Why do women lose interest if a guy is “too interested”?

[Intothevoid666]

Like if a guy messages u back too quickly or messages you too much in general or if he always wants to hang out or he really wants you to hang out or is too eager to want to have sex with u etc. why do women lose interest in guys like that? Last time I asked a variation of this question and women all said they don’t act like that but I’ve seen multiple women irl talk about how they didn’t want to hookup with a guy because he was too interested in hooking up with her and I’ve ever had this experience myself so I’m just curious why women do this because I don’t understand cuz men don’t really do this it seems like.

[Anonymous]

Cause human beings are not logical when it comes to feelings. Some people want what they can't have, mostly because they can't have it. Then when they get it it loses it's luster so then they don't want it. It's not healthy. I just drop women flat like that. If they come back I help them by saying "No, you already made your decision". 🙂

[Intothevoid666]

That can’t possibly be it can it? Even if ur a super attractive guy and u do this women still play this game.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, because they're not really attracted to you. They're attracted to the notion of you being attracted to them. It's generally generated by deep insecurity. And yes, even very attractive women can be insecure.

[Intothevoid666]

I thought that for awhile but I’m not so sure that’s always the case anymore tho

[Whatever2929292]

I don't know but not all women are the same. If you are clingy then you need a clingy woman

[Intothevoid666]

Literally every woman does this u just don’t notice cuz ur not that interested in some and those are the ones who don’t do this in your mind but if you showed too much interest too quickly in literally any woman they’d do this

[Whatever2929292]

Well... Not all women are the same and neither are all men. That depends on the woman. Some people like lots of attention and some like to keep to themselves and needs a partner to do the same.

[Intothevoid666]

In certain ways all women are the same and in certain ways all men are the same so no.

[Anonymous]

They could have an avoidant attachment style, or when a guy is being very present and active with her she could realize she doesn’t actually like him, or she likes to chase instead of be chased I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and men most definitely do this lmao you have no idea

[Intothevoid666]

But why does it turn women off i don’t understand that

[Opinion Owner]

It turns those women off because they don’t like that they feel like he’s too clingy or something I don't know. But it’s not all women #notallwomen😩. If I actually like a guy I am ecstatic when he is showing me a lot of attention

[Intothevoid666]

My experience has been that literally every girl does this if a guy gives her too much attention like I can’t think of a single one that hasn’t done this on some level. I have to actively act less interested than I am with every girl I talk to or this happens. I’m not hating or judging I’m just trying to figure out why.

[Intothevoid666]

Gay bottoms do this too I notice

[Opinion Owner]

They’re weird lol they will realize one day that having a guy act uninterested only triggers their insecurities. I think those women have avoidant attachment style for real go look that up it’s triggering that when a guy or even a friend is too “clingy”

[Opinion Owner]

Men have done this to me too and I would leave them because it felt like more effort to try and fake that I was less interested than I was. We clearly weren’t compatible. I don’t like playing games

[Intothevoid666]

No every single woman will do this if u show too much interest. I’ve talked to more than enough women to No this. There has not been a single exception to this rule out of I don't know hundreds of women I’ve talked to

[Opinion Owner]

Not true but ok. They don’t really like you then cause.. who wouldn’t want someone they like to show interest in them lol I don’t get it

[Intothevoid666]

No it’s 100% true. There has not been one exception to this rule and unit doesn’t matter if your super attractive as a guy or even if u have obvious chemistry with a girl if u act too interested that’s it and no real second chance either. In fact if u met a girl and hung out with them for a few hours and got their number you’d have better luck telling them u don’t see a future with them and ask them to fuck than u would to say something like “you’re my biggest crush ever, seriously we need to hang again. I like this, this, this, this, this, and I love that about u. I really hope u like me back.” I’ve tried both attempts and women consistently respond better to the first. I’ve approached 100s of women and there hasn’t been one exception to this rule and my friends all say the same.

[Opinion Owner]

Jesus 😭 well I’m not like that so I didn’t know it was like that

[Intothevoid666]

I just think ur u aware of it. U said in the beginning “men most definitely do this lmao u have no idea.” Have u gone for any of the guys who did do that?

[Opinion Owner]

Well they were the ones who asked for my number and pursued me first. We would talk regularly and text at a certain rate with no more than a few hours in between texts at most because of work, sleep, etc. But then they’d change and go days without calling or texting with no explanation and that would turn me off and make me feel insecure so I’d talk to them about it and see if they change. They wouldn’t change so I would stop talking to them. In my last relationship he didn’t do this and that made me really happy he was “clingy” not actually clingy to me but he was very present and available and that made me feel so validated and like it wasn’t one sided. Lol I miss my ex 😭 anyways if that’s what those women want then they should find guys who like to act uninterested. I feel bad for guys who don’t want to do that though

[Intothevoid666]

That’s not clingy that’s available. Women want a guy who is available but not a guy who is more interested than they are. Tell me this. Why is it if I walked up to 10 random girls tomorrow and have a quick convo and get their social. If I hit them back up to get coffee the next day they will likely all say no, maybe I’ll get a single yes in there if I’m lucky and lower my standards enough. But if I don’t message them or look at their story or posts for awhile and only text them really sparingly and then ask them to get coffee with me a few weeks after getting their number they’ll say yes? Like we can run an experiment tomorrow if u don’t believe me. How can that be if what u say is true? And how have I heard numerous women tell me they won’t hookup with a guy if he is too interested and literally every possible or actual hookup of my life followed that trend? If you are too eager off the bat they will turn u down 100% of the time at least in my experience and all my guy friends I’ve talked about this with. How can my experience be this way if what u say is true? Even the celibate virgin girl waiting for marriage did this to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Bro I believe you 😂 you seem very passionate about this subject so yes I have no doubt that this is the case. I’m just saying I’m not like this.. it is a turn off when a guy is aloof to meeeeeeeee notspeakingforallwomencausewerenotallthesamejustlikenotallmenarethesame. If a guy is more interested in you than you are in him you will be treated amazing and he will be less likely to cheat lol. What you described is a turn off to me I’d feel insecure about the relationship and I’m really prideful (and admittedly still immature) so I’d ignore him harder and try to top his aloofness. Or end contact with him. But yes I guess that’s not the case with most women and I really don’t know why

[Opinion Owner]

Wait actually I think it’s because those women are always bombarded by men and always have men being desperate for them, so when they meet a guy who doesn’t act like that and makes her work a little for his attention she sees him as higher value than the guys who are “throwing themselves” at her

[Opinion Owner]

It’s like how some guys get turned off by an easy girl who would have sex with them immediately. They see her as lower value

[Intothevoid666]

It’s not just most women tho it’s literally every woman I’ve ever hit on in my life. Maybe ur not like this but you’d be the only woman I know of that I’ve ever met that wasn’t. And I guess I see the logic but not really. But how can I date women as a guy when they all do this? It’s like I have to actually not be that interested or be a perfect actor. Well it’s easy now cuz after I realized every woman I’ve ever talked to was like this I think I actually don’t ever want a relationship and now getting women is super easy. Wtf is this.. this couldn’t make less sense I swear.

[jahaims]

If someone loses interest in you for that, that means you dodged a bullet

[Intothevoid666]

But every girl does this.

[jahaims]

And?

[Intothevoid666]

So just don’t date women I agree tbh lmao.

[Anonymous]

Women play mind games, you should learn that now and don't play their games.