I’ve tried to meet girls in person, online, dating apps, through social media, school, work, speed dating events. I understand I won’t be every girls cup of tea. But I’m decent looking, loyal, honest, don’t do anything dumb stuff like drinking/drugs/partying/sleeping around. I understand it goes by case by case, whether someone is attracted to the other, vibing/personality clicks together. But the more and more I see, people are less communicative, less trusting, afraid based on the past. I get that people want to be independent and strong but I see a lot of so called social media influencers showing off the high life of riches only to be depressed and hurting. Why is courting/chivalry/dating/relationships and marriage a thing of the past.
Let's start with what most people are doing: dating apps. These are a complete waste of time unless you are in the top 10% or better in looks and/or the top 5% financially. Those guys do very well on dating apps, and every other guy will be ignored. Don't waste your time.
Really, your only chance is to meet someone LOCALLY in an organic way, and the best way to do that is by getting involved in coed activities locally. A cooking class, a bowling league, a car club, a softball or soccer league, etc. Some US areas have regional activities, such as rodeos or line dancing. Whatever it is, it needs to be something you will enjoy doing anyway, and something that single women are also involved with. Over time, you will make new friends, and you can - with some work - build new circles of friends. You may not necessarily meet a girl who is a participant of the activity, but perhaps she is part of the friend group that you build from the activity.
Try to do 2 different activities at least once a week each. This will allow you to build at least two new friend groups, maybe more. And this is how you meet the right people. It's a lot more work and takes longer, but the results are also far better.
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How many women do you greet by name when you see them? Join a mixed gender activity group and don't hit on anyone for at least six months. Do some of the work needed to keep the group going. Make friends. Then you can ask someone out, or ask them if they know someone who might like to date you.
If you don't know how to make friends, work on that. Maybe get counseling. If I were suddenly single I expect I would have a date in at most two weeks, and a girlfriend within three months.
it was never alive, it's not a living thing. On all seriousness though, no. You see it everywhere. Kind of like how people say "chivalry is dead" uhm... nuh uh? I just held the door, i saw some guy walk closer to the cars, i saw some chick split the bill, why are we saying chivalry is dead when it's all around us? traditional things are "dead", but that's because traditional marriage and dating and chivalry was made for traditional society.
be yourself, and don't let the bitterness reach you and change you. No one said that if you think you are decent looking, others will think the same. More important is what is inside...
If you have this something that will attract the person you are looking for. Working on your strengths and weaknesses is always a good direction to go.
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If you are not having any luck with women, the answer is not that something is wrong with
1. women,
2. chivalry,
3. courting,
4. dating,
5. relationships, or
6. marriage.
Do you have a close friend of the opposite sex to whom you could talk? Sometimes the way the opposite sex perceives you may surprise you. It's never been easy to find someone compatible, but it does seem like it's gotten harder for lots of people to find someone suitable. It can sometimes be a matter of pure dumb luck when you do.
Dating apps and singles events are a complete waste of time and money for you. Apps are designed to drain men of money when women have filtered out more than 85% of male profiles, while the bots give you just enough attention to keep paying. As for singles events, women don't want to date men who would attend a singles event (even though women go to them).
If you can't meet a woman organically than you will just be single.
yes. i feel like if you didn't have anything that you wanted in life (marriage, relationship, kids, house) before covid, that you're pretty much screwed now or it will be very difficult to accomplish. it created some weird shift in people and society.
I am in what most people would call a fairy tale relationship. Everything you want and things you don't know you want in a relationship, I have.
Because of this I truly believe that there is a person out there for everyone. You probably will never find that person, but they're there.It's because of feminism and social media. All I can recommend is to get your money up and maybe look overseas where the spread of the disease called feminism isn't as bad.
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easy to find someone worth it? no
is it dead? no
is it worth it? yes but only if u r willing to take risk n invest in it
I think dating has always been bleak, we just have more exposure to people’s experiences (or lack of) through social media.
if you go over to the pew research website and look at their surveys about dating and marriage, then no it's not dead, it's just changing slightly.
I hope it's not dead. People still get married but no one knows what they want these days from other people. It's so hard for anyone to even speak to a person they like. I do believe love is still out there but it's becoming rare.
Not at all, almost all of my friends of both genders are either getting dates or married
I don't know where you're from but where I'm from is relationships and marriage and alive and thriving.
It's not dead at all, it's just been made pointlessly difficult by Western culture.
More like on life support. dating has always been hard but with more trans people in the mix of the dating world it seems to have gotten a lot harder.
Have you tried to date from girls in your hobbies? My last resort for you…it will be the church 😭😂
Yes. And feminism killed them
It's not dead, but it's difficult for no reason.
Yeah the whole planet is single
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