Why do working mothers get hated on so much?

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ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

They don’t in the UK, the reality is that both need to work.

It does seem to be on here a lot of guys (invariably single and not dating) are vocal about women working.

How much that is in real life in other countries I don’t know.

I honestly don’t know why there is any hate towards it, there is only positive stuff.

example.

guy earns $90k a year sole income, everything revolves around him keeping his job and surviving off his sole income.

that limits overall family spend after mortgage and bills etc paid, it means house is limited to what $90k buys you in say Los Angles etc.

couple 2, both work he’s still on $90k but now she’s (or he) is working and is on $60k.

that’s now a $60k spot of cash that could go towards a better house, pay of mortgage early, go towards college fund or be there as a safety net for the other losing their job.

also their kid (s) have more options for decent clothes, iPads, holidays etc.

for me it’s a totally alien concept not to have both working, on top of that everyone has dreams, we go to school, college, Uni, look at careers and want to push forward. When you have someone deliberately stopping another from achieving things they become a very toxic person with very limited view of reality.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

I don't think it is "working mothers" that are disliked. It is more of single mothers. The reason why is often because they often prevented the father from seeing/having custody of his kid so she could get money/child support and would rather the child be in daycare instead of with its own father.
Plenty of mothers work and are still in a relationship and things are totally fine. It is single parents (that are often single parents because of their own bad decisions) that people lose respect for.

The majority of couples that have kids actually could manage to have only one parent working, but people are too greedy, want an excessive size of house, want expensive vehicles to try to impress strangers with, etc. If more people would live within a more normal standard many couples could have happier lives and much more time together as a family.

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

It seems like in the West most mothers are working mothers. People are of the view that it is cruel to put such small children in day care and most women don’t want to but they have to because people need to pay their bills. Most women would want to spend that time with their young children and miss them a lot while they’re away from them.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Didn't know they did, my work even has a mothers room for mothers to go use a breast pump, I only get a little jealous that they get paid time off to go do that, but I understand that its not for those who don't need it.

ZackBan · Answer

Nah at this point you're just making up controversial headlines to get as many confused comments as possible.
I can't name a single case where a single mother was "hated on" for working. In fact how else is she supposed to provide for a kid if she's single?
Can you please give a real life example of something that happened to you to someone you know? Something concrete not some general biased statement

Wgatap999 · Answer

I've never actually even heard of this before I think a woman that works is awesome I would prefer to meet a woman and have a relationship with a woman that works where you're both working and you're both contributing to the relationship and the bills and the happiness and so forth I think it's awesome continue to do what you're doing

Leonharted · Answer

I don't hate working mothers. One of my best friends is a stay at home dad who home schools his children while the mother works.  So long as one parent is there to raise the children, I'm happy.

Avicenna · Answer

I don't see any evidence of that (but people may be critical of them for other, unrelated reasons, such as being a bad parent or having a kids by multiple men). People understand that you need to support your family and that few families can afford to have a stay-at-home parent.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Conservative morons are the ones who have a problem with it.

Moreover, women have always worked in society even in the ancient times sowing clothing, maid-servants, nannies, selling food in the marketplace etc.

When a woman works long and extensive hours is where a problem can occur because that will mean she's neglecting her family at home.

Both Dad's and mom's need to find a healthy balance between work and family time.

TheFlak38 · Answer

because they don't really work. All they do is flash their boobs to their male coworkers, use them as emotional tampons, go for a coffee and cigarette break every 15 min and then complain about the wage gap and sexist air conditioning. I have worked in a 90% female environment and have had enough of the "working mother" and the "dynamic independent feminist who doesn't need a man". Bunch of hypocritical bitches.

jasco · Answer

I mean I love working nightshift so as long as my wife/ mother of my kids is working a shift that can at least have one parent at all times watching the kids, thats fine with me. I just don't want to hire a baby sitter. Extra income is always needed but my girlfriend wants to be a stay at home mom so honestly that would only happen incase we really needed it

Surely · Answer

Not sure why. In today's world, most families need two incomes to live respectfully. So if there are two adults in the household, both might need to work.
The other thought is, some younger people think that older and retired people keep the younger ones from getting a good job and are somehow jealous of them. Even though many employers say that they have trouble finding younger workers. So maybe those people think that mothers should be home raising their babies and giving them their jobs!

Quigly · Answer

Working mothers didn't get us anywhere. The only thing that has happened from this is that Real Estate now bases the price of a home on two incomes instead of one. It was an ignorant maneuver. We don't live in a capitalist economy, there is no competition keeping the prices low.

So now the child gets raised by a total stranger cause mom is a selfish materialist.

And other mothers now have fewer choices to stay home and raise their kids.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It is pretty commonplace where I live. It is hard in today's world for a household to make it without two incomes. So when it does happen, I don't know why working moms would be frowned upon. It ain't right!

HellGeist · Answer

I think it's single mom's who get hated on more because they create dysfunctional kids who are more prone to crime and issues. Plus they are infamously bad for serious dating according to some guys.

wankiam · Answer

didn't know they did... here in the uk women are encouraged to go back to work as soon as possible else risk being accused of laziness.. not that i agree with that either

LelouchVBritania · Answer

I completely understand. You're right. I realized what an asshole I’ve been chopping the firewood for years, chainsawing the logs etc. I finally apologized to my wife for my diversity failings as a man as passed her an axe. It was hard to tell but I think she loves me so much more now that she knows how inclusive I am. That said, it’s very cold as we have no wood.

t-8900 · Answer

almost no household can survive on one income. Its nice to have parents around more for the child. But it's also nice when a child is not going hungry.

desidoll · Answer

Because misogynists believe that when a woman is capable to earn on their own, they will end up as a feminist.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't know where in the US you are, but I know several couples where both parents work. The working mother is not frowned upon.

Rafanrog · Answer

Because they obviously can't keep a man.. and now they're turning their kids grow ng impressionable years over to some stranger in day care to raise.

Andres77 · Answer

Must be a regional thing. I never saw that growing up in Minnesota, nor in Texas, nor in NC. There just must be a lot of buttheads where you live. Sorry, kid.

Wiredone · Answer

There are a lot of mothers who work. I don't think it's by choice. With the economy the way it is most families need the second Income. If people do hate on working mothers they don't understand what it takes to raise a family.

Cubus · Answer

Don't know where you live, but in my country working mothers are actually praised.

Jouth · Answer

I'm not sure. Who is hating on Moms? Their neglected children maybe? I feel like most working Moms would find a healthy place for their kids to be while they're at work.

I'm not convinced that many people are hating on Moms.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

I have no idea. I have nothing but respect for working mothers and don't know how they do it.

MzAsh · Answer

Tradcons and misogynists alike want women “in their place” at home doing their bidding.

exitseven · Answer

Who hates working mothers? I think today they are in the majority and in a lot of cases it is not by choice

WowwGirl · Answer

Conservatives think the man should provide for everyone. Many don't believe in anyone outside the family watching their kids.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I also dont understand. I saw some or many guys/girls on gag who kinda have something against working mums

AydenHazor · Answer

Because of the patriarchal bs that men are supposed to be the providers and protectors and that women are supposed to be the caretakers of the home.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

No idea. Specially if they are single mothers they get a lot of hate when they should have praise. They are doing the parenting and providing job alone.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I guess it depends on the company you keep. I don't know anyone who talks shit on working moms.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

It’s the narrative being driven by the media for quite some time now. You repeat it enough and some people will start believing it.

ImRetarded · Answer

First time hearing about this controversy. Explain.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Because she is not at home making the sandwiches and ironing the shirts.

InferiorElegy · Answer

Since when? Is it by other females cause I can tell you guys don't give a shit if moms work or not.

whosnumber1 · Answer

do they? I can think of one example. I helped a young single mom out quite a bit financially and with baby supplies until she got back on her feet.

Neilbud · Answer

I honestly don't think I've ever seen working mother's get hated on. If they do it's for other reason not being a working mother.

MrPlentiful · Answer

They're not mothers. Might as well adopt their kid out to a family who actually cares

OddBeMe · Answer

Yeah…I’d say perhaps there’s some squabble when working parents take off more from work, leaving single people to do their jobs for them.

jahaims · Answer

Because the nuclear family is imprinted into society

Shy_Steve · Answer

Because some look like they are neglecting their Family.

jjj101010 · Answer

I’ve never heard of this happening. It doesn’t happen here

TheAfrikan · Answer

Some men hate seeing a working woman since they think they will be competing against each other.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Get hated on by who? This is completely made up

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

Because the world is full of idiots.

888theGreat · Answer

because they put career ahead of their kids

anylolone · Answer

They get catered for, not hated.

Wise4myage · Answer

I've never heard that.

Chthou95 · Answer

Oh lord are you playing the victim?

Rob17792 · Answer

a lot of them don't although none should

Smartman5 · Answer

I don't hate working moms. who said that?

Michal11221 · Answer

Break up now or fake it for a bit?

HawkPerception · Answer

In what world?

sattii2607 · Answer

I don't, in fact my wife is one as well.

NathanDavis · Answer

not in Mexico

goldfleur · Answer

They do?

boobliker · Answer

what is hated?

LegendaryIcon · Answer

why do you think

ForestPark · Answer

They don't.

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