Girls, be honest if you don't like dating apps or guys approaching you what other method is there to find someone?

[Anonymous]

I know we live in a day and age where young women will say I don't care about marriage, having kids is shackling women and it's oppression, guys are only after one thing. But really to the girls out there reading this just answer this -- If your career is your TOP priority for the rest of your life and you don't care if you are 40 and single with a good job, 50 and single with a good job. If you had the mindset in your 20s or 30s that I don't want to get married or have kids because my job will fill that void 100%, what happens if the company lets you go for many reasons (job restructuring/downsizing, your performance, recession). I know some females will read this and say -- men are assholes these days, men cheat, men are not loyal and divorce is on the rise but isn't that having a lack of faith and just looking at the worst case scenario for a relationship because people don't look at the worst case scenario for a job when they get hired, they try to think positively to grow with the company.

[quaranta]

Well, women are not divided into only 2 groups like you imply (either liking dating apps, or being forever single with career as a top priority), because most women work and date as well, and dating apps or casual approaches are not the only ways to get into a relationship.
You might ask on this website to tell how we all met our significant other/s. I think in most cases the interest sparks when the woman is not pressured and can get to know a man better, in other circumstances, such as friends of friends hanging out in group, courses/school, office/colleagues.
I went on a date only once in my life and I dismissed that, I was a teenager. But I had several partners and occasional guys, how comes that? I met them through themed communities of mutual interests, or through friends of friends, or through school back in the time. I talk with a lot of people and as long as a man is not directly trying with me from the beginning, I have the time to figure out if I'm developing any interest on their regards or not, without feeling pressured by their hopes and expectations (I prefer to be the one who takes the initiative anyway).
I don't like dating apps, some women do. But if I had the urge to not stay single (now I'm not single but I've been for long by choice), maybe I would have joined one if I had no other option to hang out with friends of friends more. If so I would join Bumble (focuses on the woman taking initiative) or OKCupid (focuses on matching people through compatibility).
And never once I thought:"men are assholes these days, men cheat, men are not loyal". I trusted all of my partners, there is really no need to think bad of men to be able to focus on career or to date carefully.

Try opening a poll or a question about how people met their partners, maybe you get creative contexts you didn't think about.

[Asker]

If you’re single by choice isn’t it more based on not finding a guy you want to be with. I mean eventually age catches up. I’ve done polls on GAG. Using that data won’t help me. Trust me I’m not sleazy guy online looking for pussy. I want to settle down. I’m doing my masters, I have a job, getting my own place. I cook, I clean, I stay in shape, I can make people laugh, I am a positive person but I’m also someone who isn’t going to bullshit or lie to people whether it’s the economy or the friendship I have with them. I’ve tried dating apps they’re awful. I’m a traditional dude, I grew up in the 90s as a kid. I prefer approaching women than doing things online. I feel like women online are more picky with this 6 ft 4, 6 figure salary mindset. I know that may seem stupid on my end to say but based on experience of girls expectations to girls not bother opening their DM’s, guys are trying. 20 years ago girls and women would say — why are men and guys afraid of commitment well 20 years later I ask the same for women

[KathrynTaylor]

We want to be approached by guys we’re interested in.

[Asker]

Well here’s the thing, everyone starts off as a stranger where you have not spoken to each other. What I meant was if a guy sees you in the mall, grocery store, and says wow…and approaches you.

[KathrynTaylor]

No one’s done that to me. So I don’t know.

[Gummy_Cluster]

You thought this to death. Stop beating. The horse is dead.

[Asker]

Lol so you're idea is to let it be and not come give a proper response. It's women like you I would stay far away from. If you want to have basic level conversations and you go on a podcast or talk show or talking with a professor in a room of 100 students and you give basic responses you will look foolish. You feminist extremists really dont take accountability do you lol.

[Gummy_Cluster]

1. Proper response? Yeah, you should be glad, because it's likely the only response you will get.
2. Please stay far away. Thank you.
3. Students?
4. Feminist
5 Extremist
6. Foolish
7. Anon
8. Taliban
9. Al-Qaeda
10. Isis
11. The Boogeyman

[Asker]

what the hell are you talking about, are you 12?

[Anonymous]

Guys we've known for a long time.

[Asker]

You can’t paint one brush for all guys. Trust me I’ve known girls who embraced being ho’s I don’t want to consider every girl like that or every woman like that, it would be ignorant on my end.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you ask questions if you don't want us to answer?

[Asker]

Because you’re normalizing stupid behaviour. I’m tired of women thinking they act however they want with this modern feminist extremism bullshit. You’re not providing an intelligent response. You sound like a jaded girl for her bad decisions so don’t even go there man.

[Opinion Owner]

All I said was guys we've known for a long time, which is true. We don't want apps and we don't want guys approaching us randomly. If you knew how many times we had to fight it off in a day you would be astounded. You made the insulting remark "girls, be honest...," which is patronizing and abusive, as if I'm not going to be honest when you don't know one thing about me, then when I am honest, you attack me for it. Don't ask questions if you don't want us to answer. And by the way, you can see dishonest questions and answers all over this site, they are glaring. Mine was sincere and I don't deserve to be denigrated by you or anyone.

[Asker]

Yea and I said why do girls assume all guys are the same? A guy has to shoot his shot right? Or should he be scared and not do anything, a guy shouldn’t be a wuss.