Soo there’s this girl at work she comes in once a week and would flirt with me love bomb me and spend time with asking me what green flags i look for. I was shocked around her so sometimes i just froze and didn’t respond.
I eventually ask her out for a drink and she gave me her number and said yes in person then on text said I’m going on holiday next week and busy with work and school do not sure when she’ll be free. I said ok good luck with school and if anything changes let me know.
When I do see her next she pretended as if I didn’t exist getting uncomfortable and making faces at me. So I don’t address it and think to myself ok you’re immature. I ignore her that week and the next week until she says hi to me. She didn’t apologise but gave new puppy dog eyes.
We had a work Christmas party coming up and I think that’s why she was trying to be friendly again so she could have a nice and peaceful time.
I accidentally knocked over my drink on her. I was really sorry and embarrassed and tipsy at the time and she said I was getting payback. I was soo shocked i didn’t know what to say or how to respond. I said I’m sorry and are you ok?
She tried to say oh you have to buy me a drink and pay for my dry cleaning in a way to embarrass me. I just laughed right in her face because I was tipsy. She started to be mean towards me the entire night whenever I would try to engage in any conversation. She also said she was trying to get her guy to buy her some jewellery as someone asked me about if I’m seeing anyone and i just hid my answers. I was evasive. I wanted to be mysterious. Right now not seeing anyone but i didn’t want her to know.
I see her the next week at work and she is almost trying to be all innocent towards me. So I just say look in sorry about the drink and are we cool? She says it’s fine and waves her hand daubing no big deal. Then she goes right back to flirting with me.
I’m not going to lie I do like her but the way she treated me
I eventually ask her out for a drink and she gave me her number and said yes in person then on text said I’m going on holiday next week and busy with work and school do not sure when she’ll be free. I said ok good luck with school and if anything changes let me know.
When I do see her next she pretended as if I didn’t exist getting uncomfortable and making faces at me. So I don’t address it and think to myself ok you’re immature. I ignore her that week and the next week until she says hi to me. She didn’t apologise but gave new puppy dog eyes.
We had a work Christmas party coming up and I think that’s why she was trying to be friendly again so she could have a nice and peaceful time.
I accidentally knocked over my drink on her. I was really sorry and embarrassed and tipsy at the time and she said I was getting payback. I was soo shocked i didn’t know what to say or how to respond. I said I’m sorry and are you ok?
She tried to say oh you have to buy me a drink and pay for my dry cleaning in a way to embarrass me. I just laughed right in her face because I was tipsy. She started to be mean towards me the entire night whenever I would try to engage in any conversation. She also said she was trying to get her guy to buy her some jewellery as someone asked me about if I’m seeing anyone and i just hid my answers. I was evasive. I wanted to be mysterious. Right now not seeing anyone but i didn’t want her to know.
I see her the next week at work and she is almost trying to be all innocent towards me. So I just say look in sorry about the drink and are we cool? She says it’s fine and waves her hand daubing no big deal. Then she goes right back to flirting with me.
I’m not going to lie I do like her but the way she treated me
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Honestly if I were in your shoes I’d keep my distance and only interact with her when necessary. I don't know if any of us could answer with 100% accuracy where her head is at, but one thing is for sure and it’s that she seems to have a lot of fun getting attention from you, messing around with you and that’s not ok. I understand you have a crush on her, but you seem pretty mature and the last thing you need is to keep investing time in this childish game she’s playing. The right woman will be upfront about her feelings and not turn down an opportunity to date you, then treat you like the villain. It’ll be simple, organic and hassle free. She’s not bringing that to the table, so please don’t feed into her bs anymore.
I just get really nervous and anxious when I think about her and not in a good way. I don’t know why I just feel like I can’t move on. Initially I thought she was pretty but didn’t like her like that. Only recently I feel it’s like she played with me to get me to chase her. Which I won’t do.
Definitely don’t do that lol. Well I think what makes things hard is that you seem to run into her a lot, whether it’s Bc she works with you or a frequent customer, not sure what your line of work is. But if anything is for sure, at least in my opinion, it’s that she’s not a good candidate to date. I see a lot of drama circulating around her, and that’s what she would bring to you. This is why I say keep your distance and only interact when necessary, because unless you’re changing jobs, there’s no getting around seeing her. But if you stop engaging, she will back off. How she feels about that can’t be your concern, and trying to engage her seems to result in some childish bs on her behalf, so no point in bothering.
Yh you’re right she isn’t a good candidate. I only see her once a week. I don’t want drama and you’re right that’s what she would bring me into. I think it’s because I opened myself to the possibility of finding someone after being ridiculed for liking someone before this situation.
I liked this girl and asked her out DVDs she told my friends and everyone’s turn on me soo I shut myself out to any romantic possibilities. This was 4 years ago and now I feel like is it happening again?
Oh once a week is definitely manageable, I’m glad it’s not more frequent, so it’ll be easier to keep your distance. The first time or two may be difficult if you’re like me at all and worry about how she will perceive your behavior, but it gets easier. You don’t have to be rude or anything, you can still say hi if she opens that door or make small talk again on her behalf, but this will be you basically moving on with your life outside of these interactions with her.
As for what happened with the other girl, I’m sorry you went through such a mortifying experience, but don’t let that keep you off the field. Worrying that it will happen again will only cause unnecessary anxiety, stress and reluctance to get back out there again. Some people are perfectly content being single and If that’s your stance as well then don’t feel bad. However if that’s not the case then you shouldn’t deprive yourself of happiness in the future, not every woman is the same just as every man is not the same. Find ways to heal from that situation so you can let it go, whether it’s therapy or finding other helpful outlets. After 4 years though, you owe it to yourself to move forward, lord knows that woman has.
From frowny faces to Present she has been wanting you to chase her and show a sincere interest in her. Like back her up in the corner and pin her down on a time and place because I want your Time. Women want to be chased and act detached without blowing it up if they like you. This may be what happened here BUT you need to remember a Detail in conversation and act on it. Like if mentioned type of flowers... or pre-valentine $10-15 flower warm-up/?
You are already on the hook for Valentine's Day and she will bad mouth you all over the place if you do not handle mid-January to mid-February right way !!!