At work today i had to sit and listen to this poor girl saying to her mother that her boyfriend isn't being nice and being overprotective. And the women blatantly told her to delete him, "i don't give f who he is. Never let any men control you, you won't just have one boyfriend you can have millions" and had the cheek to turn around and say to me she is only 20 and she stresses me out. 😳 Bad pattern of behaviour is being passed onto the new generation.
Why do women pass on men's hate onto their daughters?
My mom even raised me up saying that women have a hard time and like portrayed women having higher standards than men. She even doesn't likes my male best friend and told me to block him. But weirdly somehow I didn't went in that belief and I don't judge anyone with gender. Maybe my grandma told the same thing to my mom. And she believed it because at their time men were considered superior so it is understandable that they are like that but why don't they understand that there is no fault of the new generation men that their previous generation was like that? They should remember that the freedom which women are enjoying now also have support of men due to which women are free now. In future I won't teach my kids that way and say them to look everyone as an individual.
You point out patterns. The same could be said for some men corrupting young male minds too, instead of allowing them their own experiences. There is extensive evidence of it happening here. The hatred spewed by some 18-20+ yr olds typing scripted info as if copied from a list, info that is wiser and far more jaded than their years could gather themselves. People do it (to a certain extent) because they “care”. Good advice or not depends on the individual people and situations. Most people are capable of coming to their own conclusions in the end.
Of course there are also men who teach their kids bad habbits. But the scenario explained above was on what i saw and that was a mother and her daughter. It all boils down to when ignorance interferes it only produces ignorance. And that's same for hate.
We can say that it's only women passing down their negative behavior of men to their daughters but the issue is a lot bigger then that. Everything from stereotyping to outright racism is very much passed down from parents to kids and this can very much be a cycle that has been going for generations. Also grandparents can pass it forward as well. In general it's past time we start teaching kids and people of every age a simple life rule, Treat People The Way You Want To Be Treated. It does not matter how people justify their behavior or excuse it away. If it's not the kind of behavior you are going to accept from someone else, don't treat others the same way. Because that's the only way we are going to stop these cycles from continuing to play out.
Because they refuse to take responsibility for their poor choice in men, and feel the need to pass the bloodline of bitterness down until it finally disappears.
Parents pass down their own trauma and if they've learnt from it, they pass down their knowledge and growth. It's not the girl's job to make the boy a better boyfriend, that's on him. Leaving the situation is better for her than say, if her mother told her to stay 'cause it's better to be with an abuser than alone. It's not "man hate" it's common sense.
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Why do people just throw the word abuse as they wish lol
Because that how the evil bitches are and why they shouldn’t be in charge of anything. Weak men have given them a voice they do not deserve. They have abused their equality.
That's where they learn this stuff. It all started with their mothers telling them men are trash. Mom is beta and daughter is fuckallmen 2.0
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Pretty much all the advice I got from my mom, and women acting like a mom to me, was god awful. The funniest thing I was told is that I should be gay because a hole is just a hole. I was just telling her the story of when I was unsure of my sexuality. The gall.
If he isn't being nice to her why should she stay with him? I would give the same advice to my son if he were with a controlling girlfriend.
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Surely you gotta let youngester mature emotionally by themselves. So i said to the woman. But our generation evidently failed and is failing daily with communication and understanding ourselves and the opposite gender. How can someone messed up give advice lol
Because good parents advise their children... how is advising your child to dump a controlling girlfriend/boyfriend who treats you poorly bad advice? Would you rather that person stay in a situation where they are being mistreated?
Kids are essentially just starting to find a way through life. Some lf them don't even realise what's going on. For an old woman to disregard her daughters feelings and tell her f him delete him. Doesn't sound like she is considering that the boyfriend also makes mistake as a child and for ber to talk about someone else child like that shows the lack of wisdom and compassion. So yeah somone who went through 50s years of life without figuring it out. now all of the sudden trying have their kids use the same approach, is nothing but failure repeat
You can’t really understand the nuances of parenthood until you are one. If this were your daughter with a boyfriend who was miss treating her I’d be willing to bet you’d change your tune
"You can’t really understand the nuances of parenthood until you are one."
going to have to respectfully disagree. plenty of non-parents have this knowledge and these skills too. legal guardians, aunts, uncles, proffessional childcare workers. and to be fair, plenty of those same examples are still clueless but so are some parents. other than the one statement though, i agree with you subarugirl
I don't disagree that a parent have an instinct of being protective of their kids. It's normal but can be irrational if the parent does not know how to conduct themselves.
For the parent to want an emotional stability for their kids or to want to teach their kids emotional intelligence, they should learn to conduct themselves otherwise it's just passed on failure.
And i also disagree with your first statment because it's based on assumptions.
Not all of them are like that but there are def these dumb biotches that think because a man cares he is overprotective... go ahead and wait bitch you ain't gonna have nobody in your life specially being a ho like your mom
People tend to give advice according to their personal experiences. That is why I try to not give advice but share what worked and did not work for me.
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