How should I react/respond to this major miscommunication?

[Anonymous]

Last night I (35M) was sitting around my living room when my friend (27F) snapchats me at 930 PM.

It’s a snap of her recently wall mounted TV and it’s obviously messed up. She’s complaining about it in the caption.

I snap her back say I can fix it for a slice of pizza and a couple beers.

She immediately snaps me back and the caption reads “how about sex instead that would be cheaper." This really caught me off guard because we have never interacted like that before.

I asked her if I couple get it with pepperoni's and she says “of course”.

Kinda thought she was fucking with me at the time but woke up in the morning and all I could think about was what had been said. Looking for some confirmation, I snap her again at about 1030 the next morning, “is last nights offer still on the table?”

She sends back “yes 🐓”. I’m thinking ok this is great, totally unexpected, and kinda scary.

She calls me at 10 that night, we talk for a couple minutes and I ask her when is this happening. And she seems to have no idea what I'm talking about. According to her it turns out this is a joke I misunderstood last night. She also says she doesn’t even remember sending me the snap in the morning.

I now am feeling like a total ass, wondering if she was just toying with me, wondering if a pretty important relationship in my life is now altered. I'm honestly just kinda confused, upset, super embarrassed , and a little angry about how this all played out.

I honestly don't know how to respond to all this. Everything was so straight forward until it wasn't. One of things I was thinking about during the day was I wanted to be absolutely sure that this is what she wanted. How it all ended is what bothers me.

Obviously, it's her right change her mind whenever she wants but I would have much rather heard that than feeling like I'm being gaslighted because I misinterpreted a joke and she can't even recall affirming the answer to my question when I asked for clarification.

[JSmuve]

None of this is your fault. It's 100% hers. She randomly sprung this on you without any buildup. Anybody would be caught off guard and feel the way you do. I imagine she wasn't joking either. I mean, who jokes about this shit? What kind of moron does this and then blames the other person? She doesn't recall sending the messages? Does she have Alzheimer's? Of course she remembers. She's just denying it because she's probably embarrassed that you didn't jump on the offer right away. She probably thinks that all guys are ready to fuck any piece of snatch with a heartbeat with no consideration at the drop of a hat. And the fact that you're not one of those guys means in her mind that she's not attractive enough. It's just an ego thing. And the fact that it's a snap and doesn't save means she's got plausible deniability. She can test the waters and then deny it ever happened if it doesn't go her way. This broad really needs to learn how to flirt and escalate. Imagine a guy said that shit to a girl.

[Guy13]

Another case of not acting when the time had come. Obviously she was rejected and in the moment. She’s not going to have sex with some guy who isn’t sure if he thinks she is hot.

Not sure what you needed to be convinced in this once every 10 year offer…may never happen again in your lifetime 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

This only happens to you once every ten years for you, that’s kinda sad

[SueShe]

That is what happens when everything in life has to be associated with sex/pornography.

You should not even have taken up her offer for fornication and your fault is about just as big as hers for mentioning copulating. You should have reacted instantly on that offer of hers and rejected it. You could have mentioned something like

"Thanks for the offer but I am not that kind of person".

Instead you played her game and now you are in the middle of something where there is no dignified way out.

She does indeed remember what she said and you come across as an opportunist that is willing to do just about anything for sex.

You don't respond to that miscommunication and hope that the entire incident is forgotten as quickly as possible. However, you got yourself a reputation now...

[Anonymous]

Yeah she’s full of shit. She wrote that because that was what she wanted at the time and now she changed her mind, might even be embarrassed, so pretending to not remember but of course she remember.

[Adam1978]

Ignore it and put her reputation in the trash it belongs. You can't forget something that is clearly recalled by the app itself. If she value sex lower than a pizza. And just bought a large wall mounted TV. Even if she wanted sex, she shouldn't make it a part of the deal.

[Sixgunsound]

Screenshots, my friend, screenshots are the new era's best friend or worst enemy depending on which side of the argument you find yourself on. They last longer than snaps, and can be used to provide evidence. These days pics or it never happened apply to a lot more than hunting or fishing stories.

[Sleeper07]

You should understand that as a guy you need to make the moves. Should've said the time you were going to her place.

She ended up finding another guy. Find a new girl.

[Tstrbrainer]

Don't be just friends with a woman if you find her sexually attractive. You will end up feeling like this.

I suggest it's better for you to avoid her