Are personality traits alone a turn on? Can. confidence and humor get you in bed if he's physically not your type at all?
In experience the kind of guys she's with often has none of the qualities she deems desirable. As often as I've heard that smart, funny, and nice listed before any physical characteristics, I noticed that she's often with someone who is none of those things. I originally assumed that the guy Is pretending to be someone he's not to get laid. Which They are in fact completely different around everyone else. With that said even the sugar coated image isn't particularly funny, smart or good to her or for her according to her. I'd like to think that it's a matter of experience and maturity or lack thereof but that doesn't seem to be the case. In fact I'm starting to think that the more a teenage girl justifies endures for a crush, the more desensitized to dysfunctional behavior she becomes over time.
In America we start conditioning our girls before grade school that if a boy is mean or hits them it means he likes them. Not only is that a horrible precedent to set but it's inaccurate. Even if it were true it's bad advice to give a girl when it comes to socializing let alone crushing/lusting. With all of that in mind I wonder if it's easier to project certain qualities onto someone to explain something subconscious and biological from an intellectual perspective because as civilized people we don't like the idea of choosing mates in such an animalistic way. Guys don't mind using it to justify our own Fuckery, but that's yet another double standard. Have you ever thought any of this through? Do you find those qualities universally attractive? Is personality even a factor when comes to lust? What if No strings attached/no judgement only no one would know was a guarantee. Would Personality even play a role? Or would your sex life be it's own separate set of relationships?
In experience the kind of guys she's with often has none of the qualities she deems desirable. As often as I've heard that smart, funny, and nice listed before any physical characteristics, I noticed that she's often with someone who is none of those things. I originally assumed that the guy Is pretending to be someone he's not to get laid. Which They are in fact completely different around everyone else. With that said even the sugar coated image isn't particularly funny, smart or good to her or for her according to her. I'd like to think that it's a matter of experience and maturity or lack thereof but that doesn't seem to be the case. In fact I'm starting to think that the more a teenage girl justifies endures for a crush, the more desensitized to dysfunctional behavior she becomes over time.
In America we start conditioning our girls before grade school that if a boy is mean or hits them it means he likes them. Not only is that a horrible precedent to set but it's inaccurate. Even if it were true it's bad advice to give a girl when it comes to socializing let alone crushing/lusting. With all of that in mind I wonder if it's easier to project certain qualities onto someone to explain something subconscious and biological from an intellectual perspective because as civilized people we don't like the idea of choosing mates in such an animalistic way. Guys don't mind using it to justify our own Fuckery, but that's yet another double standard. Have you ever thought any of this through? Do you find those qualities universally attractive? Is personality even a factor when comes to lust? What if No strings attached/no judgement only no one would know was a guarantee. Would Personality even play a role? Or would your sex life be it's own separate set of relationships?
