How to not feel depressed if this doesn’t work out for me?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl at my work who I’m planning to tell that I like her. We talk all the time at work and she’s even flirty with me. I kind of get mixed signals with her so I can’t gauge if she likes me for sure or not. I wasn’t planning to tell her for a little while but she told me today she’s been talking to a guy who she might end up dating. She said she doesn’t know but that they’re just taking rn. It hurt ngl. I like her a lot and we get along well it seems like. She makes me laugh and I make her laugh.

I’m planning for the worst though. I’m already depressed today because of what she told me and I have a feeling it’s going to be a no. If she does end up saying no I don’t want to get all depressed about it like I have in the past with other girls. How can I just brush this off like nothing?

[ludorock]

It's tough. Rejection is hard. I've found the best way to move past the anger or depression is to acknowledge and accept that's how you feel and let yourself feel that way for a little while. When we try to stifle our emotions or beat them down or deny them or preempt them. You're going to be sad, because rejection hurts, especially when we're romantically attracted to people.

So feel sad. Say "this fucking sucks" because it does, and you're right to say it. Maybe eat some ice cream about it. But then watch a silly movie that makes you laugh, remind yourself that things are still funny and life is still good, and sometimes we get the shit end of the stick, but it's not the end. There will be someone else, and it's okay. It's okay that you were, and maybe still are a little sad, but you're okay, and you just keep moving forward, looking forward.

[snowgirl123]

I'm sorry but I don't think you should talk to her. I don't mean to be rude friend, but she already gave you a no, when she said she has someone. I mean, I don't think it is very healthy for your feelings to go out with a girl and know she may go out with another guy the next day or text him. I think you might be happier being the only guy a girl dates and the other way around. take care =)

[Callee]

You like her a lot, so you really can't just shrug it off. But its better to tell her how you feel about her. Yeah, you might get rejected, but that's better than to sulk about what might have happened.

If she really does reject you, I advice you to keep your distance and let yourself breathe for a while. You've still got friends to be there for you, right?

[Anonymous]

Ask her out. It's still 50/50. But if she says no, you can still move on. It will not be the end of your journey. Go go 💪