How do I nicely tell him he needs to be more proactive?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has had some issues with the university and getting paper worked filed so 2 weeks before classes start he's not registered for classes and as a result has no housing. He's been "trying to sort it out" for going on 2 months now. And I just want to yell at him to stop dealing with the clueless students working the phones and find ways to contact the full time staff that can actually do things about it! But I don't think yelling at him will help. I'm frustrated so if anyone could point me in a good direction as to how to handle this it would be much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

why would you yell? that's just stupid and irrational. just talk to him, that's what normal people do. you just sit down, say you'd like to talk to him for a sec, then TELL him what you think he should do. if you think yelling gets you what you want, there's probably something that he'd like to talk to you about too...

[Asker]

I'm aware yelling at him isn't the answer. I made that point in my post and I've already talked to him about it which is why I am irritated enough to consider yelling at him. Its not that he doesn't know what he needs to do. Its that he isn't acting on it.

[suki248]

I thought you asked, "How do I nicely tell him he needs more proactive?"

I kinda wish that was the question, because it'd be much easier to answer. But perhaps you should ask if he wants your help? If it were the other way around, I wouldn't mind for my boyfriend to completely do it for me... >_>

[Asker]

I know he doesn't want me to do it for him. And I know he wants to do it by himself. But his current inability to resolve the issue is becoming... problematic. Is it unreasonable of me to want him to sit down and get things taken care of?