing hatred towards men.. Finding out her daughter will not have a normal life (according to Indian standards) is a big bite in the ass..

Although I am glad you reminded me..
This bitch tortured me too..
I need to make things even.. I was in 4th grade and she gave me 1 hour of hell..

[15_Debo]

But my mom is no good than you're bitchy teacher
She just makes me do households as punishments and that I hate it makes her do that more...
Indian Bitches...
Not all Indians tho...

[Nik1hil]

My mom made me do household stuff.. -
- Like brooming and mopping house since I was like 10-11 years old..
And I DO NOT HATE her for that..
I only hate her for her physical and verbal abuse..
Apart from that.. Cleaning house and babysitting my 6yr younger brother from age 8-14 (my age)
-Washing dishes on occasion and cooking snack if we want to..
-Brooming the house roof weekly..
-Doing my own laundry starting age of 15 and ironing clothes. I was also going to learn sewing but it was to complicated and summer Vacation ended..
- learning how to make tea/coffee age 12.
- leaning to cook dishes age 16.. Including making the round smooth roti the traditional way and paratha..

I love doing chores they are silly time pass for me..

I know you hate your mom for this right now..

Just way 5 more years and you will start finding doing house chores therapeutic..

[Nik1hil]

Trust me..
Because I am able to do my chores..
My laundry
I can cook
And take care of most of the stuff..
My parents aren't even asking me to get married...
Because I am capable of living on my own..
Learning to take care of my shit..
Gave me more freedom to chose my partner...
Now I can choose a Tik-tok or Instagram level beautiful girl.. Who is bad at doing chores or hates doing chores and still live a prospering life.. With a beautiful girl because she doesn't has to carry load of house chores on her back.. 😉

Learning to do things gives you more control and more freedom..

Something I learned from life experience.. That's why never stop learning..

[15_Debo]

sure...
Thanks for the wise words man...

[Michael49]

I am an open person who wears his emotions and feelings on my sleeve. I dont think its a sign of vulnerability, it just shows we are human

[15_Debo]

Well you're most likely to be an extrovert
but I am totally and introverted introvert...
but yeah whenever I cry I write it in my journal

[Michael49]

I am such an extrovert but i usually use that as a positive thing.

[15_Debo]

great

[Michael49]

Someone posted a test that helps determine if a person was an introvert or extrovert. I’ll try to find it

[15_Debo]

sure... but from my experience with people, I guess you're an extrovert

[Michael49]

You have a keen sense to my personality. I have always had an outgoing side that enjoys speaking in front of people and sharing my opinions and experiences. At one point i questioned myself if i was like that cuz i was seeking attention. So i started a program mentoring at risk youth and abused women to turn that into something positive. I now also so motivational speaking

[15_Debo]

wow... great job...
I like to speak with people I don't know much but I hate/don't like talking much with family or relatives except fer my sister...
So I have talked with many people and I do have sense of personality ( don't know is that type of sense exists) I get to know people on a deep level in very short time...
A gift and burden, both

[Michael49]

Haha i suppose it is. I like talking to anyone who will listen. Lol
It does exist. Its called being a good listener and attentive to detail.
I enjoy working with youth to let them know they have someone to talk to about anything. As good of a talker that i am, i like to think i am twice as good of a listener. The reason god gave us 2 ears but only one mouth is so we can listen twice as much as talk.
They realize i judge no one they start to open up more and more

[15_Debo]

yeah I am also starting to realize...
You're really good

[Michael49]

Wdym? I hope i haven’t come off like a bragger or a person who plays games here. If i did i apologize and i’ll leave u be

[15_Debo]

no no

[15_Debo]

you're actually great as a human...
not close minded like most people

[Michael49]

Ok thank u. I believe there are 2 kinds of people. Opinionated and judgmental. I like to think i am an opinionated person cuz they state their opinions on different topics but are willing to listen to others opinions and can be swayed to change theirs.
A judgmental person has their mind made up and is a know it all. They are always right no matter what

[Michael49]

Thanks for the MHO I appreciate it

[Miss_Wats0n]

I just don't show my tears to people. I don't cry.

[15_Debo]

onions also don't make u cry?

[Miss_Wats0n]

No they don't.

[15_Debo]

are u a super woman? or like wonder woman?

[Miss_Wats0n]

Actually I don't eat onions.

[Miss_Wats0n]

Raw ones

[15_Debo]

oh ok

[Nik1hil]

I am weak😞
Chopping Raw onions have made me cry!.. 😭😭

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil ohh so sorry. Never chop onions again.

[Nik1hil]

I will chop them..

But I use a saw knife now so it doesn't makes fumes explode and I don't cry..

Simple knife makes onions fumes explode and are bad..

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil yeah..

[Nik1hil]

Hey..
You are that girl Sherlock Holmes threw off the train into the river... At the bridge..

NICE meeting you!..

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil no, I am not that one. I am john Watson's daughter rosamund Watson. Smarter than sherlock himself.

[Nik1hil]

Hmm...
@sherlockholmes..
A worthy adversary for you.. I see...

[Nik1hil]

@sherlockholmes you are dressed as a girl again..
That's enough bruh!..

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil not something which likes a bruh

[Nik1hil]

Honestly I didn't even knew we would have a gager with that username...
A total random arrow in the Dark..

In fact I was glad that such a user exists

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil thanks for accepting my existence in gag

[Nik1hil]

What..🤔
You felt like nobody noticed.. 😕
Don't feel like that.. People notice.. 😔
They are just too filled with Ego to 🙄respectful talk to others..

I on the other hand.. 🤔
Tickled my Ego and he ran away... 😅😅
So I don't have an Ego!.. 😞

Haha..

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil yeah... so did I

[Nik1hil]

Hmm.. Hmm.. You smart cookie!. 🍪😎

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil thanks

[Nik1hil]

Hey... You are teenager and you still got 5 years of that difficult age..

I remember mine.. Our hormones are all over the place.. We are struggling for social status and trying to find our position in social hierarchy..
We feel lost and often.. Feel infinitesimal in an infinite world..
It can get very difficult at times..
So instead of thinking too much and popping a nerve.. 😂
Just hit me up and we can troll around this websites questions together 😂🤣
Trust me it will help..
Good companionship is what got me through my teenage.. And I am just passing on the torch🔦 to the next apprentice..
May it lighten your path and guide you to your world of happiness..

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil Thanks for your support. Though I am passing my teenage with grace and humor. No issues at all.

[Nik1hil]

👍 Okay..
Make sure you keep it that way.

[Miss_Wats0n]

@Nik1hil thank you

[ChrisMaster69]

If I am going to cry, then I just let it out.

I honestly do not care who sees me cry, as usually it’s at a funeral or hearing a friend has been killed or similar.

There is zero wrong with guys showing emotion.

[clampfan101]

Neither, but I’m not a very expressive crier. Not because I don’t feel pain, but because I keep too much of it bottled up.

[Yourfriend2021]

Try to listen to some music you like and try not be upset. Try not to cry. I don't cry, but that's because I'm tough and have learned how to deal with life.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah sometimes

[The_Naughty_Guy]

I don’t cry

[tobr83]

Nope not really