How were women my age ready for motherhood many years ago but I'm not ready?

[Bostonbutterfly]

I don't feel ready at all for that life changing event. If I were to get pregnant right now, I would be freaking out and probably finding the nearest clinic to end it. I wouldn't want to continue a pregnancy.

Many years ago, a 19-22 year-old woman was already ready. She was a full grown woman not just physically but mentally too. My mind still feels childish. Why am I not ready like they were?

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I don't even have desires for a kid like they did at that time. Many years ago, a woman my age already had those baby urges I'm lacking.

[MTC29]

My mother graduated from high school in 1959. At that time very few women went on the college, and since job opportunities for women were limited, most so got married- including my mom. At that time, birth control options ranged from limited to nonexistent, so that pregnancy was a forgone conclusion. Terminating was out of the question. By the time my mother was age 21 she had two kids: myself and my younger sister.

Things are different now with women having many more options.

[Staximus]

I was born when my parents were 30 and their friends said they were getting a late start at parenthood. Most of my parents' friends had their first kid in their late teens. Back then it was easy to support a family and people grew up faster. Their parents expected them to get their shit together and move out right after high school. You could buy a house with a job at the gas station. My parents' first house in Redondo Beach California cost $30,000 in the year 1969. They sold it in 1988, but now that house is worth over $1,500,000. It's a different world now.

[Sour-rose]

Because maybe you still don't know. Aaand that's okay. I knew I didn't want any little bastards with some dumb mofo... and to this day, I still don't. I'm reminded every week of why I don't need one. So I just open my ears and it does the trick- don't need one. Ever.

[Emilyis]

join the club. I didn't think I was ready either but when it happens, you will be ready, You will learn to be parents together. You can't learn to be a parent before birth happens but you can train for it.

[LazerBean]

They were given responsibilities at young ages back then, and so their sense of responsibility grew sooner. Still applies to people today too.

[Bostonbutterfly]

Meanwhile I'm stuck at a childish game at this moment. All I think about is finishing college, going to movies with my friends, going to parties, playing chess and video games, cooking for myself sometimes and walking in the park... I still think like a teenager in HS, like a kid.

[LazerBean]

Those things aren't in and of themselves childish. Like I said, level of responsibility and drive are what determine being adultishness, not levels of fun.

[Skinnylilboy]

Because every generation get spoiled longer and more than the last. That’s why we’re homemakers back in the day I had no rights so making babies was just a priority

[Skinnylilboy]

There’s def typos there lol

[Anonymous]

Everyone goes at their own pace. Some don't ever want kids. Your own choice, no one else's.

[WhitneySnow]

19 is too young for a kid