What do you do when you have a melt down?

[Subarugirl]

I mess up my hair, cut it off and dye it. Last year I did, and now I've spent the last year trying to grow it back...

Before

During

After

[NicoletteXO]

Once I drove out to an empty parking lot and screamed in the car really loudly just to let it out. But that was ONCE, and a very serious situation.

Normally, I will do yoga, or a personal ritual/ceremony, to regroup. Be gentle with myself, give myself whatever I need for a while - extra sleep, whatever food I am genuinely craving etc.

Not trying to force myself to feel anything other than what I feel. Meditating, contemplating, allowing. Honoring the truth. If necessary taking action. If necessary letting go.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

I get the whole hair thing. I got really low once and ended up shaving my whole damn head. It was like the one thing I had any control over.

[Subarugirl]

I think that's why so many women will drastically change their hair, it's something they have control over.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

And it’s a (relatively) healthy way to deal with stress. Certainly better than under eating, over eating, lashing out, or self-injury.

[hahahmm]

I don't have meltdowns. More like if you imagine a teapot starting to boil. Imagine the most destructive/horrible thing you've ever seen in the kind of movie that gives you nightmares. An image might flash in my mind. Then I remind myself that I'm not about that but I could be if someone ever does anything at that nightmare level to my loved ones. Then I feel calm. The teapot starts cooling down fast.

[ohshee]

Okay so why did you have a meltdown were you saying it was because you messed up your hair
I would have said wait wait wait if you ever look into your eyes have you ever looked at your features on your face your body. You could shave your head and you would still be hot

[Subarugirl]

No I had a melt down and then messed up my hair because it was one of the onlythings that I felt like I had conrol over

[Jouth]

I take a run, hit the gym, write some music, punch a pillow, or put words to paper and turn passion into poetry.

The hair thing is kinda cool though. I have a friend who does that. She'll randomly have a moment where she requires instant spontaneity and she'll either drive to another town or another state, or cut/dye her hair. Since she's kind of an amateur at dying hair, her hair has ended up all kinds of crazy colours. I remember her trying to dye her hair black and it slowly turning through purple and then blue throughout the next week. Somewhere right in-between that purple and blue was one of the prettiest colours of hair I've ever seen. It brought out her eyes and made them shine. She's really creative too, so she capitalized on that and sent me a ton of selfies like that. It's kind of cool where life's mistakes can cause us to end up. Chaotic serendipity is the best kind.

[Shizunk]

I looked up the definition of a meltdown and I think it happened once when i picked a project which was decidedly outside of my power to finish but people were relying on the result. That was 9 years ago. The solution was to sleep well and do smaller projects in the future. Otherwise I dont think I know how to have meltdowns :-D

[dustybiker]

Your hair really does look prettiest now!
I go out on my bike. I go out on my bike anyway, lol Interestingly enough it’s a good cure all. Total focus required. Nothing else matters.

[JustinTimberlegs]

I usually start spending all day in bed, trying to escape myself and reality, if I start struggling with that then I might start abusing medication that makes me very drowsy to sleep more.

P. s I like your after pic the best! Probably the smile it just seems like a good energy to it. Hope you get through your meltdowns!

[SecretsofKB]

I had a psuedo-meltdown my freshman year of college, and I chopped my hair short.

Turns out I actually liked it that way and kept it lol.

Now I just cry for about and hour then keep going.

[DonRollins]

Try to find the cause of it. If there isn't one, acknowledge there isn't one, or that I cannot find the cause. Don't let it hinder me as best I can. Meditate, lift weights, or what I used to do was just fuck my girlfriend 2 hours so hard like I was trying to kill her, then cuddle and by that time i've forgotten about it or moved past it.

[Jay3344]

Talk a lot and fume…then usually it dissipates, but getting away from what’s causing it is helpful. I used to work around old men who loved to think they were Gods gift to creation. I used to go to the default which was respect but after 5 years I decided that respect is fine but it’s not worth it to take abuse for hours just because of age.

[Still-alive]

i just freak the fuck out and yell and cuss. its not pretty

[jshm2]

You really do look like the type who would hide bodies in their "melt down" state.

Get mental health help, kiddo. It's not good for you long term being unable to fully control yourself.

[Subarugirl]

I was in full control, and drastically changing my hair was me exercising that control. The same way so many women do the same after a painful breakup.

[TheorionMage]

I CAN BE extremely physical so I restrain myself until I'm in private. My work REQUIRES I exercise restraint as I'm usually lethally armed and expected to use 'best judgement'. Can't let my adversary have the satisfaction to 'bait' me.

[NathanDavis]

first and last time was many many years ago... some sort of mental comma or catatonia, don't want it ever again (knocking on wood)

[ChrisMaster69]

Not had one for years n years but let’s just saw I end up with interesting scars.

i am more of a direct action type of person.

[Jayplays900]

I have never had a pure meltdown. I have always had too much pride in my mental state to do so.

But if I ever do, I'd probably get violent against myself and would probably be thinking some bad stuff. So it's good that I haven't had one, or at least to my knowlage.

[VanillaSalt]

Psycho… I’m not allowed to have a melt down. I’ll miss my rent, fail my family, lose my job. Only women get the benefit of having time for a melt down lol

[Subarugirl]

Well I still paid my bills, was their for my family and went to work the next day

[Anonymous]

When I have a meltdown I usually pick a fight with someone for nothing and talk a lot of shit to people around me... And the I always spend the hours later saying sorry to them and trying to do good things so they can forgive me.

Your hair looks great in the 1st and 3rd pics, @cuckqueangirl. Not so much in the 2nd. 😂

[Daniela1982]

Throw my underwear against the wall and see if it sticks. But it's better than breaking something, like a computer. Plus I know if it is time to change them.

[MistyBar]

I usually retreat into myself, stay in bed a little more, neglect my responsibilities. Basically it resembles a bout of depression wherein I stop trying in life for a bit. When it goes away, I feel clearer, want to be around people again, and I might not have a solution for my problems but I have motivation to try again.

[Pnp4unMe]

Punch through walls and doors get him a truck and driving a hundred miles an hour and slamming into shit basically destroy everything I own. That's why I don't have meltdowns they're expensive

[OddBeMe]

Being bipolar I can have pretty dark lows. I hide my credit cards, because we tend to overspend on bullshit (more than usual), and I immediately apologize for anything I say to my wife, jnc.

[noohair]

Look into diet as a way to improve your hair health.
If the first picture is your natural hair color, I like it.
Longer hair accents the shape of your face and head, in my humble opinion.

[Azura_88]

Cut off people who caused it..
If nobody caused it then I avoid everyone and deal with it alone or if I have someone to vent to, I do it.
Earlier I used to scream, shout and cuss.

[Azura_88]

Also, I'm getting revenge on those who even slightly disrespected me or wants to use me.

[Alyssa11]

Same I dyed my hair a plum shade and cut it. I used to have gorgeous long hair. I dyed it back again to black and I'm growing it out now lol

[Cherry234]

I talk to whoever I can, rant on, and express my emotions

[Cherry234]

Also if I'm in a really bad mood bc of the meltdown then I don't want to see anyone

[exitseven]

I don't melt down like I used to but back in the day I consumed copious amounts of alcohol.

[seer09]

Buy something expensive that I will only use once and then spend the rest of the time feeling guilty about spending that money... lol

[JosyJosy]

I will be in my room, away from the world by myself, trying to sleep

[doopayo]

Your hair looks so pretty ! I usually lock myself in a room to have time to myself until I get better

[AydenHazor]

I self isolate and rejoin dating sites I quit when I wasn't self sabotaging

[boggboss]

Don't have meltdowns lol wouldn't ever change myself because I'm stressed that's madness

[Subarugirl]

People change their hair all the time..

[boggboss]

Sure they do but doing it in a moment of stress is silly man people do it then regret it

[Subarugirl]

People do all sorts of silly things to cope with stress and emotional turmoil. its just hair, its not like punching holes in walls.

[boggboss]

If u value your hair that little fair enough but there are much better ways to deal with a situation then doing g somthig I would regret

[Subarugirl]

It’s not about valuing my hair isn’t about feeling in control

[boggboss]

And your not capable of feeling in control by not doing somthing ro yourself that u know u won't like meh maybe I'm just not able to see it from your point of view because I have never not felt in control I'm not sure

[bigpauly]

I usually over eat.
then I have to go extra hard at the gym to make up for it the next day or week

[chocolatmolk]

yeah same, food makes me happy

[bigpauly]

@chocolatmolk yea it can get dangerous

[Gwenhwyfar]

Hide in my room and cry a lot. You actually look really good with short hair. You should meet down more often (j/k 😊).

[Gwenhwyfar]

Melt down lol

[Rachelspiks]

Can I assume you're not a nuclear technician working at a power-plant?

[NicoletteXO]

Hahaha only you would say this! xx

[JillC15]

cry a lot and eat ice cream
then cuddle with the hubs

[shepardmaddison]

I usually do nothing... But I've thought a lot of just doing something spontaneous and try something new... But in the end I never do it :(

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't have meltdowns, so I dunno.
I'm way too positive for that.

[Celtero]

Break stuff I guess. In the past I'd cut, but it's been a while.

[Subarugirl]

Same

[worldscolide]

My wife has aspergers.. It pains me to mention this, but though uncommon, she does have meltdowns.. And sometimes it involves self harm.. It's been 4 years since the last one.

[Surely]

Got to learn to control your emotions.
You are such a pretty girl to be doing things like you mentioned to yourself.

[Subarugirl]

That’s what I was doing.. exercising control over the things I could.

[Surely]

@Subarugirl But why? Don’t do things to yourself just because you lost control of things.
Kind of like people going out and blowing up their car’s engine or even wrecking it. Then when you settle down you say “Why did I do that?”
And you need to repair the car!

[Subarugirl]

It’s just hair… it grows back. That’s not the same as punching holes in a wall or blowing up your engine.

[Subarugirl]

I wasn’t losing control, I was exercising control over the things that I do have control over

[loveslongnails]

Man, you're rocking with long dark hair! Keep that and don't get weird when you melt down. Go smoke a joint or have ice cream, but leave your hair alone! :)

[Slayerrrrrrr]

hmmm... you're naturally pretty, good for you love.

& I just stay in my room and follow along to an episode of Bob Ross on my iPad with a program called Procreate. Always helps out

[LimboOfTheDink]

I just give more attention to my pets and to drawing.

[NicolaJ35]

You're looking gorgeous in the first picture

I usually ruffle my hair, shout and stamp my feet lol

[auxell]

I'd actually just play games in my computer to distract myself or watch YouTube.

[pleasestopthis]

I buy a cigarette packet and smoke until I feel better.

[Wiredone]

I usually just yell really loud, use the punching bag then go to the beach to regroup.
You're a beautiful woman with your natural hair color. Orange isn't really your color.

[alance99]

I like to stay alone and listen to music or i become a couch potato

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't do much when I have a melt down, maybe go online and spend money foolishly

[sweetmessposts]

I just run away from the world and cry in my own bubble.

[t-8900]

I'm a weak human being. I can't even say what I did when it happened to me.

[Massageman]

Why did you change? It was great to start with - - - - - - !!

[Subarugirl]

Because I felt like it was the only thing I really had control over.

[Massageman]

Change a radio station next time. :- ). Keep the nice hair!

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

I'd like to say that you are beautiful in all your pictures you have posted here. It is a good thing that you have been through the wringer and come out sparkling.

[Not_Average]

You’re pretty. Definitely keep it longer. Have you tried psychotherapy or even medication?

[humanearth]

Hair looks healther

For me, it depends on what cause the melt down.

[pink_and_inlove]

Watch shows that I liked but when I was younger I did cut my hair a lot. If you want to dye your hair don’t dye it just use a hair color wax

[Tabasco25]

I used to hold it all in untill my older sister and my brother in-law dragged it out of me and showed me a better way for dealling with stuff , to that I am forever greatful.

[es20490446e]

I simply show my middle finger, and I instantly feel better.

[Wise4myage]

Id go for a walk or remove myself from the situation that caused it.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Sit inside refigerator untill I become solid again.

Usually I sleep it off

[TheBigGuy9]

Meditate, take a hot shower, workout, write. I can’t remember the last time I had one.

[NicoletteXO]

Healthy :) All these things are great. Sometimes even a cold shower!

[TheBigGuy9]

I’ll take an ice bath after working out for 7 minutes. That’s enough for me.

[NicoletteXO]

Do you do Wim Hof breathing?

[TheBigGuy9]

Never heard of it. I’ll check it out.

[NicoletteXO]

Wim Hof is known as the 'ice man' - he won a Guinness world record for staying in an ice bath for the longest time in history. He modulates his temperature with the breath. Pretty cool. He also climbed Everest in just shorts!

[TheBigGuy9]

7 minutes is what my trainer in college had us do. It helps me recover. That’s all I care about. I just added him on Instagram

[NicoletteXO]

Ok cool. I was wondering why the 7 minutes :)

[FinalFantasyBro]

I just let it all out or try to make myself way more calmer.