Why would a girl say yes I can kiss her and kiss me back multiple times then later claim I made her uncomfortable?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I did ask her first multiple times but I feel terrible

[Juneberry91]

There are people out there that are conflict avoidant. These people have an anxious perspective on what confrontation is due to naturally being a passive temperament or past trama. This has nothing to do with you but it’s something they have to work out themselves.

I have observed these behaviors in family, friends & relationships. They have the mentality of not wanting to hurt you or stir the pot. But what they don’t understand is that’s exactly what they are doing they are hurting, confusing & keeping all parties in the dark including them selves. This is a perfect breeding ground for Resentment because honesty is key to understanding, without understanding anger, confusion & disconnect Occurs.

There are people that say yes when they want to truthly say no & get mad at you but fail to understand thier own behavior. There are people that deflect saying their cool when they are furious with you.

The good thing is with your assertive personality you notice there was discomfort when the person failed to Represent themselves you did a good thing by checking in. Give them the Opportunity to speak up. The rest is out of your control for how somone else behaves but trust you will do what’s right now knowing she is not handling this transparency & avoidance.

if you remain friends keep this in mind, set boundaries for yourself & boundaries with her.

when i did with people of this nature i do cal them out for not speaking up for themselves & there is nothing wrong with being honest it hurts less then the constant Pleasant lies out of fear. If this spins out of proportion leave it’s not good for a friendship if they grow & work on it themselves keep the friendship.

If you value communication Surround yourself with people that make their best efforts to communicate.

[Guy13]

That was immature of her as she could have kept that statement out of the public sector. The truth is she probably liked and then felt some guilt over it.
I suppose it depends on her tendencies towards conservative or not.

I bet it’s not over yet….

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I am just gonna stay as her friend and leave it alone with her

[Guy13]

Smart woman... let it kind of do its own thing but not divide you two. It will clear up in month or so.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

True It’s not a big deal

[Guy13]

Good luck with it over the weekend etc... Have a peaceful weekend.

[TonyV]

Cause you rushed it, she wanted to but not that soon and I'm sure she felt if she said no then the chance would be gone, so I'd say as much as she didn't really want to do it then, she didn't want it to never happen more.

[boggboss]

Lol are we really pretending that people don't change their mind after the fact on how a situation went down

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

If I kiss someone and given them consent at the time yeah later on I may regret it but I wouldn’t say they made me uncomfortable

[boggboss]

Good for u but many do say it later

[boggboss]

Unfortunately

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I mean anyone that felt very uncomfortable and violated by me wouldn’t be my friend anymore right? So I guess maybe she felt uncomfortable because I am another female, she dates men mostly and it was in front of her friends

[boggboss]

Possibly yeah especially since she told someone else she was uncomfortable but to you stated it wasn't a issue as its in the past

[Marked_Man]

She liked it but has to pretend she didn't.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I’m not sure about that but I’m sure I am just going to keep her at a distance

[TheSpaceGnome]

Why do you type x/z at the end of sentences?

[Anonymous]

Fk8n attention seeker and a Ho!
Would you stop telling us about your pathetic stories everyday.
GET A LIFE! A REAL ONE!

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Why you so mad

[Guardian45]

It sounds to me, like your friend is bi-curious, and hasn't made up her mind how she feels about it.

[wannabecuck-2]

Girls are flakey yes they could

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause she's bi-curious and can't except it

[Summeroflove]

That’s weird