Why do career women have such hate for stay at home wives/mothers?

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HappyWoman34 · Accepted Answer

I guess I’m a career woman, as I’ve never had the luxury of being married with kids and I don’t want to live off my parents forever. Also, I enjoy my job, as a carer. My job as a carer is almost as important as yours is as a mother. Except you get less acknowledgement for yours, which is unfair. Bringing up the next generation who’ll run the world is the most important job there is. I know this. I think most women know this, at least deep down. But I don’t think people who choose marriage and babies are wrong and I don’t think career women should have to apologise for refusing to become breeding machines, as they’d see it. Not everyone’s the same in their values and beliefs.

Jendcheuebc · Accepted Answer

I’m a career women and I don’t hate women who choose to stay home. I just stay in my lane and create my own path. Sadly, a lot of career women I have known are apathetic to anyone who makes less than them or chooses to not work, not just exclusive only to other women. Men too.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

The ones that do usually are in their 30s or 40s and don't have a mate at all, or don't have a good quality mate and don't have kids. They are angry that they fell for the lies of feminism and often have a promiscuous past because they were told it is "empowering" to women to sleep around and to prioritize making money over finding a good life partner. Basically they get jealous of happy people that made life decisions that they now wish they had made themselves.

Not all of them hate housewives, but the ones that do usually are pretty loud about hating and insulting them.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Women are quite competitive with each other. More than men are. Research is pretty consistent that another woman having something they would like makes women feel bad.

Jealousy can be experienced as a temporary emotion. So I would think a woman could quite jealous of another woman having a family and the luxury of looking after them full time. She might want her full time career more but that doesn't mean she doesn't feel envious in a part of her mind.

So that gets expressed as hating and denigrating the stay at home wife or girlfriend.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Women are extremely competitive, and career women even more so. So basically, you have a situation where the ultra competitive career women are having to come to terms with the fact that they made a decision that required a ton of work and puts them at a disadvantage when it comes to attracting a mate.

The career women are resentful.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not sure I’m not a career woman.
Yet…
I want to be.

I don’t think they hate them. I think they hate how much the housewife wants to rub in everyone’s face how the housewife life is the best and act’s as if though it’s rainbows and butterflies.

When everyone knows that’s far from the truth. Not reality. As a housewife you are not making any money of your own. This means that a shitty husband could cheat on you or do anything against you, and you have nowhere to run. Specially if you don’t have family in that location.

This happened to my mother. She was the sweet, angelic housewife. Always quiet, kept her mouth shut. Dad owned the house/ car and everything else.
When the relationship was going to hell. My sister and I would beg her to divorce. And she’d always say she has nowhere to go because we’re not from here.

So that’s just a little taste of the TRADWIFE, HOUSEWIFE situation. Or what it could potentially be. You as woman should always have some investments or saving of high amounts saved somewhere just for you. Don’t tell anyone of that money. But keep it as backup.

If you choose to be a TRADWIFE HOUSEWIFE, fine. It’s true women should be housewife. We are indeed that ones that become disabled when pregnant and after giving birth. And we become full-time mothers for the rest of our life.
WE SHOULD NATURALLY BE HOUSEWIFES.
In all of nature the female becomes the housewife disabled parent.

SO YES!! NATURAL AND BIOLOGICALLY SPEAKING, YOU SHOULD BE A HOUSEWIFE AS A FEMALE 🫵

However, like I previously said. Since our species is plagued by abusive controlling demonic males.
You as a female that gives birth. Needs to watch out and look out for these demon-possessed creatures. 🫵 find red flags 🚩. And that’s if you can find all of them.

Because AGAIN. As a housewife you risk not owning anything. You risk being at the mercy and will of an abusive man. And that can be any form of abuse; verbal, physical, even sexual. 👀
So you really need to be careful. My mother experienced the verbal type.

So no. The career women don’t HATE the tradwife. They hate how much they paint it as the best thing in the world. 🤡

oceanAndSeas · Answer

Its really messed up. why do wives stay at home? They make it their choice to nurture a house, invest on family and care for the children. They prioritise mutual interest over individual interest. For its sake, they sacrifice many times and also reap its benefits in time. On the other hand, career women focus more on establishing themselves as individuals. Because the modern education taught them to be on their own and care for their own personal interests only no matter what. It brings some benefits as well e. g. wealth, career, opportunities etc but also its disadvantages e. g Not having a true companion in entire life, fake or interest based friends etc. Women are more emotional. So it takes a heavy toll on them. When such women see housewives having a different way of life, unconscious jealousy springs to life and they start hating

Messianic_Monk · Answer

Probably because the stay-at-home mom has what she doesn't and is happier.

Most women (whether they like it or not) want a husband and kids. Having a career really doesn't attract a man (except a stay at home dad... but few people find this kind of dad attractive).

If I was told to chase after something because it was supposed to make me happy... only to find out it didn't and I threw away many good chances to find happiness because those chances were "sexist"... I'd probably be pretty bitter too.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Some women bought the “you can have it all” nonsense and invested a great deal of time, energy and money into chasing that dream. Some of them actually found satisfaction! Others found out why so many men who “have it all” are still completely miserable. And they’re pissed about being duped. The ones who can’t admit that they made their own choices, albeit on bad information, have to blame someone else. For the most part, that comes down on the “patriarchy”, but the rest falls on women who didn’t accept the same propaganda and make the same piss poor choices.
That’s too many words to say “jealousy”, i suppose. What can i say? “Mansplaining” is a passion of mine. Hahahaha!
For me, personally, the REAL modern feminists are the ones who choose traditional lifestyles against all odds. I’m okay with being in the minority with that belief.

Datboi65 · Answer

Jealousy/envy. They want what you have and they can't get it, so they hate on you for their own failure.

They want to project their own insecurities at the women who show them what they're missing, rather than actually asking them for advice because they want to be in the right. They have this worldview that they are right and everyone else is wrong and since they are miserable, they want other women to be miserable too.

catiecatie · Answer

I wouldn’t say I have hate for them. If they have kids and their man wants them to stay home and he has a good job then I don’t have an issue with it. The guy I typically work with his wife is a stay at home mom with three kids. One of them is in school and the youngest I believe is 2. I have asked him if she was going to get a job after the youngest is in school and he said yes she will be a teachers aide. My old high school science teacher was a stay at home mom as well but again once her youngest started playing sports she decided she wanted to go back to work. So no hate on them at all, they help with the kids and house. I personally couldn’t do it but props to the people that can!

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

I wouldn't say hate as much as jealousy. It isn't right but it's understandable to a degree. On the outside looking it they appear to have it great. I know when I get home from work the last thing I want to do is cook and clean yet there I am. I feel like life would be easier and more enjoyable to do one or the other

Justneedtokno · Answer

I don’t think they do. I just don’t think they want to be at home all day. They want to do some thing more. I have learned over time that being a housewife can be taxing if you have multiple children and no assistance, but I could never totally just be at home.

worldscolide · Answer

I would chalk it up to jealousy. No kidding, the happiest women on the planet statistically are mother's who take care of their children. So they have to find someone to take their unhappiness out on.. That someone would be stay at home mom's.. It's the same with feminists.. It's one of many reasons the vast majority of women aren't feminists.

AdithyaR · Answer

Generally the ones who do that are ones who have grown accustomed to hyper-independence and begin to feel that doing things like that for a spouse is bad and showing weakness.
You see the same behaviour in the so called sigma dude who will accuse you of being simp just because you do something nice for your partner.

HaveNoName · Answer

I can think of ONE reason. I think some working women do it because they have no choice. Either they are in a low income family; or her significant other does not work/earn at all: or they are single moms. And they are jealous of the women who do not have to work and still have a comfortable life.

SnowedIn · Answer

Thanks for the invitation to answer! I don't have all the answers or even many. One answer (among many) is that some (not all and not even a majority but some) of the career women wanted to be mothers and/or stay at home wives. As such, there's resentment and hate.

Darklydarkened · Answer

They don't, like I as a man, dislike boring people, and stay at home moms really are in that definition

Imagine someone who gets education, includes herself into industry, workforce etc

And another one who's just depending upon a man, doing absolutely nothing other than taking care of the man's house and offspring

Besides, housewives aren't necessarily good cooks

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Internalized misogyny. They have to be different from the stereotypical women to be a better woman because if they're a better woman they're a better person and therefore more liked.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It sometimes comes down to plain ole jealousy. But both the career woman and stay at hope mom are important to the economy and raising the next batch of hellions.😜

kellytheman · Answer

I think most women think that it's too old fashioned or traditional and think a guy might be holding her back for not having a career. They also might think they need a man to be the bread winner and be taken care of them and makes them not independent which is not true. Honestly I think being a wife and a mother is a career they don't get paid for.

Berethor · Answer

Feminists hate anyone who disagree with them, they might be secretly jealous at tradwifes.

Anonymous · Answer

I work and full time mom and cook and clean and pay my bills., I do this without child support or help. I do 100%

I don’t understand why a house wife doesn’t work while she has help from her man.

I do it all solo. While she pulls 47%
Each person should pull 100%

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't, I admire them, but it is just not for me.

Orion76 · Answer

I wasn’t aware they do, I don’t see why if they chose that path but maybe they consider them weak and just followers to their husbands which by the way I don’t see them that way personally it’s a choice.

KatherineJ · Answer

I’ve been both a career woman, and a SAHM. No shade to anyone else for the choices that they make.

exitseven · Answer

They are jealous, especially the ones that really hate their jobs

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Jealousy, most men prefer housewives and that makes career women pissed.

ohsheeT · Answer

I've never heard of this before I don't think I know one female that's stays home and or works hates anyone because they do what they do

Exterminatore · Answer

Because they’re too busy trying to be men and think homemakers should do likewise.

TotallyAlmost · Answer

Some women just hate women in general. But it's just part of a larger cultural rot that is the war on gender.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Because they're not attractive enough to get a beta male to keep them.

Apple1996 · Answer

It's not really hate more that they are just jealous

Iron_Man · Answer

They have a different view and they’re all about themselves very different

midnightmoon05 · Answer

They do? I’m not aware.  career women are too busy to worry about what others think.

Anonymous · Answer

Pirates are sailors, just with an extra bad reputation for being backstabbing and riddled with stds.

MiamiMadness · Answer

Same reason pirates dont like sailors

Count_de_Monte_Volo · Answer

Insecurity. The serious ones aren’t complaining. They’re carrying on.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I never knew they had such hate, but I reckon because they are different. Human beings tend to hate them weirdos.

Anonymous · Answer

Stay at home mom for 8 years!! What’s the deal with this!!

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Because they see becoming a mom and staying at home as faliure.

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

My mom, a stay at home, worker, doesn't hate any women. She hates people like Trump, and so do I and so does my dad

BJP21 · Answer

Its a matter of perspective. A stay at home mom/wife can be a job in of itself.

Jltakk · Answer

I'll never get the hate for the stay at home mom. My mother was a damn good one and one of the strongest people I knew.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

All over jealously is the reason.

robocop666 · Answer

I don't know. This is more convenient for raising a family.

tallblondejohm · Answer

Because there out busting there ass all day while stay home moms are making money on only fans

AmeerX · Answer

I think it is just jealousy

katiesmuff · Answer

I wasn't aware that we did!

Summeroflove · Answer

They’re judgmental. Most career women don’t.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

You'd have to ask them that

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Because misery love company

Christoff92 · Answer

I don't know really 🤔

Anonymous · Answer

Where those memes supposed to be funny?

Jennz6 · Answer

Not me

Preeti161101 · Answer

No hate

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