Are girls hurt if you ghost them?

[georger123]

If a guy you have been seeing for a few dates all of a sudden ignores or ghosts you, would you girls be hurt? Or would you prefer for him not to ghost and end things?

What usually goes on in a girl’s mind if you ghost her?

Updates

+1 y

I usually initiate all messages, she doesn’t show me enough effort. If I don’t send her a message in the morning and neither does she, that’s not ghosting right? She’s quite stuck up and playing hard to get so won’t message first

[Cynicaldreamer]

Is this seriously a question? Not to be a smartass, but what person wouldn't be hurt or offended if someone you were dating suddenly ghosted you?

Yeah that crap hurts! DON'T BE THAT ASS.
If a girl does it to a guy, doesn't that upset you? Okay then.

Even if you're not officially in a relationship, the fact is someone decided rather than tell you, "Sorry, I'm not interested in you..." they deleted all aspects of himself from you and pretended as if you never spoke to him.

As for your update, "I usually initiate all messages, she doesn’t show me enough effort. If I don’t send her a message in the morning and neither does she, that’s not ghosting right? She’s quite stuck up and playing hard to get so won’t message first"So rather than call her or inform her in person that you're wondering what her intentions are, you just ghost her? Nice 🙄

Even if she was acting stuck up or playing games, you're behaving just as immaturely as she was by ghosting her.

[howhigh420]

Oh absolutly it hurt like fuck like a pile a nrick been thrown on top of my head and there was nothing left but a damaged mind its horrible totaly out of order no man should ever ghost a girl he loves if u love them they are suppose to mean a lot to you not be invisabele i mean after two years of being with mybex he ghosted me like shit like i didn't exicst he would say lets watch a movie and through half of it i was sitting watching it alone wiles the asshole jad his eyes stuck to his phone and he had the cheeck to say are you ok u look bored nd down and why was that because he made me invisable like i never existed its so horrible and u actually feel like one like uve just been hit with a pile of bricks and dead and never be seen again and its wirse if you love the guy like i dud my ex boyfriend and just didn't exist it takes the life out of you when u relise a man in ure love said he loved me but its like am not there it was so upseting

[skytatoe]

I dont play those games anymore. I'll let them know straight up what kind of reciprocity I expect and that I won't stand for anything less (eg, things will be ended).

[Guy13]

Yes but Nope….”he just wanted piece of 🚼, anyway…good riddens”.

Conversely, “I’m not spending a fortune and a lifetime for an average 🚼.”

[randomuser_27258]

Are women suddenly all steel hearted warriors when it comes to dating. Why wouldn't we be? Oh yeah, because only men get their feeling hurt dating, but women. We smile and dance everytime someone we're interested in ghosts us. It's actually a sexual kink hardwired deep into a every single homosapien female brain. We love being blocked or left on read for months at a time. Not disprectful or wimpy at all! Best feeling in the world. Better than sex, winning the lottery or skydiving. Being ghosted... mmh.😌

But seriously OP? Really? Even dogs don't like to be abandoned or ignored, why are women of your same speices so much of an exception?

[Stargal]

I personally wouldn't mind being ghosted after a 1st date. I'd take a hint and move on. But when I've bonded with someone after few dates and hell of texting. Being ghosted definitely hurts. And for some weird reason they come back after a month or so. I often wonder how they have the balls to do that. They literally have to be nothing but dicks.

[Toldol2]

It is unconsiderate. Men think its ok to do so as maybe they feel they have nothing to give so why bother anyway … But as women we are left here with questions. Usually ghosters Come back so I always think its because they are useless to me and there is no need to keep in touch like friends

[PhenomenalQueen]

Of course because it’s very disrespectful, it’s so much easier to say, “I’m not interested.” “I don’t see things going anywhere” versus just disappearing off the face of the earth. I feel like only abusive cowards do this.. (unless you felt like your life was in danger)

[England4eva]

No, I actually prefer it if a guy washes his hands of me so to speak. Cause I have terrible guilt and hate doing it myself. So if he changes his mind as odd as it sounds, I’m great full he was the one to do it, even if I’m into him.

I’m quiet a withdrawn person with men and don’t put myself out there much. So it takes a lot for me to get hurt.
Most of the time I’m not that serious, it’s just another friend to text.

[Apulu_3]

Yes most do get hurted if ghosted by loved ones.

Update : No that isn't ghosting. If she doesn't shows any interest then what's the point of texting her? You did the right thing. Don't show it that way that you are desperate and let her play harder to get. It will get worse by time only. Playing hard to get is an immature act after some extent.

[devilish-cutie]

of course, that is very toxic behavior and anyone would be hurt by it
some more some less depending on how deep it was. If she was seeing 5 guys all st once anddidnt care deeply about that 1 then less likely

[georger123]

Well we have been on 6 dates and she told me she is dating me exclusively. We haven't had sex though. She is playing games with me, like tells me she is staying overnight, then on the day keeps saying no, then she messages me and disappears replies after hours. She has been playing a lot of games, so I thinking just not to rant in a text, and delete and block her number.

[devilish-cutie]

yeah, she doesn't sound mature enough for a commited relationship, id say move on, u deserve more respect

[laurieluvsit]

If they still like you, yes, ghosting can be very cruel.

Laurie's Exhaustive Guide to Ghosting

[Crazycookie23]

Are we hurt? Is that even a question? Have you seen girls during a heartbreak? We literally go through grieving stages especially if we really liked you.

[Sour-rose]

Probably not. Especially if I don't like them that much in the first place. Besides, talking to boys on the apps I be on is worth a penny to talk to. Dirty boys found dirt cheap.

[eblehe]

End things. It hurts but it's better than leaving someone wondering what happened.

[eblehe]

Yeah it's not really ghosting then lol

[COoperativez]

No, usually we have options lol. But now if they swore your the only one they were talking too, then they didn’t lie. Shame on you lol….

[sheikalana]

A lot. This is one of the worst things someone can do to you. It just shows the lack of respect someone had for you.

[lrina]

yeah, if they enjoyed talking to you and you just ghosted them they'd be quite upset.

[Yunganddumb6765]

I hope so! After I've gotten ghosted a couple of times they deserve to see how it feels.

[lrina]

your username fits you quite well.

[Yunganddumb6765]

@lrina Great. thank you. What about all the grown women who ghost men? My username doesn't have anything to do with them! And a lot of them are older than me. A lot of women who are older than me and are more vindictive than I am wishing that women would get ghosted as revenge doesn't seem so bad when I've heard the vengeful thoughts of scorned women. Bash me all you want because of what's between my legs The truth is there's a whole lot of people who are just as bad or worse, and unless you are perfect that judgment that you're passing should be passed on yourself.

[lrina]

the same women who ghosted you are not the same women as the ones who are being ghosted. just grow the fuck up, and move on and quit being a man-baby.

[Yunganddumb6765]

@lrina please stop being hateful and bullying me because of what I have between my legs. If you want to have a normal conversation I'm fine with that but I'm not going to tolerate you bullying me and calling me names especially since I've never done anything but I've always been the victim as far as this subject. When a woman is raped or beaten do we ridicule them because of what they've been through? When somebody gets cheated on do we make fun of them? Do we call them names or do we sympathize with them because they've been mistreated? I've been through some messed up stuff because of some selfish people I've been ghosted a bunch of times but I've never ghosted anyone back, I do wish someone does the same to them so they know how it feels. Yep I'm a horrible person! Every name that you can think of that's me! This is also the last reply I'm going to give you the pleasure of receiving.

[lrina]

LMAO cringe

[girlwithglasses01]

@lrina lmao i laughed so hard at the username thing!

[iFarted]

I dont consider that ghosting. She's simply not putting effort so why should you? Just leave it as is.
I define ghosting as two people whatever the relationship contact one another regularly then one suddenly stops without reason.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes, Extremely! Don’t Care to be messed around when someone’s feelings! Especially mines

[dustybiker]

It shows far better character to end something properly.

[AliceW87]

Depends on the individual. Most people would be regardless of their gender.

[mysfit]

If the girl you really like would do that to you, would you like it?

[TyLeeAndPink]

Yes it hurts don’t ghost us. Unless the girl’s being creepy. Then it’s perfectly acceptable

[annabananna]

If I liked the guy I would have been hurt. Esp if I got the impression that he really liked me too.

[skyeee_]

i think people wouldn't like to be ghosted in general

[Somethinglookforward]

Yes they hurt in some way since they don't know what they did

[Adam_West]

Ignoring someone is the worst thing that can be done to them.

[Alyssa_11]

Depends if I like him or not

[girlwithglasses01]

wouldn't guys be hurt. Women are humans too.

[Nagatoro]

I don't get ghosted cause' I do the ghosting.

[AvaOneLasTime]

Yes, we are.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Random_girl_lol]

yeah mostly

[Iron_Man]

They’re humbled

[Kurdistan1991]

What's the mean

[Mahito]

It means when you randomly cut off all Communications with someone. It’s a slang. So he is asking “will a girls feeling get hurt if I just completely stop talking to her out of no where” which the answer would be “yes” in most cases. Usually the guy will have sex and then go ghost. It’s very cruel at least he should have the balls to say something and let her know his relationship isn’t working out. Or he should’ve said he wanted to hook up and nothing more from the beginning. It’s a bad idea if he had sex because she can get mad and falsely accuse him of rape to get back at him. He should just say the truth to her.

[Kurdistan1991]

@Mahito thanks for explain

[hunted]

Yes!