I’ve exhanged texts with a guy daily for almost 3 weeks. He hasn’t asked me out yet, why?

[Anonymous]

He has only hinted playfully at us meeting

[Anonymous]

It's possible that the guy you've been texting with may be interested in getting to know you better, but may be hesitant to ask you out for a variety of reasons. Here are a few things you could consider:

1. He may be shy or inexperienced: It's possible that the guy you've been texting with may be unsure about how to ask you out or may be nervous about the idea of meeting in person. If you're interested in meeting him, you could try to make it easier for him by suggesting a specific date or activity.

2. He may not be ready for a relationship: It's possible that the guy you've been texting with may not be looking for a serious relationship or may be hesitant to commit to anything right now. If you're looking for something more serious, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your goals and expectations.

3. He may be busy or have other priorities: It's possible that the guy you've been texting with may simply be busy with work, school, or other obligations. If you're interested in meeting him, you could try to find a time that works for both of you and suggest a specific date or activity.

Ultimately, the best way to find out if he's interested in meeting in person is to ask him directly. Try to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational way, and simply express your interest in meeting him and see how he responds. Remember to prioritize your own well-being and to make decisions that are in your best interests.

If you're interested in meeting the guy you've been texting with and want to know if he feels the same way, here are a few things you could consider saying:

- "Hey, I've really enjoyed our conversations over the past few weeks and was wondering if you'd be interested in meeting up in person sometime soon?"

- "I've been thinking about getting together in person and was wondering if you'd be up for grabbing coffee or going for a walk together?"

- "I'm really looking forward to meeting you in person and was wondering if we could set a date for sometime this week or next?"

Remember to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational way and be open to his response. If he's interested in meeting, try to work together to find a time and activity that works for both of you. If he's not interested, try not to take it personally and remember that there are plenty of other people out there who may be a better match for you.

[Asker]

He hinted again us hanging out. I told him that I used to play basketball. Then he said. “ maybe we should one day play basketball one on one and see who will win”
But that’s playfully said and J don’t know if he really means that. Also I want to meet him for coffee/ dinner and not like that lol

[YourAverageAnonMan]

Many nice guys are shy who feel like they don't want to be dominant or fear being rejected. They may also simply feel like they aren't ready to go out on a date either because they are too busy with other things or they fear a date might fail and lead to further romantic connection.

I would advise if you keep in contact with a guy and don't get asked out within a week, you should try to ask him out. You could also be playfully arrogant and ask him why he hasn't asked you out yet, since it could help boost his self-esteem. :)

[YourAverageAnonMan]

EDIT: I missed a word in a sentence "and NOT lead to further romantic connection" just to clarify. xD

[Asker]

I just have a bad experience with a guy who was just texting with me for months and had excuses why we couldn’t meet sooner. I don’t want that to happen to me again

[YourAverageAnonMan]

I'm sorry to hear that, if the person acts too busy you should simply try to move on or try to find someone else in the meanwhile. It is not wrong to date several guys if you already have messaged them but not made a real connection yet.

[Asker]

What should I ask this guy that I’ve chatted with for 3 weeks? He asks me questiond and seems to want to know about me. He also has carried our conversation…

[YourAverageAnonMan]

Try to be more direct, text him that goes something like: ”How come you haven’t you asked me out yet? 😊”

[YourAverageAnonMan]

Or ”Be a man and ask me out already 😊”.

[Asker]

by the way he asks me questions and seems to want to know about me?

[YourAverageAnonMan]

And that’s a good sign he might be into you. So if he’s got questions about you try tease him about answering them if he invites you for a date.

[Asker]

Is this good thing to say to a guy ” I don’t like texting that much. I was wondering if you like to meet at some point?”

[YourAverageAnonMan]

It doesn’t sound very enthusiastic in my opinion as a guy. You should at least try to include a smile emoji and be more jokeful about your asking him out as it will signal that you might be someone who’s excited to meet up with you. Remember that a good date comes with humor.

[surprisedjo]

He is just not that into you. First mistake was texting him daily. I’d recommend completely cutting off the texts with him until he responds with, ‘I’m not sure if you’re busy but I was hoping we could do…’.. ( something like that) Otherwise you’re just entertaining a guy who will not ask you out.

[Asker]

He’s hinted twice at hanging out

[CloudNemo]

You're right he could be afraid of rejection. I myself don't even try to attempt stuffs like that. But I'll say if he takes longer than u expect, you should make a move first.

[Asker]

Do you think he’s interested or just bored?

[CloudNemo]

It depends on your relationship with him, either its close or distant. Guys mostly get bored if they feel you're loosing interest. I'll advice you show more interest in things like conversation and emotions 😉.

[Asker]

I have asked him questions, how should I show him interest without looking desperate?

[Asker]

And what kind of emotions do you mean?

[CloudNemo]

Lol thats the tricky part, lets start this way. Ask him if he wants to go out maybe to have fun or something but ask in a friendly manner cus except he has the cash to pay he'll be the one doing the asking. If he says sure why not, u pick a date but on your outing just try to make sure he has the same fun as u do. He might not feel alright with it but trust me it will boost his interest and everything he is. Just don't break his heart when ur relationship gets stronger cus it will be really bad.

[Asker]

So of he wanted to take me out he would’ve asked me?

[CloudNemo]

Yes he would but the courage to do so at the moment isn't there. So you'd have to bring out the best in each other if u truly love eachother.

[Anonymous]

He don't care and bored.

[Asker]

Why do you think so? He could be afraid of rejection.

[Vick2828]

To be honest. Just ask him out

[Asker]

I’m just afraid of looking to eager or someone who doesn’t have options and thus has to make moves