There are people out there that are conflict avoidant. These people have an anxious perspective on what confrontation is due to naturally being a passive temperament or past trama. This has nothing to do with you but it’s something they have to work out themselves.
I have observed these behaviors in family, friends & relationships. They have the mentality of not wanting to hurt you or stir the pot. But what they don’t understand is that’s exactly what they are doing they are hurting, confusing & keeping all parties in the dark including them selves. This is a perfect breeding ground for Resentment because honesty is key to understanding, without understanding anger, confusion & disconnect Occurs.
There are people that say yes when they want to truthly say no & get mad at you but fail to understand thier own behavior. There are people that deflect saying their cool when they are furious with you.
The good thing is with your assertive personality you notice there was discomfort when the person failed to Represent themselves you did a good thing by checking in. Give them the Opportunity to speak up. The rest is out of your control for how somone else behaves but trust you will do what’s right now knowing she is not handling this transparency & avoidance.
if you remain friends keep this in mind, set boundaries for yourself & boundaries with her.
when i did with people of this nature i do cal them out for not speaking up for themselves & there is nothing wrong with being honest it hurts less then the constant Pleasant lies out of fear. If this spins out of proportion leave it’s not good for a friendship if they grow & work on it themselves keep the friendship.
If you value communication Surround yourself with people that make their best efforts to communicate.
That was immature of her as she could have kept that statement out of the public sector. The truth is she probably liked and then felt some guilt over it. I suppose it depends on her tendencies towards conservative or not.
Cause you rushed it, she wanted to but not that soon and I'm sure she felt if she said no then the chance would be gone, so I'd say as much as she didn't really want to do it then, she didn't want it to never happen more.
I mean anyone that felt very uncomfortable and violated by me wouldn’t be my friend anymore right? So I guess maybe she felt uncomfortable because I am another female, she dates men mostly and it was in front of her friends
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