Is it ok to ask my girl friend not to wear ''slutty'' clothes nicely and respectfuly of course?

[onewhowalkspride]

i just dont want to have to get into a fight with some disrepectful dude whos drooling on her. do you think she maby does it so see if i will tell her its not ok to test my sense of self respect? when i ask her she gets kinda fussy but it almost seems like she likes when i tell her.

[dynamicyandere]

One key thing I noticed here is that you said, “…when i ask her she gets kinda fussy but it almost seems like she likes when i tell her.”


Perhaps she wants you to be firm with her (in an attractive way of course). Perhaps she wants to feel that protective and possessive ‘daddy’ energy from you and wants you to put her in her place so-to-speak.


You don’t want to come off as insecure. But you can confidently tell her that you don’t want her out wearing that outfit.


It nuance but if this is a thing of hers, for you to give her that more authoritative protective daddy energy, it could make her attraction for you grow.


Whether you let it happen or say something about it, you just need to exude confidence and go about it confidently. Both approaches can work to increase her attraction to you. The question is, which resonates more with you? Do that. Be true to yourself. Rock your authenticity with confidence, and charm. 😉


Best of luck to you, man. 🍻

[notwoke]

my opinion is that your thinking about this all wrong. Take some advice from an old guy. If she is "feeling sexy" you should not throw some water on this. you will not like the condition of things if you douse this fire. Enjoy the envy of other men and don't get excited about it. One day soon she will only want to dress like grandma and you will long for the days when she was "sexy minded". This is the best it is ever going to be, it only goes downhill. One day you will be punching yourself in the face for ending this fun time early. how about suggesting she goes commando and you can tease her and stoke the fire when you are at say... the grocery store and when you get home have explosive sex because you have her in a frenzy from telling her how hot she is like this and how she has every man in the store sporting a woody?

[Pandupillu11]

It's perfectly normal to ask her to dress decently, just do it tactfully, girls get rebellious very fast.

[OlderAndWiser]

Try approaching her like "that looks really hot, but it would be even better if maybe you wore this" and then point to something more appropriate.

[onewhowalkspride]

thats kind of what i do it really seems like she just likes to be chalenged to maby see how much i care? i dont know but thank you for the reply

[OlderAndWiser]

If a girl does things to deliberately test you. . . for me, that is a warning sign.