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Hi, this post made me sad. And then confused.
So, honestly, you are definitely attractive. I would not just flat out lie to you. If I found you unattractive, or even if I found you "alright" but not particularity attractive... I would simply have sidestepped answering the attractiveness question.
It's a bit confusing because, it's not really like you're borderline unattractive. You're a pretty girl, and it's surprising that you seem to be so completely unaware of it that you would post this.
I want to say something about the weight thing. So I'm going to assume that the pictures you posted are of yourself now? Not at 108 lbs.
If so, then seriously. And I mean this... you do not need to lose weight. There is nothing even remotely overweight about the girl in those pictures. I am thinking maybe those are pictures of you at 108lbs? Just because i'm trying to imagine you 20 pounds thinner... and... honestly... I can't help but feel like... losing weight (like a significant amount, like 20 pounds) would make you less attractive.
Nobody could possibly look at you and think "overweight"... because, at least in those pictures, you're not even the slightest bit chubby.
The more concerning thing, is the fact that you're in a relationship where you genuinely aren't sure that they find you attractive, and doesn't want sex... and that you are engaged to this guy. That is a problem. That is a serious problem.
You should not marry this guy. That may seem presumptuous. But it's really not. What your describing is not a healthy and happy relationship. It is absolutely heartbreaking that you come home and cry most days. It's heartbreaking that your fiancée makes you doubt your attractiveness. Unless you both go for some serious, long-term couples counselling and work out these super serious issues in your relationship, you would be a fool to marry this guy.
The way you feel in your relationship, is only possible in a relationship that is broken. It's also concerning that you're seeking reassurance from other men, outside of your relationship. It just indicates that you are mentally, already kinda "thinking outside" of your relationship because you aren't being made to feel attractive and wanted in your relationship.
I think that you need to do something about your relationship. You need to either lay all of this out for him, and ask him if he's willing to work on it with couples counselling. If he isn't you need to break things off. These are fatal problems for any relationship. If you can't change them (together), than you will never be happy in your relationship or marriage.
The thought of you marrying this guy, feeling the way you feel... is horrifying. The right guy for you will make you feel very differently.
You're a very attractive woman. You're living and feeling as though you're unattractive. That isn't right. You sound thoroughly unhappy. Find a guy who makes you happy. You deserve to be aware of your own beauty. :)
There are some giant red flags here... so let's go over them one by one.
1. If you're engaged to a guy that doesn't want sex with you and doesn't find you attractive, then break the engagement and go find one that DOES.
2. Did you really post pictures here and ask 'how do I look'? Cuz if you did your Q will get deleted - it's not allowed. Worse, it makes you look desperate and needy, for attention and validation. And that's just desperate and needy.
3. Your height and weight is nearly irrelevant to attraction - what guys look for is YOUR level of attraction and desire for THEM.
4. Have you done the work to build high value? What exactly do you bring to a relationship that would be considered high value. Cuz a high value guy will expect it.
5. Have you ever even once considered what YOU will do for YOUR man? Do you know how to KEEP a man?
6. Understand that your feelings are just that - feelings. And they are subject to change at any other given moment. So if your man has given you reason to believe he is truly not attracted to you, dump him and find one that does. But if you're just whining and creating drama for attention, QUIT DOING THAT.
It's time to learn some outcome independence. To develop a confidence that no matter how things shake out, you know in your heart of hearts that you'll be just fine. This is the ultimate freedom to say and do what you know is your best, the truth, and all there is, unapologetically.
So go henceforth today with your head held high, knowing you're all you can be. And if you're not, then make the changes and do the work so you are. You'll be far happier and more successful than you ever thought possible.
I'm not a dude, obviously, but i feel compelled to answer. You look gorgeous, but regardless of what people tell you here or out there, you need to FEEL that way. As for your fiance, I really don't know what to say.. most people don't know what they have until it's not there anymore. You should discuss these things will him , though.
I know it can be difficult. You are also not old.. bodies change as we grow older, there's nothing wrong with that and please don't compare yourself to a bunch of teenagers.. because they're probably comparing themselves to you. I recommend you start giving yourself compliments, do things that make you feel happy and lighter, also stop relying on others to make you feel beautiful or better. At the end of the day we're strangers, but you know yourself better than anyone else and if you feel confident not a soul can tell you otherwise
You're beautiful! =)
All these things are struggles of being a woman, I hope you find the courage to believe you're beautiful though, just as we see you!
I think you’re pretty skinny actually and you’re pretty
I think your fiancé finds you attractive, why else would he want to marry you? You’re clearly insecure about your looks (you’re very pretty in my opinion) so you can always just ask your fiance to compliment you more maybe?
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I'm going it say a few things:
1. You are attractive and you look thin to me.
2. You're engaged so if you're wondering why the teens at work aren't checking out out that may be why. Also it's at your job so maybe they're worried about being #MeToo'd.
3. Your fiance is probably comfortable in the relationship and probably isn't trying we hard. As for not wanting we much sex he's probably just not in the mood and you're probably out of the honeymoon phase of your sex life. Buy some sexy lingerie and some toys to slice things up again. Try new kinks and positions as well. Go out to a public place and fool around it don't get caught.
Have you talked with him about it? We guys sometimes don't feel like we have to do this, and some guys are even "uncomfortable" with it. Example the last person I was seeing often dressed up and I thought she looked beautiful, but did I tell her, once or twice, but no a lot of the time I didn't. I thought it, just didn't say it. And I can't really tell you why I didn't. Something stopped me. A feeling. So I can understand how you feel, but this doesn't mean that he's not attracted to you necessarily. So talk to him, in a calm way. Ask him if anything is bothering him etc. Let him know that you're feeling a little undesired and you just are wondering if there's any problem? And for the sex, again might not be anything to do with YOU necessarily. Maybe really busy, stressed etc, all can impact his sexual desire. Or, maybe he just has a low sex drive in general even?
For the record, I think you're extremely attractive.
Need validation that badly? I think your Fiance knows you are beautiful and thats why they don't feel the need to say it all the time. What good is compliments if they come every waking moment. Just be glad you have someone who is loving you enough to marry you at some point. Be greatful for what you do have and not what you could have. Never take those around you for granted.
I am very sad for you to get rid of the guy using you to persuade others he is not gay. Later when it comes out he left you for another man. Bad news Self-image, self-confidence all down the toilet. You look good just go to places with a friend where you will find a good man. DO NOT just sleep with them, they will think you just sleep with anyone. I will not like that, once you start having feelings for him keep him interested. If they still pursue you keep doing it. All men including me have said to my girlfriend I love them so I could get in her pants. You have a nice body just trim down somewhat, and always keep your weight under check. My wife still weighs the same at 64 as when she was 18. That way your husband or whatever will not leave you, do not flirt with other men. Just F... him all the time, tell him what to do where to touch you, etc. Best wishes, do not trust luck, you can make your own luck
You're gorgeous. If you think men aren't looking, you're missing it or they are intimidated or they think you're taken so there's no chance. Has your fiancé always been uncomplimentary? If that's changed, then you may want to worry that he thinks he's already "conquered" or "owned" you which could be a sign of how the marriage will be. He might be looking for his next prize or conquest...
You look great seriously,
ignore what your finance is saying.
Everyone is different and different shapes n sizes.
You look really pretty.
height is fine don’t worry on that count.
just be more confident, you look gorgeous
Have you tried communicating with your fiance? I mean if he asked you to marry him I would have to imagine he finds you attractive (otherwise why ask you to marry him?). Men are not fucking machines, so he could be not wanting sex because he is stressed out or for other reasons. As for not complimenting you, again, talk to him about it because your not going to solve the problem by avoiding it.
A lot of it has to do just with your facial expression.
Just search for funny videos more often.
www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8392ACFD45ECC0A8
I understand your pain. But Do you know 1/4th of American population is overweight.
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Do not marry this man. You are already unhappy. "He never want sex" -- do you think that's going to magically change? Do you want to be in a sexless marriage? End this so you can meet a man who makes you happy.
You are extremely attractive, guys probably are checking you out, but they are good at hiding it. I like to think of myself as very good at hiding it when I check out girls. Not that you would want them, but if you go out on a crowded street I am sure you would get many catcalls. Whatever, your finance's issue is, it is with him.
A person not complimenting you on looks or lack of sex doesn’t always mean they don’t love you. There’re still other things they can do that make you feel love like taking you out to dinner, a movie, buy you gifts, etc. There must be some reason for being engaged.
Not ugly , but you might want to get back to 115 to 118 pounds. Boyfriend is taking you for granted or has gotten in a pattern. I guess you can disappear and see if he looks for you. After two days and he is not looking for you, then there is a problem.
You have very attractive eyes, please don’t put the bright eyeshadow on as guys like natural girls. Maybe see if your fiancé has low testosterone... it’s a thing and it’s awful for them xx
Yeah, you're too thin.
He wants something with more curves and personality.
Maybe get a personal trainer and start working out and sticking to a meal plan.
There could be a number of reasons for why he doesn't want to have sex, he could just have a low sex drive.
I think you're conventionally pretty and have a decent body. Ask your SO and get it sorted out.
If your fiance doesn't compliment you, and doesn't want to have sex with you, then dump him. It will be a lousy, unhappy marriage if you keep him.
So what if random men don't try to hit on you. You're engaged ffs. You shouldn't even be vying for other mens attention.
There’s nothing wrong with u if he doesn’t want u find someone who does
You are absolutely gorgeous! :)
PLEASE don't doubt yourself, if you are having an issue I'd bring it up to him. No offense to the guys but they are pretty bad with hints and sometimes don't realize they are doing it.
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