Girl I like said she's a lecuture tomorrow and I don't know what I'm doing and I said it's okay I'll leave you to study and she says?

[PutThePhoneAway]

I said hey how are you doing she said I'm okay trying to get everything ready for tomorrow I've a lecture in the morning and I said:

you'll be fine you're a smart woman and I said I'll leave you to study

she said: Thank you sorry for not having the time to talk to you and she sent me a picture of her bed in a mess of notes

Is that a bad sign? She doesn't like me

[Silly_Slink]

You're over thinking it.
This is a sign of maturity in her regarding priorities. She's trying to handle her future.
As well, you had mentioned to her that you would let her be for it. If anything, she's seeing you as courteous and mature.

No need to worry about it.

At my age of 31, I've got to college 2 times and university once. The 2 times in college I slipped and put my relationships first towards the end. I went from straight as to flanking my first round. And I got pregnant with a complicated pregnancy the second round and had to drop out and ended up in ugly situations. My university round, I kept at it as a single mom, dated an ass who demanded I put him first over my studies, and I ignored him. He ended up dumped and now I work at a bank, have a wonderful man who I appreciate cause he puts my priorities of my child and my work into consideration and doesn't take it personally.

Long story short, just cause she has her future as her main priority right now doesn't mean she doesn't have you as a priority. Just means that atm she might be overwhelmed and needs to focus. And tbh, prioritizing your future is one of the best things you can do. You'll be OK. If you must, ask if there is anything you can do to help. She will appreciate that, regardless if she needs anything or not :)

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times

[whirled_up_girl]

It probably just means she’s busy and doesn’t want you to take it personally that she doesn’t have time to talk, I know I’ve been there myself. I hardly think it means she doesn’t like you, if it were me and I didn’t like someone I would just be honest and let the person know we really don’t click.

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times

[whirled_up_girl]

It's one thing to be online, like right now I am online just having casual conversation to someone random on gag, many of us can do that without putting in much effort. However, if I'm trying to cultivate a relationship with someone, it's probably not going to be just be a random sentence here or there, that can happen during study breaks etc. In my case chatting with someone I'm serious about could easily turn into an hour or hours of conversation, and not something I could do if I were trying to study. It's just something to think about is all I'm saying. I don't know this girl though. I don't know if she's someone who's okay with the idea of playing games with someone, stringing them along or worse, hoping they'll lose interest and give up, those all seem like low life things to do, and a waste of the other person's time.

[Moose304]

It's only a sign she needs to study! I have noticed you described her as someone you like! Does she feel the same way toward you? If she is reciprocating the affection then make sure to allow her space. So far you have not said anything that is a red flag! let her study.

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times...

[AviatorTom]

It's a sign... that the only thing important to her right now is preparing for tomorrow. You did the right thing by encouraging her. After tomorrow, I'm pretty sure she'll talk to you... and probably show that she likes you.

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times..

[AviatorTom]

Give her time... you can text her tomorrow if you like.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Where's the bad sign? She thanked you, apologized for not having time to talk, she sent you a picture to prove she's really studying, something she didn't have to do..

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times

[AmandaYVR]

There's zero bad about this.
Don't catastrophize.

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times

[AmandaYVR]

I think I'm going to try and write a mytake about digital communication.
Was talking to my husband about this again over the weekend.
I understand why you're anxious. But don't think you see the larger picture.
There are reasons why people don't respond quickly, all the time, and they are not always about the person/their feelings towards that person.
What it is is a sign of the times. Not a reflection that you are unworthy or something.

[whirled_up_girl]

@AmandaYVR That would a cool mytake, as I also see much anxiety over this type of communication. I would love to read it if you write it!

[AmandaYVR]

@whirled_up_girl Oh thank you! Feedback helps. I have suuuuch a long list of notes, of topics I want to write about. I have 5 mytake drafts but can't complete any of them easily.
I think this topic is very relevant today, as you say. We all feel it from time to time.

[Cherry234]

No I don't think that means she doesn't like you. It means she has a life. She'll find time for you if she's really into you

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times..

[Cherry234]

Ohh ok maybe she's very busy or has a lot on her plate

[blondefun1]

Do. Not. Think. To. Much. About. It. She sent you proof she was busy without you even asking. Definitely not something to overthink.

[PutThePhoneAway]

She hasn't bothered to text me today tho... she's online many times...

[blondefun1]

Ohhh interesting. Maybe text her and see what she says. Keep me updated

[PutThePhoneAway]

Thanksn

[Iron_Man]

Don’t over think keep Pursuing her