Because if it feels right then that’s what lead us to our conclusion sometimes. But if we think logically about a situation we know it won’t let us if our motions aren’t in it. Take for instance someone loves you but you don’t love them. You know they’re stable do you think they’re a decent person but it’s not the person you want to be withIt’s gonna become miserable because you don’t want to be there and they’ll resent you
Will you try marrying someone that has no emotions then I promise your partner will not be happy. I do recommend you watch that movie two sides of The mirror You’ll see
because emotions are also data that cannot be rationalized but it holds value. If you wouldn't have emotions, you wouldn't be better than psycopaths. Emotions are being happy, in love, at peace... how is that irrelevant? Personally I dont get why men give more emphasis on so called "rationallity"? Im not here to eg. leave offsprings, im here to fucking enjoy my life
@Andres77 One why you didn’t ask yourself and not on somebody else’s question LOL. I would say six because that’s how many I have and body pillow. We’re going for comfort her. Plus it looks good
@Justneedtokno If I were to spontaneously start thinking about how much I don't understand women in general I'd have a huge list. But because you asked my mind went blank. When I saw what you wrote it's spurred my pillow question.
I've actually heard cases like this, dude. But this one actually happens with both men and women. I read a woman's story once where she was saying one day on their anniversary her boyfriend was telling her how much he loved her and wanted to have a future with her, but then literally a few days later he just ghosted her and blocked her. She was truly crushed. Another guy also told his own story that ended exactly the same way with his girl.
I watched some videos on why this happens and some of the experts were saying that when an SO breaks up with you out of nowhere, it's usually because they were thinking about it for quite some time but felt like if they keep sticking it out they might find they want to stay, but instead they start to feel strained and can't do it anymore. And then other times it really is because your ex was seeing someone else you didn't know about, and ran off with them.
However, their behavior in ending things with you is still not justified, especially if they ghosted you. So believe me when I say, karma is real and heartbreakers really do get what they pay for.
@ManOnFire yeah you’re right it happens to both men and women the thing is most of them are with someone and then they are still trying to hold onto another person while missing out on a good thing. Sometimes it’s what they’ve been waiting for and other times they just should’ve stay where they are. The grass is always greener affect. It’s always good to date people and see what you like but it’s bad to get to the moment where you’re now having sex with both of them and then your emotions are intertwinedAt least for women
@Justneedtokno 65% of the time, dumpers later on regret dumping their ex. My own exes are even regretting it. But dumpers don't always get a chance to go back - and most actually shouldn't.
"but it’s bad to get to the moment where you’re now having sex with both of them and then your emotions are intertwined" - It shouldn't ever get to the point where you're sleeping with both. You need to end it with the first one if that's really going to be your choice, because then it becomes cheating.
@ManOnFire I know but you see a lot of movies and shows that they’re dating to people and then they end up getting in a sticky situation.
Yeah @Apope16 had a discussion about. Regretful dumping and most of the time they feel for them not necessarily that it’s a mistake but when you invest so much into a person sometimes it comes back to you
@Justneedtokno I personally would not date 2 people at once, and I honestly think no one should do that period.
What do you mean: "Regretful dumping and most of the time they feel for them not necessarily that it’s a mistake but when you invest so much into a person sometimes it comes back to you" - that karma comes back or the person who dumped you comes back?
@ManOnFire I mean same here dating is different I feel like you can go on dates. But you have to be honest with him in the beginning you only become loyal to someone when it’s serious. Search is bringing them to see your parents or your family that is a very serious thing.
Yeah that’s the whole the grass isn’t always greener on the other side thing. You dump someone and then you realize I should never done that.
@Justneedtokno I think that is definitely the case with my last ex. I am pretty sure she regrets what she did but has no balls to reach out and make it right. Only to watch me but not say anything.
Because sometimes it’s the way you say things sometimes it could be crossing the line into a person that condone sexual assault or violence or harassment
I don't understand why so many women just want friends with benefits and the same can be said for men too. That makes men not want to pursue women anymore, even though we want to.
I can answer that vyou. Because in their minds a shy guy is a boring defenseless pu***. It's nothing personal. They don't hate those generally. But you have tovunderstand those guys rate as more as girlfriend material than a man. This becomes less pronounced as they age.
Because they misread being a jerk as strength. As I've said before women have trouble discerning reality from fantasy. This is why I always tell guys when online dating put practically nothing on your bio. I women generally looks at your pics an decides whether she's interested or not. The goblins in her head want a good story to match your pics. This is where guys f*** up. They open their mouth lol. What she creates in her head will be 10 times better than anything you can write? So let her write it in her head. The reason why jerks win is her fantasy lasts long enough for her feelings to take root then after that the guy can be a piece of s*** and the woman will still love him (up to a point). See when it comes right down to it you cann't change how a woman thinks. But you can manipulate it a lot.
@Justneedtokno you're right he should ask her out, get rejected, and then never have a confidence to do it again. Could it be lack of confidence as you say? Yes it could. But you simplistically any many times erroneously make that judgement when it's not always confidence that guy lacks. I for one refuse to give a woman a chance to project on to me. I don't ask women out. I won't! I'll Introduce myself, chat her up, whatever. Than after a while if she doesn't ask me out I walk away. Everybody goes home happy.
@ChiTown33 you guys are ridiculus, i chased so many men only to reject them down the line when i learned things about them that i didn't like and were dealbreakers. People put to much importance on approaching, i guess egos are high. And it only matters if you bothare interested which really isn't as hard to fogure out as both sides ould show it. But everyone is entitled to their ways
@ChiTown33 Why would you automatically assume that she would get rejected. That’s the problem there’s a 50-50 chance and so what go to the next girl is so many people in this world to be dwelling on one particular person. And sometimes girls get jealous and end up trying to be with you because that I know it’s stupid but it happens
@Justneedtokno That's easy. Personal experience. I've asked 50 females out and I've been rejected by 50 females. And @devilish-cutie would say well "you need to make sure both sides are interested". I love this response because she has no clue how much of her gender bait guys. Show interest only to rip the rug out from underneath them. I really don't understand @devilish-cutie's hostility anyhow. You do realize when a guy asks a woman out he's risking more than pride right. You talk about bout how guys turn out to be not who you thought they were? Well the same goes for guys. If he picks the wrong girl she could ruin his life. How many women think about that? That's right women don't because it's always about her. I'm not saying women are selfish just oblivious.
@ChiTown33 I dont understand your points either. Obviously its hard and risky for anyone to ask someone out and the person can potentially be terrible. There are no differences in gender experiencethere. My point was that you put to much emphasis on approaching when in reality you got to get to know a person to determine if there can be anything anyhow. Its like approaching means you instantly want to be with that person when approaching is just about interest.
There is no answer, women aren't special or complex, they just pretend to be. They are very simple creatures, as long as they are in the presence of money and status
I’ve already addressed this. No that’s not it women want money to make sure they are taken care of. Not all women like myself want to go to some old guy to take care of us we want to learn how to do it ourselves we have jobs we maintain financial stability on our own. Because think about it some older guy may die And at the end of the day he might not have wrote you in his well or whatever. So again will you take care of ourselves. And any bum female you shouldn’t be trying to talk to her
It doesn't make sense and it never will. Your mistake is you're trying to filter it through your logical brain. Women don't really think with logic. It's more emotion to them.
It does make sense actually. Men are attractive, just maybe not in sweet way like a flower is, but more in a way the rock is or vulcano is. Its like you guys dont notice when another guy is hot, cmon
See this proves what you don't know about guys. You didn't even understand his question. He's saying guys have a pretty simplified order. That if you put a dozen ladies in a row. And asked a group of guys to rate their attractiveness they'd be pretty similar in their results. Conversely if you did the same test with 12 guys and had a group of women rate them the response would be all over the map. And the reason is as I just said guys are more like to be logical and base it on objective attractiveness. While women start tying their feelings based on things like "past relationships". It's not wrong! Just to a guy it comes of as very random. Like say the guy has curly hair and he asks you out. And the past 2 FAILED relationships for you has been with guys with curly hair. And so in your mind you've decided all curly haired men were evil. The guy asking you now is dead on arrival. And because you're a woman you seldom tell the truth (sorry it's just factual data) he'll never understand what he did wrong ( he didn't) but you'll never tell him that. So he walks away confused. It' just is what it is. I ain't angry @devilish-cutie just trying to keep my fellow man from beating himself up for something that is all transporting inside a woman's mind.
@ChiTown33 well i see it this way: we all know what people are generally objectively good looking regardless of gender. The rest is down to attraction for both of us. What you described (with hair example) is something that can happen to anyone regardless of gender, its commonly known in psychology as triggers. Attraction is more than physical traits but other factors like personality, vibe, style etc. As o laying... I think that could only be baised on women trying to be nice. But in my experience most people act that way, lie and are fake, regardless of gender. Im very honest and straightforward and trust me men do not want that either. Men also lie in different way, they promise woman the world and mean it as they see themselves in better regards than what realisticly is, and then when they have to deliver they fail miserably.
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I understand women perfectly. I think of a man then I take away reason and accountability
Well I wouldn’t say perfect. We have pretty big flaws ourselves
Not so much women but people in general. Why are so many making decisions based of emotions
Because if it feels right then that’s what lead us to our conclusion sometimes. But if we think logically about a situation we know it won’t let us if our motions aren’t in it. Take for instance someone loves you but you don’t love them. You know they’re stable do you think they’re a decent person but it’s not the person you want to be withIt’s gonna become miserable because you don’t want to be there and they’ll resent you
Because i turnes off my emotions years ago. I am having to relearn emotions and emotional responses
To me acting on emotional doesn't seem right
Will you try marrying someone that has no emotions then I promise your partner will not be happy. I do recommend you watch that movie two sides of The mirror You’ll see
because emotions are also data that cannot be rationalized but it holds value. If you wouldn't have emotions, you wouldn't be better than psycopaths. Emotions are being happy, in love, at peace... how is that irrelevant? Personally I dont get why men give more emphasis on so called "rationallity"? Im not here to eg. leave offsprings, im here to fucking enjoy my life
Acting on logic often provides the most optimal outcome
your mind can lie to you too just as emotions can
awerness is the only right way
Why are they afraid of nature?
Actually not all are. I love the outdoor it’s just doesn’t love me lol. I like fish and swimming exploring horseback riding.
Good you are a rarity
@Justneedtokno
That's all well and good but how many throw pillows do you need on the bed?😉
@Andres77 One why you didn’t ask yourself and not on somebody else’s question LOL.
I would say six because that’s how many I have and body pillow. We’re going for comfort her. Plus it looks good
@Justneedtokno
If I were to spontaneously start thinking about how much I don't understand women in general I'd have a huge list. But because you asked my mind went blank.
When I saw what you wrote it's spurred my pillow question.
@Andres77 okay lol 😂
Call me bitter but I don't understand how a woman can talk to me about marriage and kids and then break up with me two days later.
There’s has to be moments leading up to the break up. Or was she dating someone else
I've actually heard cases like this, dude. But this one actually happens with both men and women. I read a woman's story once where she was saying one day on their anniversary her boyfriend was telling her how much he loved her and wanted to have a future with her, but then literally a few days later he just ghosted her and blocked her. She was truly crushed. Another guy also told his own story that ended exactly the same way with his girl.
I watched some videos on why this happens and some of the experts were saying that when an SO breaks up with you out of nowhere, it's usually because they were thinking about it for quite some time but felt like if they keep sticking it out they might find they want to stay, but instead they start to feel strained and can't do it anymore. And then other times it really is because your ex was seeing someone else you didn't know about, and ran off with them.
However, their behavior in ending things with you is still not justified, especially if they ghosted you. So believe me when I say, karma is real and heartbreakers really do get what they pay for.
@ManOnFire yeah you’re right it happens to both men and women the thing is most of them are with someone and then they are still trying to hold onto another person while missing out on a good thing. Sometimes it’s what they’ve been waiting for and other times they just should’ve stay where they are. The grass is always greener affect. It’s always good to date people and see what you like but it’s bad to get to the moment where you’re now having sex with both of them and then your emotions are intertwinedAt least for women
@Justneedtokno 65% of the time, dumpers later on regret dumping their ex. My own exes are even regretting it. But dumpers don't always get a chance to go back - and most actually shouldn't.
"but it’s bad to get to the moment where you’re now having sex with both of them and then your emotions are intertwined" - It shouldn't ever get to the point where you're sleeping with both. You need to end it with the first one if that's really going to be your choice, because then it becomes cheating.
@ManOnFire I know but you see a lot of movies and shows that they’re dating to people and then they end up getting in a sticky situation.
Yeah @Apope16 had a discussion about. Regretful dumping and most of the time they feel for them not necessarily that it’s a mistake but when you invest so much into a person sometimes it comes back to you
@Justneedtokno I personally would not date 2 people at once, and I honestly think no one should do that period.
What do you mean: "Regretful dumping and most of the time they feel for them not necessarily that it’s a mistake but when you invest so much into a person sometimes it comes back to you" - that karma comes back or the person who dumped you comes back?
@ManOnFire I mean same here dating is different I feel like you can go on dates. But you have to be honest with him in the beginning you only become loyal to someone when it’s serious. Search is bringing them to see your parents or your family that is a very serious thing.
Yeah that’s the whole the grass isn’t always greener on the other side thing. You dump someone and then you realize I should never done that.
@Justneedtokno I think that is definitely the case with my last ex. I am pretty sure she regrets what she did but has no balls to reach out and make it right. Only to watch me but not say anything.
@ManOnFire but has not chance to get back with you right. So why face you
@Justneedtokno Can I message you in private?
@ManOnFire if you would like
@Justneedtokno It says I can't message you unless you follow me back.
Human motivation is just as any other animal.
Women just hide it, still it's the same.
How annoying they are. While they want the guy to change while they’re the biggest hypocrites themselves.
Everything! What one says yes too the next will get you arrested for the same tbing
Because sometimes it’s the way you say things sometimes it could be crossing the line into a person that condone sexual assault or violence or harassment
I read your vision of women a complex creatures. But I know women who find that offensive and not members of Woke
if it's true that if the woman looks at me in the street for two seconds it's because she's interested in me
Um I wouldn’t know that I don’t think that’s a question either
I don’t even understand myself sometimes lol
Same soul searching
I don't understand why so many women just want friends with benefits and the same can be said for men too. That makes men not want to pursue women anymore, even though we want to.
friends with benefits is ridiculs concept, there is not such thing, people just lie to themselves and are unwilling to commit
I don't have much experience with women so a lot of things, like when we are having nice conversations for some days then they suddenly ghost me
I understand everything, they say one thing and mean another or just never say anything in the first place and you're expected to know
The fact that most of them are more likely to date a Jerk than a Shy Guy.
I can answer that vyou. Because in their minds a shy guy is a boring defenseless pu***. It's nothing personal. They don't hate those generally. But you have tovunderstand those guys rate as more as girlfriend material than a man. This becomes less pronounced as they age.
@ChiTown33 I understand that, But why usually the Jerk then.
Because women mostly look in a man someone who appears strong, be it physically, mentally, emotionally...
Because they misread being a jerk as strength. As I've said before women have trouble discerning reality from fantasy. This is why I always tell guys when online dating put practically nothing on your bio. I women generally looks at your pics an decides whether she's interested or not. The goblins in her head want a good story to match your pics. This is where guys f*** up. They open their mouth lol. What she creates in her head will be 10 times better than anything you can write? So let her write it in her head. The reason why jerks win is her fantasy lasts long enough for her feelings to take root then after that the guy can be a piece of s*** and the woman will still love him (up to a point).
See when it comes right down to it you cann't change how a woman thinks. But you can manipulate it a lot.
Well if it’s a shy guy how will we even know you like us.
Here's an idea, Ask him.
You would be most likely more confident him anyway.
@ChiTown33 Exactly.
You’re the one that likes me right. That doesn’t make any sense
Especially if you don’t give them any indication that you like them no
Justneedtokno Exactly, The answer is gonna be "No" so that's why most Guys don't approach.
I didn’t say my answer is no you didn’t approach so therefore I can’t read your mind and think that you like me. How about you be confident and ask.
@Justneedtokno you're right he should ask her out, get rejected, and then never have a confidence to do it again. Could it be lack of confidence as you say? Yes it could. But you simplistically any many times erroneously make that judgement when it's not always confidence that guy lacks. I for one refuse to give a woman a chance to project on to me.
I don't ask women out. I won't! I'll Introduce myself, chat her up, whatever. Than after a while if she doesn't ask me out I walk away.
Everybody goes home happy.
Bottom line I know my worth and if she wants to go out we me she's going to have to prove herself to me.
@ChiTown33 you guys are ridiculus, i chased so many men only to reject them down the line when i learned things about them that i didn't like and were dealbreakers. People put to much importance on approaching, i guess egos are high. And it only matters if you bothare interested which really isn't as hard to fogure out as both sides ould show it. But everyone is entitled to their ways
@ChiTown33 Why would you automatically assume that she would get rejected. That’s the problem there’s a 50-50 chance and so what go to the next girl is so many people in this world to be dwelling on one particular person. And sometimes girls get jealous and end up trying to be with you because that I know it’s stupid but it happens
@Justneedtokno That's easy. Personal experience. I've asked 50 females out and I've been rejected by 50 females.
And @devilish-cutie would say well "you need to make sure both sides are interested". I love this response because she has no clue how much of her gender bait guys. Show interest only to rip the rug out from underneath them. I really don't understand @devilish-cutie's hostility anyhow. You do realize when a guy asks a woman out he's risking more than pride right. You talk about bout how guys turn out to be not who you thought they were? Well the same goes for guys. If he picks the wrong girl she could ruin his life. How many women think about that? That's right women don't because it's always about her. I'm not saying women are selfish just oblivious.
@ChiTown33 I dont understand your points either. Obviously its hard and risky for anyone to ask someone out and the person can potentially be terrible. There are no differences in gender experiencethere. My point was that you put to much emphasis on approaching when in reality you got to get to know a person to determine if there can be anything anyhow. Its like approaching means you instantly want to be with that person when approaching is just about interest.
I think that a lot of men just don’t know where the clitoris is 🤣🤣
Ho down and look there our books and videos to see and not porn
Why they say they're straight and then act like a gay person does, and get offended by "homophobia"
Because homophobia is a problem and some people take it too far
Nope it's because women used to live in harems, with a 20:1 ratio of females to males, and probably were having sex with each other
LOL if you think you knew the answer then why would you ask a question. Ever though wrong
You're calling history wrong?
I can't say for sure if they were or weren't doing lesbian things but what do you think they were doing? The men who guarded them were castrated
And as you can see in other animals, a dominant female/male will have same sex sex to subordinate the other. I can make all the assumptions I need to
Why do they make you feel weird about wanting to be cuddled against their boobs when watching a tv show?
Awww that's not weird
Pretty much everything.
Ha ha all ears
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Same things women don't understand about men.
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Yes yes understanding your emotions
I don't understand why women think they're special, they are just shallow manipulative users that are good at hiding it
Please read the top answer it’s already been asked
There is no answer, women aren't special or complex, they just pretend to be. They are very simple creatures, as long as they are in the presence of money and status
I’ve already addressed this. No that’s not it women want money to make sure they are taken care of. Not all women like myself want to go to some old guy to take care of us we want to learn how to do it ourselves we have jobs we maintain financial stability on our own. Because think about it some older guy may die And at the end of the day he might not have wrote you in his well or whatever. So again will you take care of ourselves. And any bum female you shouldn’t be trying to talk to her
Why do many if not most of you want to be spanked by your lovers
i guess people are attracted to whats is kinda wrong and what makes a man attractive is his strength
The fact that women are attracted to men and like how they become attracted. It’s just weird. Don’t understand it.
It doesn't make sense and it never will. Your mistake is you're trying to filter it through your logical brain. Women don't really think with logic. It's more emotion to them.
It does make sense actually. Men are attractive, just maybe not in sweet way like a flower is, but more in a way the rock is or vulcano is. Its like you guys dont notice when another guy is hot, cmon
See this proves what you don't know about guys. You didn't even understand his question. He's saying guys have a pretty simplified order.
That if you put a dozen ladies in a row. And asked a group of guys to rate their attractiveness they'd be pretty similar in their results. Conversely if you did the same test with 12 guys and had a group of women rate them the response would be all over the map. And the reason is as I just said guys are more like to be logical and base it on objective attractiveness. While women start tying their feelings based on things like "past relationships".
It's not wrong! Just to a guy it comes of as very random.
Like say the guy has curly hair and he asks you out. And the past 2 FAILED relationships for you has been with guys with curly hair. And so in your mind you've decided all curly haired men were evil. The guy asking you now is dead on arrival. And because you're a woman you seldom tell the truth (sorry it's just factual data) he'll never understand what he did wrong ( he didn't) but you'll never tell him that. So he walks away confused.
It' just is what it is.
I ain't angry @devilish-cutie just trying to keep my fellow man from beating himself up for something that is all transporting inside a woman's mind.
@ChiTown33 well i see it this way: we all know what people are generally objectively good looking regardless of gender. The rest is down to attraction for both of us. What you described (with hair example) is something that can happen to anyone regardless of gender, its commonly known in psychology as triggers. Attraction is more than physical traits but other factors like personality, vibe, style etc. As o laying... I think that could only be baised on women trying to be nice. But in my experience most people act that way, lie and are fake, regardless of gender. Im very honest and straightforward and trust me men do not want that either. Men also lie in different way, they promise woman the world and mean it as they see themselves in better regards than what realisticly is, and then when they have to deliver they fail miserably.
Guys do that as well, one minute were the best thing since sliced bread and then bam ghosted 🤷♀️