Girls, Be honest is dating and relationships about having fun with multiple guys or finding one true guy?

[Anonymous]

This is something I have a tough time dealing with. I know girls have options. Girls get tons of DM’s by guys on social media and forums or approached in person. As a guy, all I can do is be myself, be positive, be a gentleman, tell my intentions and my goals in life, be funny but also caring.

But even then I feel like it’s not good enough. I can’t take girls seriously either because I’ve had girls ask me for one night stands and dick pics and I’m not down with that. Surprising as that may sound especially in this era where it seems like a total fuck culture/have fun drinking/doing drugs/partying…If I don’t fit that category it seems like girls will deem me “not fun to be with”.

[Little_Bumblebee]

This is not a gender thing really. That's how many people see it.

Personally, I'm not into the whole "date as many as possible and hook up to have fun".
While I know others prefer it that way.

So it's about finding someone who's in the same place as you are. That's sort of how dating works, to find someone who search for the same as you do - among other stuff of course.

[Splatmate22]

I am not iny interested in hockup or having more than one guy. I wpi would prefer to have a long term relationship. None of guys that I met so far. I am not be attt attracted to guys. Youth club guys there already has girlfriends.

[Asker]

I’m glad you feel that way. Stick to those values. I don’t know why I have a hard time finding a girl who always want to stick to commitment. That’s why I find girls or people in general who so drugs and or drink and care so much about money. They use those things to make them feel good temporarily. I find people like that to be the most disloyal people.

[Splatmate22]

Yet I can't find any single guys but can find guys in relationships . they kept talking about girlfriends at youth. I kept having bad luck with men. I had 9 ex-boyfriends. Be rejected by one guy that I wrote a letter about asking out. Tried one disability dating didn't work.

[Asker]

9 ex bfs? Damn I don’t even have one ex girlfriend lol

[soihyk]

As someone who gets approached by men a lot, I can say that I'm looking for that one guy. I think that I already know that "one guy". I have a lot of guys flirting with me but he is the only one on my mind. I would not change him for anybody else and I would never risk my relationship with him for one silly hookup.