Girls, which guy would you rather have as a partner?

[MCheetah]

Both men are the same age as you, have no kids, and earn the same amount of money.

Shoutout to miss @AddylynnNightingale.

A tall 6'3"/192 cm ripped gym-loving guy who is a 9/10 in looks, but hot-headed, arrogant, and selfish?

A short 5'9"/175 cm dad-bod guy who is a 5/10 in looks, and calm, humble, and considerate of you

I'm queer or asexual. (No men at all.)

[Topaz1979]

Well I think the truth is no matter how attractive you are if you have a bad personality and a cruel heart that automatically makes you an ugly person!.

[MCheetah]

Eh... Most abusive or cruel men I've met still had women. 100% of them had women, in fact. Most short men I ever met (my height and even shorter) did not have women. I can only remember two that did; and the one guy was the 5'4" owner of a bank in his late 40s, and his wife with a smoking hot, hourglass-figure, 35 year old, 5'10" blonde woman who treated him like a King. Reminded me of what @Sirenboobzilla said about her husband, in fact.

But instances like that were extremely rare in my life. Most of us manlets were single (including all the ones who had "nicer" personalities and more upbeat attitudes than me, so don't try to attribute outlook to it; it was all height).

To summarize it, looks/height/wealth seemed to be all that mattered to the women I've seen in my life. Which is one reason why I asked this question.

[Topaz1979]

@mcheetah any woman or person who is willing to be with an attractive person for the sake of their looks with a cruel heart and a bad personality is making themselves seem shallow, superficial, fake, and traumatized because if you are sitting there letting someone ill treat you just because they are attractive it makes it seem like you've got unresolves psychological issues.

this age we are living in is quiet superficial and attention seeking most people like to put of an image to the world that their lives are perfect with nothing wrong at all and they come on social media to show off and seek validation, There's even a trend going around where parents seek out attractive partners just so they can get attractive kids and then show their kids off on social media and tik tok each to their own, i'm not judging but that is what the world has come to.

I was raised understanding that If you have a bad personality and a cruel heart then you are an ugly person, beauty is skin deep. But even so I will have a soft spot for such a person because may be they are cruel with horrible personalities because they've live rough lives. But still i'd avoid such a person and feel bad for them from afar. I know it's wrong to judge and I try my best to not be super non-judgmental but here I was just trying to show that how you are can paint you in either a negative or positive light in the eyes of society.

[Topaz1979]

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[MCheetah]

There's an Anonymous 25-29 in THIS very post, who did just that! It's far from rare for women! In fact, I'd almost say it's the norm. At least, in my experience. I also believe personality is irrelevant for modern women under 35 today, from what I've seen. It's all about "how much can he provide to me?" and any abuse or negativity from "toxic" relationships are just "speed bumps" as so many women call them. But it's good you still think personality is worth a damn! Maybe you're one of the few women who don't just dismiss all short/unattractive/overweight men as "incels" and "creeps," as is the norm nowadays, as well.

[Topaz1979]

@mcheetah I actually really do see your point though and I think you are very right, but I would pick B over A without a doubt if I was faced with that option because a men like B is the real attractive one and a man like A is unattractive to me at least.

[Lucy68]

I'll take B, I just want someone to treat me like I'm a human being. Someone that'll love me no matter what that's all honesty

[Aerissa_Jade]

A guy will still get women, he is the type that women will want to use and lose, have fun with and move on.

No one wants to be married to him, or most won't. He is the type that could often become abusive, either emotionally and/or physically.

[MCheetah]

Based on the comments and how many women I've met in real life, you'd be surprised.

[Ayesha587]

Will go for hot cuz I m capable of taking care of myself and my emotions I don't depend on anyone , being selfish isn't bad... It's bad only if he is cruel and abusive otherwise it doesn't. If he is arrogant that's fine cuz if he falls for me everything is under control boss hahaha

[420Rachel]

I chose B. Looks are only skin deep. That doesn't make a person a proper partner. That person doesn't love you or keep you in mind. He ain't the type of guy who would surprise me with flowers or draw me a bath after I had a long day. I'm in it for the long haul, sorry Chad. 😂

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I would say B, I wouldn't be able to tolerate A at all, much less date/sleep with him. I dont have the patience for people who are impulsive or easily angered, especially if they're passed middle school (>14 years old). If he's a 9/10, he's probably out of my league anyways and 6'3 is too tall for me. B sounds more reasonable and would be fine.

[Anonymous]

I’m currently dating someone who is guy A, he was extremely hot headed and would get triggered by everything, he would also blame me for every single thing that went wrong in his life - this was the worst relationship I’ve ever been in. Until I stepped my foot down and told him that he needs to find a better way to vent out his emotions. Now I’m dating someone who is a 10 in my eyes, very hot, ripped, loves going to the gym with me, he’s also very respectful and in tune with my (and his) emotions. Couldn’t have asked for anything better despite the struggles that we had to go through to make it to this point!

[TrueConfection]

I voted B because he's the kind of "partner" I'd want to live with and go places with.

If you're talking about a sexual partner, I'd vote A. 😇

[MCheetah]

Your choice is A, then. You can vote on the poll for that.

[AddylynnNightingale]

My answer is the same as the others who I sent your question to. Even the one who hasn't answered yet as we speak. I can already guess what it'll be.

[MCheetah]

@AddylynnNightingale
I don't mind being wrong, mind you. I'm just saying, in my entire life's experience (and many other men's), personality matters very little to women. Or at least, not as much as initial sexual attraction. If I end up being wrong (assuming any of these women are telling the truth), that'll be a good thing. I'm just saying, in *my* experience, the short, fat, ugly guy usually loses out regardless of their "winning" personality.

[MCheetah]

@AddylynnNightingale
Also, of the three opinions typed so far (TrueConfection, Ayesha587, and Anonymous 25-29), they all chose guy A.

[AddylynnNightingale]

I think being wrong is a bad thing. I think it's the best thing that can happen to us looking to improve. I made sure to pick out three out of that post who mentioned wanting a tall or strong men.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Being wrong is a good thing, pardon me. I write slower than my thoughts.

[AddylynnNightingale]

True voted B though.

[MCheetah]

I don't think many women on here told the truth, especially since the previous three I mentioned WROTE they'd want guy A, but didn't vote for him. But I can't prove how many lied or not. So fine, you win. (🤝hand shake)

[ShellyB]

I wish I could say the second guy but I would probably end up with the first guy!! Or I don't know, maybe I am getting better about it, but for a while I was drawn to good looking jerks like a magnet.

[Macaron02]

Not much of a choice... But I'd rather have someone skinner not like just skin and bones, funny, respectful, confident, loving, caring; but I probably wouldn't date option A, I need someone who cares for after a long day I'd need a caring guy.

[BlueScorpio]

Why do you guys always unfairly make the attractive guy a jerk? If you want real answers make A and B the same? Would guys still choose B if this was the female version? I doubt it, they probably just good look for a woman who still an A. but has the personality of B cause it's possible to be attractive and a decent person. There's plenty of arrogant attractive people and non attractive people, it all depends on the personality and not so much looks.

[BlueScorpio]

I think guys intentionally make the hot guy unappealing so they can give the guy they feel more closer, B, a chance. if you would made them both humble and calm, then you would got a real answer.. but since we're left with no real choice of course women are going to default to B.

[MCheetah]

I think this was a lot of mental gymnastics to just say you want a perfect looking man.

Regardless of gender, MOST attractive people tend to be meaner and more narcissistic, on average, than non attractive people. Because they can get say with it and because of the Halo Effect. Unattractive people are seen as "bad people" by default (especially men, who get called "incels an creeps" merely for being short/unattractive), and tend to be more sympathetic because of the bad way they're usually treated. And yes, there are exceptions to the rule. But they're just that: exceptions.

[BlueScorpio]

What.. no. what I was saying was if you give both the same type of personality then you will see who women would really choose. It's not aborting a perfect looking man, it's about attraction, you're seriously telling me you don't want a woman who you find attractive?

[MCheetah]

But that isn't reflective of reality, because you'd be comparing someone who is perfect to someone who isn't, and no one is perfect, so it's a moot choice.

And no, I'm not into women who look like 9s and 10s. Cause like I said before, attractive people rarely have good personalities, in my opinion. Not everyone is shallow.

[BlueScorpio]

But aren't you just basing that on personal experiences? You're assuming all attractive people are bad apples cause of rejection. The truth is everyone isn't going to you find you or me all that attractive, it doesn't make them terribly people, it just means we aren't their cup of tea and that's fine.