Long story short i liked this girl for quite some time, i talked to her at school and text her a good amount of times, but recently i said f it and jus didn’t want to waste time and text her my feeling. she jus left me on seen. i am almost 100% sure that means a no. but just wanted to know what could be the reasons for leaving me on open or if there’s any other possible reasons she didn’t respond?
Woman 101: You are constantly being tested whether they admit it or not.
Women revolve around Worth and being most worthy is not the position she seeks... Being Worthy is not "all" Money, Status/Prestige, Power, the Man's man guy. If you're life standing is whatever and she's flirting/paying you attention (teasing etc) then you are good as you are... if she's trying her best to get you to the "Dating" stage, via flirting, testing, and hint dropping then you're good. If you crack or are unwilling to jump through or grab the damn hoop and make it so then you failed the Test. What you have done is killed her "inside head good self-talk" or possible bragging rights to the girls: What is she going to think or tell her friends except maybe, "I've got a lap dog... it's going to be fun making him pant and run in circles around me." OR "I ought to be able to drain this guy and his wallet dry." OR "this is kind of Creepy, you think he beats off to me?" YOU gave her no other options.
What she Sums from your behavior: Clearly, I have more Worth than he does. I bet he has no life... I bet he treats all women, especially if receives a little treat of attention, this way... "I really don't care about your insecurity and who the F-do you think you are laying this crap on me... I don't even know you this way."
Did you ever ask her out on a date via text, call or in person and say it was a date? That is the best way to show intent without going overboard.
You make a definite plan and get her out on a date and keep it fun, flirty and playful. You have to trigger attraction, be authentic with how you show up and what you want.
If you vomit your feelings to a woman you are guaranteed going to overwhelm her and push her away. Which is probably a big reason she left you on read.
If you like a woman and want her to be a girlfriend, you need to vet her, be a catch yourself, show intent and leadership and act like a man. If you don't do this, you will push her away or only give off friendly vibes.
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Just play it cool, man. You shouldn't have expressed your feelings that way, but now that you have; just give her time to process things and respond. Don't jump to any conclusions.
If she had already friend-zoned you, then I think it's a no and she just didn't know how to respond. Women are emotional creatures so if it was a "yes" she would have immediately responded. I give you props though - you did the right thing. Better to know and move on than to waste your time spinning your wheels.
Pro tip: NEVER text something like that. Very weak.
You talk to her at school, but the most crucial point of communication you deliver via text?
Live and learn..
I know its hurt no point trying to find answers, much better telling her then it being a regret which you have done now take it as a no and move on for the better
Just move on
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