I'm a psycho jealous girlfriend. Any tips?

[Anonymous]

So I'm in this relationship but I'm extremely jealous and over-protective Literally psycho. I'm constantly worrying about any female that exists in my boyfriend's life. I hate all of his female friends and any girl that talks to him. His friends are always kinda flirty and a little too close with him in my opinion, they're always telling him that they love him and stuff (I don't like that, nobody thinks there's anything wrong with it but I do) I'm always wondering if he's ever checking out any other girls whenever I'm not around or when I'm around. I constantly check movies that he watches to see if there is any female nudity in any of them and I die on the inside when there is. And p*rn is like my weakness. My boyfriend says he doesn't watch it and I really hope he doesn't.

I just have extreme trust issues and I'm super insecure. he's getting tired of this. Please no negative comments, I just really need help :(

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[sumina7]

You have a very unreal view of men.

Try to have some men friends (where there is no mutual romantic attraction) so that you understand our thought process. We are not always trying to get into the pants of every female in sight nor are we completely insensitive to our gf's feelings.

Also, you either feel too possessive of your man or are too insecure about your relationship. You should learn to be more independent and learn to be happy on your own and not be so dependent on your bf's approval ro "love".

Some past event, relationship or experience is affecting your mind. You might need counselling.

[Asker]

I do have male friends. Most of my friends are male. And all they're shown me is how shallow, selfish, and whore-ish men can be. In fact those guy friends of ours are the ones who are always encouraging my boyfriend to be the whore I don't want him to be just because.

[l-hedoniste]

What help can we give you?

Tell you to stop? You know this already.

Tell you that no decent guy would put up with it? You know this already. T

ell you that you need to have this insecurity problem *solved* before your relationships can ever work? You know this already.

Insecurity is a *choice*, it's a signal that you've decided not to take care of yourself emotionally. Coping, self-care, and releasing control are your problems. The jealous, psycho sh*t is just a symptom.

[darlanoy0510]

All I have to say if you don't know how to trust, you shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place.

Relationship is based on trust and benefit of doubts if can't give it to him then you'll never get over your insecure. Also you need have a good image about yourself too because that's also bring in your insecure.

[dIO_oIb]

Counseling? Trust issues often reflect on some deeper issue that people need/should to resolve.

[jimmy217]

just trust him what's the worst that could happen. And if he wanted to be with other girls why would he b with u. If you stay the way you are he is gonna dump u. And when a guy is looking at p*rn or other girls he isn't thinking I wish I could be in a relationship with her. He is just admireing the view. It doesn't mean he prefers them over u.

[Asker]

Yea but p*rn just makes me feel like I don't satisfy the guy. I know that guys will watch p*rn even if they have the hottest girlfriend in the world. But that's just how it makes me feel :/

[jimmy217]

idk what to stay tbh because that is reasonable. As long as you communicate things like that with the guy it will help. Maybe tell him you like it when he compliments you and reminds you how special you are to him.

[Asker]

We have talked about this, and he would compliment me if I didn't reject every nice thing he said all the time. I just really have no idea what's wrong with me and I don't know what to do about it.

[hALLDAY]

Well at least you admit it. Fact: men and women will always find other people attractive along with their significant other, we are humans its biologically natural. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't act upon it.

It sounds like you have some complexes stemming from somewhere. My advice is to ditch the relationship and wait until you are older. Concentrate on school.

[Anonymous]

as you said you feel insecured and being scared of losing him I would think you need 2 develop confidence over your boyfriend or he'll dump you (hard fact)so give him space and if he cheats you think now its better than being cheated later on so hang out wid him hav a nice time and he'll like you even more if your boyfriend says he doesn't want p*rn then 99% he lying or maybe he wants 2 please you so he would hav said it.nd don't call yourself psycho as most people are quite possesive about their bfs/gfs.no guy or girl in d world is perfect .being of your age(assuming)everyperson is attracted 2 d opposite gender (especially boys) as most of d girls like 2 see a guy in nude so do guys want 2 see girls nude.wid age ull learn 2 trust him. don't worry.good bye

[Leeggg]

You should save men everywhere the hassle and stay single until you're older.. Older girls often do the same thing (rarely as psycho though), but if they realize what they do is wrong, then it usually just switches off. The fact that you know you're psycho and still continue to act that way is a little scary. Prepare to be repeatedly dumped for many years to come.

[G_GTom]

Yes. Watch Fatal Attraction. Really kind of a therapeutic movie.

[peace-love-couture]

That won't give her ideas lol

[Anonymous]

Omg I understand you so well!!! I'm the exact same and I don't know what to do I'm ruining my relationship and making myself depressed