Girl told me persistence pays off?

[red324]

I still think about this one girl that I dated for a short while a little over a year ago and my female friend is like well why don't you message her? It never hurts to be persistent. I forgot how she worded it. I don't know opinions? I think after a period of time it just becomes desperate even if she is the girl that's ever made me the happiest.

[Anonymous]

The girl you dated or your friend told you persistence pays off?

[red324]

My female friend that was giving me advice.

[red324]

Of course now I talked to her today and she goes don't be so progressive. Sounds like a big contradiction to me

[Opinion Owner]

Depends on the person.

[red324]

I don't really think it does. I think you're just digging a deeper hole and wasting more time.

[Opinion Owner]

My grandfather told me when I got older he regrets not chasing after my grandmother after she left him, and my grandmother told me confidentially that she would have took him back if he tried. Every situation is different. Everybody has a different personality. A friend of mine tried to make a relationship work for a decade and finally left her man. In her situation, she deserved better..

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you made lots of mistakes and she’s fed up and doesn’t feel like you’ve improved or want to be better.

[Opinion Owner]

And maybe it’s a combination of losing attraction. In that case, you two probably don’t belong together

[red324]

We weren't together that long for me to make that many mistakes.

[red324]

Nobody really knows the reason except her.

[Opinion Owner]

Well what happened?

[red324]

We had been seeing each other/talking for about 2 months and she wanted to spend the night one night and I guess we were supposed to fuck and didn't. That was my bad. We just cuddled and made out at my house, but she didn't seem mad at me or anything and I dont really see that as a reason to not want to see someone again. So I mean right around the the point where I wanted to make her and i exclusive, she bails. Doesn't answer my phone calls anymore and like 3 weeks later I get a random text saying she just wanted to be friends and she was sorry for misleading me. I tend to move a little slower than most only because I want to make sure they'll stick around, but I'm finally learning in the hookup world we live in that I guess that's just not how it works.

[red324]

I honestly don't know the reason and don't think that was it because I found out later on she's done that to several guys. Commitment issues? I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re saying that because you didn’t fuck her right away that you weren’t interested in her. Um.. that kind of says a lot about her as a woman. If you want to be treated as a woman, you should act like one… so maybe she just wanted you to treat her like an animal or that’s all she knows.

[Opinion Owner]

* You’re saying that because you didn’t fuck her right away that SHE ASSUMED you weren’t interested in her.*

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t understand how anyone makes anyone exclusive after two months anyhow.. and the only reason you take it slowly is so they stick around.. that’s pathetic. I remember someone told me that guys with big dicks don’t have to be so careful because they can get it anytime they want; that it’s the guys with small dicks who don’t act like assholes because their options are limited.

[Opinion Owner]

Usually this is what turns me off.. this mind-set you have.

[Opinion Owner]

You should take it slowly to see if you’re actually compatible and there potential for a long lasting relationship down the road, but you seem to be into the hook up culture too so stop faking it. I can smell it from a mile away.

[red324]

No she was the one who came over. I didn't fuck her because I didn't see a reason to yet. I was just telling you what happened the last time we were together.

[red324]

It probably is all she knows and i was trying to show her I liked her for more than just her looks, but she clearly didn't get the message. I did this exactly thing with 2 other girls after this one. Like I said we live in a hookup world and I like to go a little slower to see if they're going to stick around.

[Opinion Owner]

Did she make a move on you when she was at your house as if she wanted more and you rejected her?

[red324]

Yeah somewhat.

[Opinion Owner]

👍 k

[red324]

I don't still that as a reason to ghost someone though unless she's just a skank.

[Opinion Owner]

Why’d y’all stop talking again? Why does she make you happy?

[red324]

Her positive goofy attitude makes me happy. She just up and left after spending the night i guess. That was the last I ever saw her.

[Opinion Owner]

Why didn’t know demand an answer

[Opinion Owner]

You demand an answer *

[red324]

Why is that what I'm supposed to do? Call continuously until she answers? She's not the easiest person to get ahold of even when we were dating. Poor cell service where she lives.

[Opinion Owner]

No, I would talk to her in person