Why does this happen?

[FunkyMonkee]

You're hanging with some people, you have no intention of hitting on any of the girls there because they're all spoken for. Suddenly, one of them kisses you passionately, even with her hubby or boyfriend standing right there in front of us! This has happened, more or less the same way a number of times, to me over the past 30-some years!! WHY am I only attractive to married or spoken for women? I don't get it! Is there a sign on my back, "Cheaters wanted"? Why is it they won't look at me twice when they're single but, as soon as the get involved, they want ME!! I can think of ONLY 2 girls that I've been with that were completely alone at the time and our fling only lasted an hours or so to about a week. There's been at LEAST 6 and only one had a boyfriend, at the time, all the others were married!! I COULD say there were 7 but, the girl in Erie doesn't count because I only knew her for about 2 minutes and I kissed HER and she was perfectly fine with it! I also have no idea if she was seeing anyone, at the time. My singer used to call me, The Bitch Magnet.

Can any of you women tell me what it is that makes you wanna do this? Especially to me!!

[humanearth]

I have that happen to me after I get married

[Charliefretz329]

That’s happened to me. It’s cause they were swingers

[FunkyMonkee]

ALL of them?
1. She's married and has a 3 year old. The night I met her, she and her hubby went to a movie with me (I'd been trying to get him into my band), she made sure she sat next to ME, I felt her rubbing my leg the entire time but tried to ignore it.
She wanted to see my band so, hubby let her come to a gig. During the breaks, we sat and talked and she started making out with me saying she's leaving him because he abuses her. 4 months later, she claims she's been cheating on ME, too. Hubby finds out and is furious yet, we all still stay friends.
2. We're playing a gig, a friend of the band brings his girlfriend. I've never seen her before. During the first break, she kisses me for no reason in front of everybody. After the gig, she wants to talk to me, I sit and listen, almost immediately, she starts making out with me! boyfriend sees this but never says a word. We're still friends over 30 years later but haven't seen her since that night. Last I heard, on the phone, she told me she's going to New York.
3. She's my guitarist's girlfriend. We hit it off immediately and became the best of friends. 2 years later, after much pushing from me, they finally get married. 2 or 3 weeks later, he leaves her because of a trip to an amusement park she wanted to take with people (ONLY to get there and back, NOT to stay with them at the park) he didn't agree with. 3 weeks later, she falls in love with ME, has a nervous breakdown, ends up in a mental home for 6 months, gets out and goes back to him. A year later, she leaves him and comes back to me, then goes back to him, again! I don't see her for another 12 years.

[FunkyMonkee]

4. 6 years later, I'm playing a gig I was talked into playing with some other band. After our set, I sit in the back of the room as the next band plays, these two girls show up and are stood in front of me. One apologizes for blocking my view, I say it doesn't matter, I'm not watching them, anyway. She likes this and starts talking with me. We talk for a few hours and she mentions being married. My ride leaves we say goodbye. 2 weeks later, we bump into each other on the street and talk for another few hours, she invites me to her place to continue our talk on music and rushes me out before hubby gets home at 11:00. Within another couple weeks, we're at her place making out and I'm told she left him because he got a sex change years before, then reverted! We spend the next 10 years together while he sleeps in another room. Then, she starts cheating on me!
5. I'm at a Christmas party at a record store where I work but it's a very warm Dec. night. I decide to go out for some air, a work associate's wife comes out afterwards and we sit and talk for a few minutes. Out of nowhere, she gives me a passionate kiss!! I never see her again after the party and the two break up a short time later.
6. #1 runs into me on the street after not seeing each other for 10 years, we talked for a couple hours catching up. She divorced and married someone else. I walked her out to her car, we hugged & kissed goodbye and I find her tongue in my mouth as she gets passionate, again!! This was a couple months before I found out my fiance was cheating on me.

[FunkyMonkee]

7. I meet some girl on FB that lives about 14 hours drive from me. She eventually, sends me a bunch of her FB friends and I end up talking to one, VERY casually, who lives in Bulgaria! After a "false" tragedy on my end (I thought I was going to have a heart attack and went to the hospital only to find out, it was a skeletal thing), she confesses her great love for me! She's married with 2 kids and tells me about all the horrific things hubby does to her and that she wants to leave him but is too scared to leave. Granted, we never met or kissed but, we fell in love and then lost contact (she knows next to nothing about computers) and we haven't heard from each other, since.
8. #3 and I are best friends, again, shortly after hubby dies but, she's with another guy that looks just like him. We are invited to a New Years "party" by the daughter of #2's boyfriend. She is married with a couple kids. As we all sit in their living room watching t. v. waiting for the ball to drop in about 2 hours, she turns to me and gives me a very passionate kiss!! Hubby, sitting not even 2 feet away never says a word!!
9. #3 decides she WANTS to be my girlfriend after leaving her new boyfriend. The relationship only lasts a few more weeks when she gets pissed at me for not giving her money to feed a stray cat!! (At this point, I'm flat broke (as is she) living on what change I can find at drive-thru windows so, I'm NOT about to waste MY money on a stray cat!! IT'S A STRAY!! Others will, and probably DO, feed it or it'll find/kill something to eat!!)