She didn't move away when our legs touched in the hot tub for at least 30 seconds?

[Scratt]

My crush (F26) and I (M28) were sitting next to each other in the hot tub. After cooling off on the ledge she got back in beside me and (perhaps unintentionally) lightly put her leg against my leg around the knee cap/quad area. I didn't move and neither did she for at least 30 seconds. It was all I was aware of and thinking about for those 30 seconds. I didn't move because obviously I liked it.

Fast forward 1 week later and we're both sandwiched in the backseat of a car where it was unavoidable to be overlapping shoulders because it was so squished. Far less room than the hot tub. However, we both consciously kept our legs to ourselves because we were in the open with other people around. I imagined touching her leg with my leg in the backseat and it felt totally inappropriate, like I would've been making a move on her or something.

Now thinking back to the hot tub moment, shouldn't we have been even more conscious of not touching since we were half naked under water? What made that situation different? It makes me wonder if it was the jets going and the water that made us feel safe and private to touch legs, like it was our little secret?

What do you think this means?

[PrettyPriya]

This sounds like you are reading way too much into a coincidence. I could even be your imagination that it was 30 seconds. Sometimes things feel like an eternity and really aren't. But, who knows... maybe it was. Still, the point is that it was most likely nothing. You are going to have to have a lot more indicators that she is into you other than that.

Does she flirt? Do you spend a lot of time with you? Laugh, giggle, smile, etc? Those are far more concrete signs she might have a thing for you than accidentally touching legs. Regarding the car, glad you didn't touch her leg there. You are right, totally inappropriate. There was no consent and you are not together. Best keep hands to yourself.

So, I would think back and see if you recognize any of the classic flirting signs rather than fixating on this one (and possibly very insignificant) thing as the determining factor whether you believe she has a crush or feelings for you. Best of luck.

[Scratt]

Yes I know there also needs to be other flirting signs, and there is like laughing and smiling, but this was a rare moment. 30 seconds wasn't in my head, and even if I'm over shooting the amount of time it was still a significant amount in terms of physical skin on skin contact.
Since you agree touching her leg in the car would've been inappropriate, then what makes touching in the hot tub any different? That's my whole point. A hot tub should be even more inappropriate since we're half naked and there was way more room than in the car. I didn't give consent in the hot tub, and I didn't move, she was the one making all the movements, yet there she was not pulling away for a long time.
The car has significance because that's where I realized that touching legs wasn't just "nothing" and that we both had full awareness of our body.

[SueShe]

I believe you are overthinking the entire hot tub issue.

You may have been aware of the situation and enjoyed it but to her, it was something that was not worth a big deal. One can move the leg close to someone else unintentionally, especially if the mind is occupied with something else, such as a conversation for example.

Thirty seconds does not seem like a long time and when she realized that she did touch your leg, she probably reacted when she noticed her leg against yours and moved it away.

My opinion would have been different if in the confined car she would also have placed her leg against yours since this situation is almost unavoidable when seated so tightly. I don't think anyone around would have noticed anything exceptional given the situation in which both of you were.

[Scratt]

Like I said, she most likely moved her leg on my leg unintentionally, but it's the fact that she didn't move away. There's no way that she wasn't aware that our legs were touching, it was very obvious, plus you're extra aware of your body when you're half naked in a hot tub. So yeah 30 seconds was a long time in this situation, that's the entire reason why it has significance for me. If it was a couple second it wouldn't matter. So it's not correct to assume that she noticed it LATER then moved. She 100% knew we were touching. I also think you're missing the point about the car. It's the fact that it felt so inappropriate and seductive to touch in the car even though it was wayyy tighter than the hot tub, so what makes the hot tub any different? If anything a hot tub is even more inappropriate due to being half naked, etc.

[RavVid]

I think girls are fairly conscious of body contact with men (unless they're drunk). When girls give a social hug they sort of stoop forward to minimize breast contact.

My surmise is either
1. this girl feels extremely comfortable with you in a platonic sense
or
2. she likes you and making subtle - deniable - body contact with you.

Body language says we position our legs towards someone we are attracted to. So flirt or tell she is cute or ask her on a date and see how it goes.

[Scratt]

Thank you for the info! And good advice

[RavVid]

Good luck!

[Guy13]

Yes dude... you crossed the line but not irrevocably.

[Guy13]

She's a nice girl, yes? Have you held her hand with a dropped shoulder walking amongst the Public? Have you just grabbed a hold and brought to yourself in public? Have you just listened as she led in talking... trying to contribute Something ;-) being Guy :-) .. that was in her obvious best interest... EVEN if guy and what would you do?_SETUP. Have you demonstrated a heart for her greater than yourself. FLOWERS, maybe.-my always fallback. :-)

[Avicenna]

That there is some physical attraction

[Anonymous]

Nothing