Girls, Is it wrong for a man not to want to be a woman's protector?

[TomGarand]

A lot of women want to feel protected by a strong man, and I can understand why. Before you comment, BE HONEST, because I want to get in a relationship one day, and I need legit advice.

For me, there are two problems. For one, I don't enjoy being a protector.

A lot of men like to protect women or open jars, lift heavy things, or kill bugs for them. Why? Because it makes them feel useful and needed. But for me, a woman seeing me as her knight in shining armor does not boost my ego. What good is her looking up to me as her hero if I can't enjoy it?

Secondly, what I find attractive in women is physical strength and capability. I love when a women have muscle, can play sports, can fight well/do martial arts, are skilled weaponry, et cetera.

Basically, my type is strong women who can protect THEMSELVES.

So I need HONEST advice from you ladies. Should I want to be that strong, masculine protector for a woman before I try to date?

Or are there still a good chunk of women who don't really want/need that for themselves, like my type?

NO SUGARCOATING YOUR ANSWERS!

[Kayla45]

It's not wrong, assuming the man in question has no reason to protect said women.

Exceptions to this would obviously be a female family member, or perhaps a wife. Then it's reasonable to expect a little protection if a man is close by in some sort of relationship with her, whether it's a verbal or physical confrontation.

[Anonymous]

Are u sure u r real? I hope you are being honest because this was so refreshing to read.
No, I don't care but I long for mutual respect, harmony etc. I can take care of myself (I mean being independent and fight for myself), but being in a relationship with someone supportive👍 always nice

[TomGarand]

Yes. I am being honest. And by "fight for yourself", do you mean physically?

[dustybiker]

Sure. I love a strong man who will protect me.
Communication is key.
Do I need help moving that heavy object?
Do I need help with opening the jar?
Do I need you to remove the bug?
I’m independent and can be extremely stubborn. It’s asking that breaks through all that.

[TomGarand]

So is it wrong for a man NOT to want that? Are my tastes in women so rare that becoming that protective alpha male is the better option?

[dustybiker]

Wrong? No. That day you decide to get into a relationship, they are already going to be interested in you for who you are.

[shaysh87]

i think you are just different from the rest of the population. Not everyone will agree with you

[TomGarand]

Every other guy you know wants to be the protector?

[shaysh87]

Yes of course

[shaysh87]

There reason why men like women that are weaker than them is because they like to feel like they can protect her

[TomGarand]

And their tastes in women are different from mine?

[shaysh87]

Most men don’t like muscular women or women stronger than them

[TomGarand]

I didn't nessecarily mean someone stronger than me. Just strong enough not to need help.

[shaysh87]

men are evolutionarily designed to protect and provide for women.

women are evolutionarily designed to look for a man to provide and protect her.

Men tend to like women with mental strength, but not physical strength.

[TomGarand]

Well then what's my problem?

[shaysh87]

You can desire Watever you want but just letting you know that most other men would not agree with you

[CaliSixx]

Nah I can protect myself.

[TomGarand]

Really? How so?

[CaliSixx]

I have two arms and legs, don’t I?

[TomGarand]

Yeah. But I mean are you armed or know a fighting style?

[JosyJosy]

It isn't at all