Lol good response, not everyone’s the same man or woman
Everyone on the planet is different no matter who you are. What race you are. What gender you are. We are all different. Every single one of us. But we do have 97% of the same DNA. every single one of us
Well less break this down: “when messaging she takes ages to reply, but she replies to others because her snap score goes up, why?“ I found out a lot of people keep their phone on silent. And snaps are easier. “Why most girls expect the guy to make a first move and generate most the conversation.” A lot of girls like myself are traditional in that sense. I want to guy to be a guy and take the lead. (Also in the Bible )Why girls slander other girls a lot more behind backs. Jealousy and insecuritiesWhether personality > looks is an actual concept they say they go by. That’s a personal choice everybody is differentLast part do you want to be in a relationship with a woman?
I mean the first part I am talking on snap but she like ignores me even though she starts chatting and I reply quickly (5 minutes) compared to her hours / days.I understand the whole guy lead, I'm just not confident to go up go a girl because of how I look and how I think girls think of me.I do want a relationship but I just feel like girls do things that would flare my worries and insecurities up with me being unattractive. I've never had anything with a girl ever and I'm not getting younger but I don't know how I ever will get anything
Will take the conversation off of snap if she started then say hey you want to meet up in person or text her if you got her phone number.Well you got to work on it then because we are just like that we are wired to want the man that’s confident and take charge. And also take critiques. I mean a lot of people go for relationships different ways. If you want a woman to come you. You have to change your perspective. What do you have going for yourself are you educated are you good at a certain hobby are you good at a certain talent do you have a pet. Are you family oriented do you hang out with your family.I’d say pull back and focus on yourself more. That seems more attractive that a guy is taking interest in himself and his well-being. If he’s taking care of himself then he could also take care of me. Not with money or anything
I would agree I'm my own harshest critique and I hate myself lol, do myself no favours😂Thank you for that. Anything you don't understand about men?
See all of those things that you just said are negative you need to take the time and see what you like about yourself. That’s why you’re not getting girls because you don’t take confidence in yourself. I know there is some thing you’re good at. Even if it’s just talking to people or cars or some thing it might be something as skipping. Man eluded me I have no idea what to even asked to them
I've had a hard few years where things changed and I didn't fit in, lost my interest and passion for football which I've done for 14 years. Fair enough you know how we feel😂
If you can’t go back to football then how about helping someone with their little league or some thing. Even if you’ve had hard times you can gain some thing from it you know what not to do again or you can help teach other. I don’t know very much about men and honestly.
I'm trying to focus mainly on my degree which is pharmacy so I can spend my days helping people through illness and disease. But I need to shake myself out of who I am right now or I'll get no where. Men are just as complex, we just don't show / hide more often
Yeah I think the only problem is we can’t read yawls emotions.
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Ima woman and I honestly hate that too lol, like just say wth you feel
It distracts the attack.
It’s actually a low profile test to see if the other person cares… or attention seeking. Which is annoying af & draining to deal with.
I bet the inside of that book is in some unrecognizable language from eons ago.
6. Another one: Why do women get to wear high heels, makeup, push-up bras, bra cutlets, etc, and lie about her age as "a little white lie," but if a 5'10" guy so much as lies about his height in order to make it to that six foot minimum acceptable standard, or adds another $10K to his annual income, it's "dishonest and a sign of major insecurity" and she ghosts him after that? (And for the record; I never lie about my height; I can't successful lie about being six inches taller like I'd ideally want to be.)
1. Who says so. It's acceptable for men to reject fat women. Even women know it that men generally dislike fat women2. Cause they are not getting a suiter that is good enough. They don't want to settle for something less than they deserve.3. Never read about that though. I come from a traditional area that is strictly heterosexual.4. Some do that I guess. But i guess that is due to the fact that women have never come face to face with men who express emotions like crying etc.( For centuries it has been this way that men were supposed to be tough and women were supposed to be soft) things are changing now. And nowadays women are getting used to men expressing themselves. It will take some getting used to.5. The very fact that their femininity is not acknowledge causes them to go into denial I guess. That's what makes them bitter most are not that way but they will have to get used to it because the whole egalitarian approach is adding upto to it.6. Cause women don't like to be asked their age. And men don't like to be asked their salary. These things should. be asked unless for marriage purpose.
Number one we cannot chains height we can change weight.Because we don’t want to settle for just anybody and especially when we think there may be a problem like potential anger issues potential drug usage potential sometimes your gut feeling is a real I need a better example for number three because it doesn’t make any sense exactly how are these women using and abusing men Number four we just want to understand your emotions when it comes to being in a relationship with you. If we’re not in a relationship with you it’s sorry to say not our problem. But in a relationship we want to know about your past and your history so we can better understand youNumber five we don’t although y’all put us there people go to war for us people select us as the best. You just saw the black widow movie it was mainly about women and how we can be train. We know we’re in perfect so that’s why we try fixing on ourselves all the time or make ourselves better or learn about things or try to be well rounded like I do
It’s only to know if you know us and honestly you have to test people because you have to make sure they’re the right person. I don’t test I just tell you and if you don’t like it it’s whatever
I know that ALL women test whether they realize it or not. That’s just a given. But causing drama just because it keeps things “interesting” is ridiculous. I know women will be women. But your gendered has a massive and very powerful pity party organization called modern feminism. Men are constantly being berated about needed to “understand” women better. Women on the other hand only want to understand men if there is something in for them (they like the guy). Men on the other hand are expected to be sensitive to what women want whether we are attractive to them or not.
a lot of men disrespect women and consider them dumber than them, so that is why they have bigger need to prove themselves more intelligent. Society also glorifies men for being more inteligent and racional and women emotional and dumb
@devilish-cutie think it's more to do with girls responding to social pressure more strongly. Like why even care is my point and if you do, diagnose that and deal with it. Because you're never going to please everyone, but you've also got nothing to prove.That's doubley true for intelligent girls in my opinion. If someone I don't know or care about under estimates me I really don't give a shit. My results will speak for me. Now if they instigate things and actually cause me trouble in my life then I'll address it.But the opinions of others means very little, especially people you don't know and don't like. Going out of your way to prove them wrong just baseline is investing a level of care that's pointless.And the girls I'm talking about in a dating context. At best that's what they're doing and they're jaded/battle hardened. Then turning around to punish me for the sins of others... pass. That's her drama she needs to deal with and I'm not gonna bother
Um these are not question.
Doesn't matter. These are things some women do that I don't understand. I answered your question. They don't have to be questions back to you.
Just tell us we're pretty and that our ass isn't fat, honestly, we like being reassured that you still find us sexy enough to want to fuck and be with
Well because I want to understand you and we think that some of your actions mean some thing even if you’re saying something else with your words
You dont have to send a message... to be sending a message
@Pillarofhell Nope because some people don’t understand hints and gestures. You have to be straight up with people
because everything that people do has meaning, you guys just dont think deeply
@devilish-cutie Right even if it isn't an intentional meaning
This is why instead of playing games or word tricks or word play or whatever just tell them what you want. Most of the time they’ll do it
Ask her what she wants. No she doesn’t know that you can’t take a hint or jester then you have to let her know that you can’t take a hint or gestures because women I want other women to be jealous and bless we just want to talk to girls because they might know stuff. Men may be right but not the way they think they’re right.Because you’re not a woman you wouldn’t know exactly what I need
Thanks for doing this Justneedtokno, this is a great topic
Aww thank you I’m learning too
One first is an attachment thing when you have sex with someone then you’re Kinda of connected with them. It’s not that we get bored with the respectable guy it’s more so that we don’t want repetition they like spontaneousness we like the guy that you don’t expect the same thing from. Plus we don’t all think this way
@Justneedtokno What it is, is that a lot of women view the men who treat them like human beings as weak, thus they become uninterested over time, foolishly taking for granted the fact that they've actually met a real man, but these women's logic percieves it as the opposite.I have known so many women over the years who have let go of great men that really gave a damn, just to hop over to lower quality men with no regard for them, then later on down the road these women have finally matured and realized what a huge mistake they made. Two of my own exes are case in point: one of them is now trying to chase me again out of her own sorrow, and another ex is constantly watching me on social media but is too ashamed to apologize for how things ended.I think it’s also like a guy I know once told me: women like latching on to men they think they can fix. They see that the decent guy already has himself together and these women see no challenge in that, so they would rather chase men they think they can change, when more often than not those guys leave the women damaged. Yet the women will keep running back.
First of all how old do you think a cougar is and how old do you think they go for
Well it’s because a lot of women want to seem innocent and sweet but we also like a venture and confidence and trying new things.
If that's the case, women who do that shouldn't get upset when their little code talk goes over the heads of the guys they're talking to.
It’s not really code it’s hints and gestures they are trying to lead you to what they want but not just coming out and saying it because I don’t want you to think they’re vulgar or the other
I could quote some pretty funky replies of your own in the last three months, considering you claim you are in law. Guess woman and men are pretty similar there.
because everyone fear rejection and they want a guy to also put an effort
mood swings are not always happening and it really depends on the woman
Oh. Can you help a man understand a little more. What can I say I'm a hopeless nerd a little 🤓🤓 but I hear some women use birth control to avoid altogether periods or period pain or just because they like the peace-of-mind with condoms and BC combo ☮️☮️😈😈
some women are golddigers, most women just ask traits in a guy like responsability and being capable cause they actully look for safety and stability
@devilish-cutie you should come to my law firm for a day coz I get female clients all day long and none of them ask for any of the things you are saying they just want their husband's to pay max money and stay away from their lives, and don't get that good Personality debate either coz trust me I have seen many females who are not even sure what kind of guy they want actually they want all the best things in a guy but they fail to realize they don't have all tbe best things in themselves from the perspective of a guy
maybe they are trying to compenzate for things they gave to those menand you cannot base your whole perception of women on ones that go to your law firm and possibly are there cause of divorce so hence they are bitter. You dont know the details of their relationships w those men. Also golddigers are there as men that choose such women usually get their looks, its all compensation from both sides
@devilish-cutie well let me tell you my own case then my marriage lasted less than 3 months, my ex wife wanted my money and wanted me to stay out of her life, later I found she had ans still has multiple sex partners she never wanted to commit to anyone but getting married to a RICH guy has benefits Anyways that's just one example, what a female provides a man is for that moment but when she asks money for the rest of her natural life that's clear intention of making money through exploitation and yes we don't know most of the inside story it's our job to know the details you neve know what you have to use in your favor,Now let's be really clear what's the cost of one night sex from the highest paying escort is it over 50 million coz I know a case where a wife demanded that amount from her husband after leaving him in one week after marriage obviously she married for money but how do you justify that amount?
as i said golddigers sure are a thing. As of escort comparison, the thing is maybe that wife that is getting divorce got cheated by her husband, maybe she really loved him and maybe she just want to hurt him... even if she married only for money, besides sex, she had to put up w him all the time. Im not saying she should get certain exteme amounts of money, that depends on the law. I suggest you to try to broaden your circle as most women aren't golddigers. Most women do however eek in a man stability and safety cause of their fragile state and possible pregnancy. And they way the man usually does that is by earning money. I personally earn a lot and I wouldn't ever want to depend fully on a man, and women that I know that depend on a man are not really free and as independant as an adult should be.
@devilish-cutie let's discuss a new case, I got it couple of weeks ago so the couple are both dentists the husband and the wife both earn good money, the wife actually earns more since she started early the husband started a bit late was the setup and establishing took some more time,, Now the wife wants separation they have no kids, the wife has demanded a good amount of money from the guy She is financially secure, she already earns more than her husband still she wants her husband to pay her a good amount every month How do you justify this? Let's keep law aside for a moment, tell me as a women how right is she when she has more money ans still she is demanding more money from her husband who she knows earns less than her? About broadening my circle well I think you missed when I said i get female clients every day I think I can say j meet females on a average more than normal people coz normal people meet new females once or twice a week where as I meet new females almost 4 days a week this put me in a position where I get different women to open up wirh me and my team about what they want and hence how their mind works ans belive me there is a saying don't hide anything from a doctor and a lawyer so we don't know everything there is to know about that female
@devilish-cutie you should look up some reports therr is a report in india that 90% of the domestic Violence cases are fakes, 90% that's not a joke figure unless you are a female who belive they are doing the right thing by mis using the law The Supreme Court of India has called it legal terrorism you should look up that judgement,, Now there are many laws protecting the rights of females go find some law that protects guys there ain't much so when the law assumes that guys don't need protection then that is already a big problem. Second the all female are innocent until proven guilty attitude and all men are guilty until proven innocent attitude , the difference between these 2 attitudes is very dangerous and I am saying it based on hard facts The number of Suicides of married men is high compared to suicides of married women, unless you are also a female who thinks messing with a women is wrong for a man and he should die or commit suicide for doing this I belive that it's a fact to say that females today are costing men their lives Do you want more compensation than that?
OK I would like financial stability for myself and not dependent on another person in that aspect yeah you’re right I want resources I want money but not from someone else. You have to be self-reliant especially nowadays that 50 something-year-old person is gonna die. I want to sustain the lifestyle that I currently have or willing to have for myself. But if you have other questions that’s fine because this one is not completely true and especially not for all women
You said you would like financial stability but you don't realize that not all women are financially stable or safe and hence they find it easy to have that stability from a man, estimatelt there are 15 million cases of similar nature just in india, the number might become a bit scary if you add china, if you add the whole world then it's longer statics , it's pattern, a way of functioning for females, this is also one reason why men are not going for marriage commitments , coz they know it's just legal extortion, now that girls know men might not easily marry them women are trying to make laws for live in partnwrs as well, so if a women is a live in partner she still has claim over the guys money, i m not sure on this one but I have heard that law is in drafting stage or assessment stage about this in india, i am not sure if they have this in china. But you get my point
@NewgodX Well I guess we disagree on so many levels so its hard to discuss this any further. I meant you should meet more women and people that aren't there in your life cause they are getting divorced. For what you also imply is that most women are golddigers, liars that would lie to such point of domestic violence. let me break it down to you - most women would not lie about something like domestic violence cause most women/people are not as rotten. Sure SOME women are golddigers or liars just as there are rotten men. Now about "mens rights", well the whole thing about womens rights happen cause they before haven't had any and werent really treated as people, while men hed those rights by default. Then we can also talk about Saudi Arabia where women can't even go out without a man. Those are not some rigged surveys but actual facts.
@devilish-cutie what I stated is facts The reality of life and its hard cold for females to accept that they are doing this to men, also what I discussed is ground reality the reports and all which are facts on paper now one can always question of integrity but then all your facts can be pretty biased and selfish too and I am choose not to accept them at 1% but that's OK You missed to comment on my personal experience too coz you already know she was wrong now all women are not the same that's the same lame reply as not all men are rapists but that don't solve problems, But that's OK take care live a long and wonderful life stay safe
i dont belive surveys that dont make sense to me, if 90% women lie about domestic violence in India, even ifthat was true, there must be something more to it as this would imply that most women there are rotten which im certain is not the case. Also how could you even really determine if someone is lying or not... very tricky. Also survey often fail to include al factors affecting it and can be misinterpreted, thats why we often get research says cofee is heathy for this and that, than 10 years later research says cofee is bad for this and that. As of male suicide, forgot to comment on that, thats obviously measurable and facts; my take on it is cause men bottle up their emotions.Take care
@devilish-cutie I disagree
@devilish-cutie you think women are better than man I don't think so, we both are OK in our place anyways bye have fun Reality don't change coz of debate that's the fact no one denies
I never said wome are better than men, nor i think that. I think its more about personality than gender. Talents or intelligence has nothing to do with gender
I think I’ve already answered this question earlier but jealousy and insecurity.
it's actually because its not shallow, we take those things very seriously and to heart and if the friendships isn't as deeps as it was or as its needed it holds no purposemen rarely have true friends and their relationships are more supreficial
We don't wanna take the lead.. we wanna be pursued
@Pandupillu Do you think we don't like them doing the first move?
Umm sort of. The thing is, we all know women are submissive generally and men are dominant. Pursuing someone is seen as a sign of masculinity. And being pursued is seen as being feminine and womanly. We don't wanna come across as masculine in the society. We wanna feel beautiful and womanly. But trust me this also has its downsides. This belief stops a woman from approaching a man she really has a thing for which kind of like ends the hope for a relationship before even starting it. women are also not used to the concept of getting rejected which I think further deters them. They tend to think "oh what if he rejects me" . So it is kind of a lose lose situation. If he rejects her not only she does not get the guy but will now be the butt of jokes and will be seen in a negative light.
@Pandupillu were not all that effed up sick in the head. Masculinity just like femininity do not exist. And i for one never liked dominance nor submission. Master and slave isn't for me.So what you let a guy know you like him? If he doesn't appreciate it, then That's his loss, not yours. You dodged a problematic person.Jobs don't come to you by their own either, so women just like men have to put in the work. Y'all are doing this to yourselves.
Think about basic biology. Egg does not chase sperm. That's not the way nature designed us.
@NicoletteXO And? Does that mean you have to conform to it?I certainly won't.
@NicoletteXO think about basic biology, men can rape women. I guess you'll have to get over it.
Like I said before and another answer we are in tune with someone who takes the lead guy bed sorry to say is the alpha male. Also it’s in the Bible men are the head women are the neck
if that's what you want.y'all be too passive to care when he also cheats on you 😂 oh boy!
Nope this is why we question everything. It’s not that we can’t take you on a date it’s just we want to see if you’re worthy to that point if I was dating someone for maybe longer than you know a month or so or after the fourth date I will probably offered to pay.
Doesn't matter. You want someone so self called "alpha" (whatever the hell that's supposed to mean?) who will cheat on you 😂It's your life, your choices, your consequences.
All it means is you want someone to take charge. Like it says in the Bible. As far as cheating on someone you don’t take everything they say as gold. You check around you ask friends he’ll make sure you’re getting a good guy. Is everybody lies nowadays right
Whatever. It's your life.
Cool, don't. That attitude will get you either a very masculine woman, or no woman. Enjoy if that's what you like.
So dumb it's not even funny.
Hardly. It's entirely accurate. But you do you, boo.
So accurate. Men taking the lead is always so attractive.
i make first moves and i dont see men really making them unless i make it 100%clear to him im interested. other men tha t approach dont care about me and only want sexwomen generally are attracted to men that are capable and that is why they like men pursuing them
@devilish-cutie Finally. Someone at least gets it! You got it!This is the truth right here "other men tha t approach dont care about me and only want sex"
@devilish-cutie so true, women are generally attracted to capable men. That's spot on
@devilish-cutie that's interesting. My experience is the opposite. I allow men to make the first moves, and the ones that do this in a sophisticated manner are the ones I choose to engage with further. This has meant I weed out the ones who are only in it for sex, as they won't put in that effort. Interestingly, the best sex is always had with these men, because they are high calibre, sophisticated, caring souls.
@NicoletteXO spot on
@NicoletteXO of course there are also mature men out there but in my experience most men dont put an effort. And then for some that did I often wasn't attracted to them...
@Pillarofhell it is also in our biology to kick you in the balls hard enough for you to vomit, now you will have to get over it too
@devilish-cutie Yeah, it's true that most men won't put in the effort. But I don't see that doubling down and doing their job for them addresses that. If anything it has the opposite effect. Also, effort is not the only criterion required for me to continue engaging with a man. I have to also be attracted to him. If he makes effort but I'm not attracted, no point in proceeding - but I will take the time to respectfully and graciously decline.
@NicoletteXO Im not saying women must or should approach, just that I've been that way. Im kinda go getter and hate wasting my time. But even if i make the first move i expect the guy to put an effort. Im more about equality in that department. If I asked first for a coffe, I expect to ask him the second time. Its just that I know that most people are not brave and i have no time or patience to dance that silly dance. Its just my personality.
Also I said men approach when a woman makes it 100% clear to him she is into him, so who made the first move then?
@devilish-cutie Fair enough, if that works for you - great! Definitely doesn't work for me haha.
I expect him to ask the second time*
@NicoletteXO noone know what even works haha I recon if you meet a great person for you it doesn't really matter how it goes down but if you click it will fid a way to go down :)
im persoanlly very honest, sometimes too honest and in my experience most people lie regardless of their gender. most people portray fake lifes
She is single and available but she’s just not trying to be with you sorry
At this point in my life it feels like no woman wants me
she probs saw you only as a friend
It’s not that she’s just not the right woman just go try again with someone else.
Because women get called whores for things and they’re not making a profit. And I guess it all depends on if they’re getting money for it or if it’s something else and the word is just offensive
"the word is just offensive" -- Yeah, but I'm sure bank robbers get offended when they're called criminals/thieves/bank robbers too so eh.
i think that its more to personality than gender and our differences are often just caused cause oh physical differences and social conditioning
What exactly do you want to know?
No that’s biology 🧬 umm we were created that way. To be more specific, well when we menstruate 🩸 we are passing off an egg that could have be fertilized by sperm to produce a baby.
I know it's biology, but it seems unbearable for me, as a guy. I respect women for going through all of this crap.
you kinda get used to it... i mean what can you do.
True but some people have questions about the simplest things when it comes to women
because what you are doing isn't good enough
1. and 2. because they get emotionally attached and care about him and think they cannot live without him or that he will change or that they will change him3. because its a valid argument, we literally bleed every month
@devilish-cutie ok but whats with the crying then? If a woman tolerates abuse, she doesn't really get to cry because she chose to tolerate it.Yea but shouldn't you be used to it after a few years?
if you tolerate something it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt hence you cry as you struggle with it, you struggle to change him, expecting the change etc.we are used to it, but again it still hurts, being used to pain doesn't make it much easier except not throwing tantrums about it but we still crack and go nuts cause of it from time to time when we get fed up. its like saying just cause someone has a wooden leg what is the problem when after years he is used to it? its always an issue and think to endure
@devilish-cutie it may hurt , but if you insist on continuing to tolerate it, its hard to have sympathy.I guess
OK one this seems specifically specific you might need to go ask that woman.Normally oh woman wants to settle down and if she has a child with that person She bear some type of feelings for you especially if she decides to carry it for nine months. That’s a long time in a woman’s life hard long pain. Honestly not all relationships work and that area before marriage
I've seen this happen time after time. Often times the guys they have kids with aren't as desperate as they'd like
@Pillarofhell Like I said desperate that means they don’t really want to be there or be with the kids or be with the woman so they leave
I am asking as a slerm that has been kept on ice for 80 years or so
80 year 🤦♀️
I think so. Calculate when Nicholay the II/George the Vth gave his soerm, to circa 1978
No, it's the desperate guy who's easy to manipulate. They're easier to get to pay for kids sports, dinners out, Christmas gifts, etc. While their baby daddy is probably spending all his money as soon as he has it
@Pillarofhell this is all outliers/worst cases we are discussing here, by the way
Yeah that’s all sounds really bad
As caring nurturing creatures we tend to mold ourselves to do that
So you never heard the expression keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer.
I don't. Only insecure women do that.
@NicoletteXO actually men and women do this. Men have rivalries So do women. The challenge to be better than the other person it happens and families jobseeking college
My point is only insecure people do this. Secure people don't hate their friends or engage in weird strategy games like this.
i think girls that do that are just being polite and civil, they dont consider friends people they hateother thing it could just be jaelousy
I don't agree with you - no healthy man or woman hates their friends or colleagues. I don't have rivalries with any of my friends or peers. I take inspiration from them, as they do from me.
@NicoletteXO but that’s the premise of a rival is In the competitiveness to do better
You can do better without considering other people rivals. Big difference between a rival and an inspiration.
@NicoletteXO I guess but still sort of the same thing it’s actually like look at Naruto they were both competing in but they respected each other I think you could be a rival with someone and be respectful as well to them and be inspired by them at the same time
I don't know who Naruto is. I personally don't see why rivalry is necessary at all. But you do you.
@NicoletteXO no it just life. People compete all the time
It might be your life. Sounds like you compete with your friends all the time. I don't, and no-one I know does. So it's not "life". It's just what you do personally.
@NicoletteXO no it’s a regular life so you’ve never been in A sport. Game
I have a black belt in tae kwon do, and was stroke (leader) of my rowing team when we won head of the River... which means I was the best female rower in my entire State that year. Amongst other things. So please, spare me whatever you presume I am not. You just want to find an excuse for your negative view of reality. I maintain I have never needed to be rivals with my friends.
Those emojis are pretty irrelevant
Not to me
That makes sense. A woman who wants to convince herself that she should be rivals with her friends also posts irrelevant emojis. Yup. In character.
Well it started back in the day where families with Mary off women for money and it will be the most beautiful daughter that they have. Men will go to war for the most beautiful list woman that they have. Women I only do what we know. That’s why we dress up that’s why we work out that’s why we try to be a skinny or is whatever beauty standards there are at the moment. As far as paying for the first date. Women are in tune with getting the alpha male who takes care of a woman and pay for a woman. And we want you to take the lead as a man
Of course, then women shouldn't complain why so many guys expect sex after dinner or sooner in relationships (as they had to pay a good amount on that ), or why the alpha male is dumping them after sex/pregnancy (alpha males aren't supposed to stick around after mating). Internet is full of nice guys crying over why they can't get women and women crying over why bad men are duping them after pumping.
OK one problem with this whole thing is no I’m not gonna except you wanting sex after dinner. That’s your problem I’m going home. And leave it to you being a nice guy maybeSo you want us to settle for a beta guy? Or a guy that we don’t think can take care of us or the relied upon
We can sit there and question the whole entire thing and I mean relationship but that’ll be our downfall to
You can do whatever you want but certain things can have consequences, and you have to accept that other people will do what's best for them too. There are people with all sorts of combos.
Say now that’s when it sounds offensive. Or like a threat there shouldn’t be consequences for going on a date with someone. You shouldn’t expect to receive sex for something that I could pay for myself. If that’s the case then why not just go out as friends and I’ll pay for my half and you can pay for your half. That puts us on mutuals playing field. That way it won’t be no confusion.
friends with benefits is ridiculs concept, there is not such thing, people just lie to themselves and are unwilling to commit
There’s books and just ask your girl how she wants to be touched
My girl is imaginary she doesn't talk much
Because everything is not what it seems. Normally when it’s too good to be true it normally is
see. that's the exact mindeset that looks for problems where there are none. stirring up drama out of things that would otherwise not be a problem.
@genericname85 They do that also because they're bored, testing the guy, and/or you'll find that women love to yap because it releases dopamine in their brain. There's a great book called "the Female Brain." The author was a Feminist, but later became anti Feminist because of Neuroscience and wrote her book.
@Inbox yeah i do actually know why they do it as well :) but i find that most girls don't. and i feel like if they did and if they'd just be a bit more self aware, that could make life on planet earth more pleasurable for all of us xD
I’m only going by what has happened in the past. I’m not looking for anything to be wrong but at the same time you can’t just let your guard down and think that it’s all perfect. It’s not no one‘s test thing a guy is just and we’ve had our own traumas so we can’t just let go and think it’s just what it is no
"you can’t just let your guard down and think that it’s all perfect" you absolutely can. that's what trust means ina relationship. and of course it would be foolish to trust someone like that whom you only started dating. but long term, a relationship without that, is not worth while, cause that negative problem creating mindset will always find a fly that you can make an elephant out of.by the way, i'm in no way triyng to be mean or something. sometimes i sound a bit rough. i don't mean it. i just think this is a very common problem that "mostly" women have. some men sure too. but not that often.
I guess they want more excitement and emotional stimulation
@devilish-cutie nothing wrong with wanting that? but why try to get that at the cost of the integrity of a relationship?
well usually then there are underlying issues, be it within relationship or within themselvessometimes also some can be more ambitious than the partner and that can creat friction
@devilish-cutie well sure. i'm not talking about those things that can be solved by having a good conversation with your partner. i mean they are your partner, cause you can discuss thost things right?i mean when things completely get out of hand with emotional drama and her crying and shit, just to find out 2 weeks later that she's sorry about making a scene about shit that doesn't eally matter. it's not that "i" say those things are not worth drama. it's that they say that and are sorry about it... yet they will do it again periodically.
ok in that case probably cause men were conditioned to supress their emotions and women aren't s a lot of them express them freely. We are all emotional beings and get mood swings, for women is just more free to express their emotions than men. A lot is in the temperament. Some women also say they get mood swings cause of perios. And as a i said most likely is underlaying issue, if not in a relationship then within themselves; they have some issues w themselves... it might not have anything to do w relationships. Thats why relationships r hard as all humans are flawed and a lot not mature enough for solid relationship
@devilish-cutie men also have mood swings xD we can be depressed at times and see evertything from a more negative point of view. but emotions are not what determines our behavior. emotions are just your brains tool to helpo you fix something. and that tool is not always reliable. so i guess men learn when an emotion is helpful and constructive and when it's just abrasive and not helpful. of course menn still feel those things fully. i guess that's what the "provider role" is. you can't burden your partner with those thigns. you have to protect them from that negativity that can be within yourself at times. i feel like women don't have that consideration lots of times. they'll just let it all out with not much consideration for their partner.
@devilish-cutie because believe it or not, those things hit us very hard too. but that shit would spiral completely out of control if men just let their emotions dominate like girls do sometimes.
yeah i said everyone has mood swings which applies to men too and as i also said men more keep it inside cause of our conditioning. But the problem w men and emotions is that men are too quickly to disregard emotions that can be very relevant as they are baically indicator of your morals and value system, also men can keep shit in too long and than explode.
@devilish-cutie why do you think men do that? cause they love falling apart cause they can't take suppressing their emotions anymore? no. it's cause weakness isn't an option in most cases... cause life is tough... cause they're the only ones that keeps things together. and if they fall apart, everything in their life will fall apart.but think about it. what happens when a woman breaks apart? the man will take care of her, till she can stand on her own 2 feet again. what happens if a man breaks apart? the woman will leave him for someone else that can be a better partner for her... of course not "always" but most times. how many homeless unemployed women do you see? how many women do you see on the other side that get a divorce or break up cause their partner lost their job and goes through a difficult time of depression and having to rebuilt themself...i really don't mean to shit on women. that just seems like the reality to me, that explains why men are like that...
that way of thinking is our conditioning, in my opinion we both should support eachother, anyone can be in time of crisis. Divorce and giving up on your partner usually depends on the level of your loyality as a person. If a woman expects a guy to not ever show his weak side, i wouldn't persoanlly be w such woman. Men should have higher standards. People are in all sorts of relationships situations that we nothing about. If you truly love someone you ain't just gonna leave them w first issue. That shows how strong therelationship is and love for eachother. Women usually leave men cause those men dont work on themselves and resolving their issues; a lot of them think they can change him etc. Basically those things are more complex. Male ego is also often the problem and reson why they keep it all inside but society made such terms too. But ifyou areseveral years in a relationship normal woman would want and expect emotions from a guy. And at the end noone of us can truly hide how we truly are and what is being supressed will always resurface.
@devilish-cutie well divorce rates tell the story that it is factually true that men can't fall appart, cause women will more likely leave than carry them till they build themself back up... so is that conditioning? or is that just the cold hard reality?
@devilish-cutie i know those things are fairly complex. but i think just calling it "conditioning" is dismissive of what happens in the real world.
no, you cannot put cause of divorce as men falling apartin my experience there are many causes but most often isthat those men are not willing to put in the work to resolve relationship issuesmen also stick to relationships only cause of sex and they are usually being the ones that cannot function without a woman if she leaves them as they could only be emotionally open w her and they dont want to and kinda can't get back to before when they werent that way w anyone
@devilish-cutie "they are usually being the ones that cannot function without a woman" what makes you think that? like don't we live in a supposed "patriarchy" where men exert dominance over women by earning more than them and keeping them out of jobs? like if that's true, then how can me "not function without a woman"? i mean more men are single than women. that's also a fact. and more men are long term single than women. so how do you substentiate the claim that men are less able to live without a woman? yeah men have a harder time finding sex. but that's hardly a reason a man would stick with a shitty partner.
i meant when a man can be emotionally open i only with a woma and once he experiences that its hard for him to not be able to be that emotionaly open anymore and therefore he "cannot function without a woman" to the point hed stick w shitty relationship. But both men and women have really hard time as anyone being alone, its natural to seek partner and a relationship.
And as soon as you let your guard down a guy can walk all over you and you won’t be able to get your ass back up. Love hurts sometimes and a lot of guys aren’t good guys that’s already drag the female through the mud and now you have to deal with that shit too. Again it falls back to past problems that we now have to look out for now
In those instances just be more spontaneous and add something else to the relationship if it’s just always routine then that’s Problematic to
I think it has to do with HOW you show interest, and there's a lot of unattractive ways to do that, which can turn women off because it shows you're a loser instead of the hot guy she hoped you were.Also sometimes the girl thinks the guy is too good for her and if he shows interest at the wrong time or in a lame way, he shatters the fantasy.
That's so true...
Because sometimes it’s the way you say things sometimes it could be crossing the line into a person that condone sexual assault or violence or harassment
I read your vision of women a complex creatures. But I know women who find that offensive and not members of Woke
Because if it feels right then that’s what lead us to our conclusion sometimes. But if we think logically about a situation we know it won’t let us if our motions aren’t in it. Take for instance someone loves you but you don’t love them. You know they’re stable do you think they’re a decent person but it’s not the person you want to be withIt’s gonna become miserable because you don’t want to be there and they’ll resent you
Because i turnes off my emotions years ago. I am having to relearn emotions and emotional responsesTo me acting on emotional doesn't seem right
Will you try marrying someone that has no emotions then I promise your partner will not be happy. I do recommend you watch that movie two sides of The mirror You’ll see
because emotions are also data that cannot be rationalized but it holds value. If you wouldn't have emotions, you wouldn't be better than psycopaths. Emotions are being happy, in love, at peace... how is that irrelevant? Personally I dont get why men give more emphasis on so called "rationallity"? Im not here to eg. leave offsprings, im here to fucking enjoy my life
Acting on logic often provides the most optimal outcome
your mind can lie to you too just as emotions canawerness is the only right way
It’s a coping mechanism
We don't. Insecure, immature and manipulative women do. Those are in the minority. Avoid them!!
@NicoletteXO I should have said #NotAll. I know many of you fine ladies that interact with me on here, after conversing a lot wouldn't do that to me or another guy. I'm trying to learn early warning signs before it's too late.
First nobody condones cheating!!!If you cheated on her first and she’s just doing it out of a reaction that happened to her that’s just it. Not all women are like this sorry
@Justneedtokno 1) I've NEVER cheated on a woman in any capacity and never would. Not emotionally, physically, or anything. 2) As I stated to NicoletteXO I should have used #NotAll. But yes in my experience every woman at some point cheated on me.
Well look you don’t have to yell at me I was just saying.
I wasn't yelling. But I have never and will never cheat. Cheating isn't in my DNA. Put a gun to my head, I still won't cheat. that's the ultimate betrayal.
Ok ok ok I get it.
Um I wouldn’t know that I don’t think that’s a question either
First of all stop lying that’s the whole problem of this situation