Younger sister can beat me in a wrestling match and I feel embarrassed. How can I overcome this humiliation?

[Anonymous]

The way she won was by making me tap out. If you want anymore info then let me know. Thanks

[laraWM]

Nothing to be embarrassed about, girls can be strong and smart too. Maybe you could ask to not wrestle against your sister, if it's weird for you

[Asker]

It’s not that it’s weird. We used to wrestle when were kids and I’d always win. But now we are older she has strong lower body and uses that to make me tap. I feel I should still be able to win. That’s the annoying part

[laraWM]

She probably works hard on it because she didn't like loosing

[Asker]

Maybe I have to do the same now lol. Her signature move is to wrap her legs round my ribs and squeeze. Kinda like a snake if that makes sense. It’s the one the hurts so much and I literally can’t escape. Although I’m not sure what I can work on to escape that hold

[laraWM]

Maybe you can't escape it, I think you should rather work on how to prevent her from doing that

[Asker]

I didn’t really think of it like that tbf. I always focused on how to escape. She said she wants to fight tonight though so I could be in trouble

[laraWM]

Yes maybe she relies too much on that move, don't let her do it

[Asker]

She does. I’m gonna protect my body. Try and cover my rib area so she doesn’t latch on to it again. Wish me luck looool

[laraWM]

Yes, let us know how it goes 💪

[Asker]

Yes will do. Thanks for taking time to advise and chat :)

[Asker]

Hey. We wrestled again. And I’m sad to say I lost again. :(

[laraWM]

The same way? I'm sorry

[Asker]

Kinda. Are u able to dm me? Would feel more comfortable explaining there if u don’t mind?

[laraWM]

You're anon lol

[Asker]

Oh shoot. Forgot about that. Well I guess I’ll just reply here. So like I said, I went to protect my ribs so she couldn’t wrap her legs round them and it worked. She couldn’t do it. But what that meant is my upper body was left clear. So instead of crushing my ribs, she managed to do the same but this time around my neck. And this was insanely more painful. I tapped almost instantly but she never let go. I think I made the embarrassment I already had, worse.

[laraWM]

Ouch that sounds terrible, she's good with her legs. You need to block them

[Asker]

She just laughing while she had me trapped. She’s younger than me. And smaller too. Well apart from her legs. Her legs are thicker than mine hence why she is good at squeezing.

[laraWM]

Yes and probably more flexible

[Asker]

Oh absolutely. She used to be a gymnast. I told her I don’t want to wrestle anymore but she said that I don’t have a choice. If I didn’t wrestle her, she said she will just put me in those “choke holds” with her legs when I’m not expecting it

[laraWM]

I guess she was joking 😂

[Asker]

I guess we will see. But I don’t think she is. She really enjoys choking me with her thighs. She says it gives her power over me

[laraWM]

I understand how she feels, but it is only fair if you both agree

[Asker]

When u mean u understand how she feels. You have done similar before? And I don’t agree. I said no. She best keep those “pythons” away from me ffs

[laraWM]

No, I mean I can imagine that she must feel powerful 😂
I do judo and it is always great when make someone fall thanks to a great move

[Asker]

Oh I see. I don’t know why girls like using their legs to fight like that

[laraWM]

Maybe she can find someone else to spar with

[Asker]

Maybe. But I honestly think she only does this to piss me off. She must get a kick out of coiling her thighs round me so it causes me pain. Hate her so much

[laraWM]

That's mean

[Asker]

What is mean

[laraWM]

If she does it to cause pain only

[Asker]

Oh. Yes it is. How old are you by the way. She is 19. Are u similar age to her

[laraWM]

No I'm 28

[Asker]

I’m 25. I hate having someone 6 years younger that can render me helpless just with her legs.

[laraWM]

Not fair if you don't agree

[Asker]

Yeh but even if I didn’t agree, I should not be losing like that to my little sis. I’m scared she’s gonna keep doing it now and I won’t be able to defend myself

[laraWM]

You could go to a self defense class? 🙂

[Asker]

Yeh could do. Imagine they ask: why are u here today?
Me: I’m here cos I’m scared of my sisters legs crushing me and need to defend myself against them

Lmao.

[laraWM]

I mean everyone has right to defence

[Asker]

True. I just don’t know why her legs are so strong. Im starting to think all girls naturally have a one up on guys with leg strength lol.

[laraWM]

I don't know, we're more flexible which allows more moves but I'm not sure we're stronger

[Asker]

Yeh she is flexible and fast too. So it’s pretty much impossible to stop her from coiling her thighs round me. Damn

[laraWM]

Yes you should work on it

[SeriouslyFunny00]

It's not that humiliating. She's your sister, maybe you could just shrug it off and let her win this time. 😉

[Asker]

The thing is, I don’t let her win. She actually makes me tap out. As a guy who is older than her and being in the same family, I feel bad I can’t win. It’s her legs. They have gotten so much stronger since we wrestled years ago

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Oh, she's amazing. I bet she was training these past few years haha. Are you a family of wrestlers?

[Asker]

It’s not amazing when she is squeezing my ribs thinking she’s an anaconda lmao. She actually said that once to me ffs. But we both go gym tbh. We aren’t a family of wrestlers. We just used to play fight when we were kids (I’d usually win) but started again recently. But this time she would win.

[Asker]

We wrestled again just now and I lost again ffs

[lightbulb27]

young girls can be really strong, don't under estimate them. You try carryng around a 20lb baby in your arms all day... Appreciate she has strength and finess and skills. maybe wrestling isn't your thing and it is hers!

go workout, try arm wrestling and thumb wrestling instead. Pray to God for wisdom.

Also be careful if you play paintball with them, suckers are tricky. I was in good position to bring my team to the win the game and got aggressive. this girl "sniped" me in the face. really made me mad... they are cunning, don't under estimate them.

[Asker]

True. The thing is used to beat her in wrestling when were kids. But now it’s like it’s reversed and she wins now. Curse her strong lower body lol

[lightbulb27]

get your weight down lower and drive with the hips. core strength! :) get mean... mad dog mean:)))

[Asker]

Are u still talking about wreslting. I don’t understand what u mean?

[lightbulb27]

yes, lower center of gravity, take her legs out.

[SnowedIn]

This is only humiliating if you allow it to be. That is a choice. You overcome it by doing what every athlete does: get better. She beat you for whatever reason (stronger, faster, better, doesn't matter). So, get stronger. Get faster. Get some wrestling coaching. But give up on the self pity and humiliation. You own that. There are 8 billion people on the planet -- most of them will be better than you at something. That fast that this person was your sister, a woman, or beat you at wrestling really isn't relevant.

Think of this not as humiliation but as a challenge to better yourself.

[Asker]

That’s very helpful. I think I needed this kind of pep talk. Deep down I know I need to do better and get stronger. She won’t win next time.

[SnowedIn]

That's the spirit! :) Go you!

Hey -- do you want to make a friend for life? Tell your sister how awesome she is for beating you. No patronizing bs about her being a girl, just tell her that you're impressed with her skills. All the adore your big brother stuff will expand about 6 times.

[Asker]

Ok i will do that. Maybe next time we wrestle she won’t make me tap out again. Lol

[TheorionMage]

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[Guy13]

Younger sister at home? You must be barely 25.

[Asker]

Yes. I’m 25

[UniquelyBasic]

Just cope enough to think you let her win 😉

[Asker]

That’s a good idea tbf. But deep down I will know she can beat me. It’s the way she beat me too. Lol

[UniquelyBasic]

Just remember she didn't win, you just lost 😅

[Asker]

Nah she did win. She put me in a submission hold I couldn’t get out of. She won and she knows it

[linka_pat307]

Find something you win her in

[Asker]

There are many things that I am better in. I wouldn’t care if she was cleverer than me or better at some other skill. But to lose against her in a grappling match is so embarrassing. Surley most big brothers out there can beat their sisters in this situation.

[linka_pat307]

Not all as you didn't

[Asker]

U got me there. But I think I’m an anomaly, no? She’s lighter and smaller than me too. She just has stronger legs

[linka_pat307]

Then do some exercise to make urs strongest 😉

[Asker]

She doesn’t even go gym often. I go frequently. This is what puzzles me.

[Iron_Man]

Go to the weightlifting gym

[Asker]

Yes that’s an option but my sister doesn’t really go to the gym and she is physically smaller than me too so unsure how she made me tap like that

[Iron_Man]

Go to the gym make up for it

[Asker]

I’m gonna. But her legs are strong af. Once she catches me with them, it’s game over

[Iron_Man]

Over come it train hard at the gym

[LimitedBenefits101]

You have officially lost your manhood.

[Asker]

That’s what I feel like. But some others replying here have said I shouldn’t feel embarrassed